Advanced search

Stopping drinking for a while

(202 Posts)
Patbutcherismyhero Sun 21-Jun-20 09:25:01

Throughout lockdown I've gradually started drinking more and more. I now usually only have one day off a week. Last night I drank way too much and was sick, slept terribly and today I just feel awful mentally and physically. I need to cut back. It's become far too much far too often.

I hate waking in the night with anxiety and having to check my phone to if I put any shit on social media. I don't usually get hangovers but I always feel tired and lacking in motivation. Alcohol has become such a big part of my life but I know it's not healthy and I really need to stop for a while. Anyone else?

OP’s posts: |
MinnieJackson Sun 21-Jun-20 10:07:40

I doubt you're alone @Patbutcherismyhero (I love your name btw!) I started drinking more at the start of lockdown aswell but I felt so unproductive and anxious it just wasn't worth it. I don't have social media but I remember I used to have the fear about checking the next day aswell. Start as you mean to go on. Obviously you know the health repercussions of excess drinking and you want to change. So you think you'll need professional help to cut down or stop drinking now or will you be ok on your own?

fluckityfluckfluck Sun 21-Jun-20 10:09:02

Me too. Me too. Not last night but in general. It's starting to really impact my life in a very negative way. I'm fat and anxious

AlexisCarringtonColbyDexter Sun 21-Jun-20 10:11:24

I havent drunk alcohol for 8 months. I'd normally drink a few glasses of wine 4 times a week ish.

Dont miss it at ALL. My skin is clear, looking at photos I can see my face looks streamlined now and I can see a well defined jaw line and cheekbones whereas before my face looked always slightly puffy. Ive lost about a stone without really trying. But the best thing is my anxiety levels have dropped significantly. I always thought wine was relaxing but it really really is not. I'd always feel hugely anxious after drinking the next day. Thats all gone now- I feel calm and able to cope with stress now.
Do it- you could sign up to one year no beer if you need support. I havent looked back.

Patbutcherismyhero Sun 21-Jun-20 10:45:36

I don't think i will need professional help, just a big load of willpower...! I'm not addicted to booze it's just become habitual to have a drink in the evening. More so in lockdown because there's nothing else to do. I enjoy it at the time but in the long term it's not doing me any favours.

I have definitely put on weight and I feel tired and anxious all the time. I think I will miss it to begin with but hopefully going forward I will feel the benefits.

OP’s posts: |
fluckityfluckfluck Sun 21-Jun-20 12:24:23

Happy to be support buddies if you like Pat? PM me if you want. I've signed up for the free five days with one year no beer

AquaFaba Sun 21-Jun-20 15:09:13

I just posted the same in another thread!
I’ve also been drinking more than usual during lockdown and having a daily 6pm glass of wine (at least) to get me through the hump of teatime, bath and bed with small children.
I decided to stop drinking last Saturday, just over a week ago. Early days for me yet, but I want to get to a point where I can enjoy a glass of wine for what it is, rather than being a treat/crutch for getting through another relentless day.

Teacaketotty Sun 21-Jun-20 15:15:22

I honestly don’t think your alone there OP, at least you’ve realised it’s gotten a bit much and can make a change. You know yourself 6 days a week is too much, and most of the time your probably not enjoying it anymore.

I haven’t really had any booze since I had DD a year ago and honestly I don’t miss it. For me it’s just not worth feeling crap the next day, if I really fancied it I would but for me it’s empty calories and makes my skin look awful.

Good luck OP, maybe put the money aside you would have spent on it and buy yourself something nice?

Patbutcherismyhero Sun 21-Jun-20 16:27:25

@fluckityfluckfluck I use the app and not sure how to PM on it? But be good to have a buddy. I think on days like this when I feel particularly tired and hungover it's easy to make a pledge to stop. But by the middle of the week I can see myself giving up unless I really do focus and exercise some willpower! When the dc are in bed it's just too easy to settle down and relax with a drink and a film.

OP’s posts: |
fluckityfluckfluck Sun 21-Jun-20 18:06:44

I've ordered some of the citrus seedlip....

Patbutcherismyhero Tue 23-Jun-20 09:07:04

So I haven't had a drink since Saturday. Two days might not sound much but it is for me! I expected my sleep to massively improve but last night I was tossing and turning unable to switch off for ages. Sometimes I find I actually sleep better after one or two drinks, it's only when I have a real binge that I tend to wake up in the night with beer fear and anxiety and have really broken sleep.

Nevertheless I will carry on! How's everyone else doing?

OP’s posts: |
Hangingover Tue 23-Jun-20 09:29:16

I'm not addicted to booze it's just become habitual to have a drink in the evening

Have a read/listen to "This Naked Mind" it might give you some interesting thoughts on this. I listened to it and I learned loads - mainly that having a psychological dependency on alcohol doesn't mean you're just imagining it - regular/heavy drinking does actually rewire your brain! It's fascinating. She reckons the term alcoholic is a bit useless since the nature of alcohol is that it's a highly addictive poison therefore all regular drinkers are somewhere on the scale of dependency - I know I am!

DressesWithPocketsRockMyWorld Tue 23-Jun-20 09:37:53

Urgh same. I am not only fat I am puffy. Every morning I think right this madness must stop and every evening I have a few cans and some wine. I have a beer belly! Honestly need to sort it out

La1ka Tue 23-Jun-20 09:40:32

@Patbutcherismyhero I am terrible at being drunk and say the weirdest things which is always embarrassing. I stopped drinking a few years back, and I am so much happier. I never drink at home and will maybe have one or two every 6 months with my husband, but I don’t usually want to. I’m so much happier, once you’re out of it you realise how much of a waste of time and money it is!

Good luck with this, I’m sure you will smash it and I promise you it’s so worth it. X

nettie434 Tue 23-Jun-20 09:40:32


I've ordered some of the citrus seedlip....

I have definitely drunk more over lockdown. Most of us are used to drinking more over Christmas or on holiday but this has gone on for muxh longer. I have bought a bottle of seedlip. It costs as much as a bottle of gin but actually it's so gorgeous, it's worth it.

There is an alcohol support board here if you have not seen it PatButcherismyHero. (I could have put just Pat but lover your user name too!)

Patbutcherismyhero Tue 23-Jun-20 09:58:54

@nettie434 thank you I didn't realise there was a booze board I should have posted there.

I can relate to the puffy feeling, I feel so bloated and have definitely put on a lot of weight in lockdown.

Is the naked mind a book or podcast? I'll have a look. I'm trying to channel my time in the evenings (when I'd usually have a drink) into something else to keep me busy. So any good books etc would be fab to keep me busy and focused. I'm so used to opening a bottle of wine while cooking dinner (and then often finishing the bottle while watching a film after blush) but once I'm past that trigger time I'm usually ok.

OP’s posts: |
Hangingover Tue 23-Jun-20 10:01:41

I'm so used to opening a bottle of wine while cooking dinner (and then often finishing the bottle while watching a film after blush) but once I'm past that trigger time I'm usually ok

Me too, exactly this. It's a book, but also an online community and podcast. I listened to it on Audible. I didn't agree with all of it but some of it was truly astonishing! Really makes you think (in a good way!).

Piglet89 Tue 23-Jun-20 10:06:33

@Patbutcherismyhero I second the recommendation of @Hangingover to read some Sober literature and listen to some podcasts on the subject. There are people out there who have really drilled down into the nature of alcohol and how exactly it affects the brain. It is a highly addictive toxin and it is my belief that everyone who drinks alcohol is somewhere on that scale of dependency. But I know that is controversial.

Anyway, I haven’t counted exactly but it’s probably a month since I have had an alcoholic drink. I sleep better, I’ve saved time and money, I’ve lost a little weight, my skin’s clearer, I’m a better parent to my little son.

I’ve come to the conclusion that booze is a gigantic con and nobody should be drinking it as it is just NOT good for our bodies or our minds. The government don’t like us to know the truth as the alcohol industry is so powerful and pays a fair bit in revenue. Look at the medical officers and advisers who are made to pay for speaking the truth about it!

So you go @Patbutcherismyhero and have a good crack at knocking it on the head. It’s hard at the beginning but stick with it and I promise you - you won’t regret it.

steps off soap box

Piglet89 Tue 23-Jun-20 10:08:29

This Naked Mind is available as a podcast - you should be able to get it wherever you usually get your podcasts if you search for it.

Pinniped Tue 23-Jun-20 10:14:10

Your description of going to sleep quickly then waking up panicky was me. I knew that I wasn't alcohol dependent but I so remember that wakeup feeling. I worried I could have said or done the wrong thing, upset people (I have OCD tendencies). Amongst a few other things I did around that time for my mental health, I decided that alcohol wasn't for me. I enjoyed and do miss it sometimes, but the awful morning feeling wasn't worth it any more. I don't say to myself that I'll not drink again, but right now I don't want to.

cravingthelook Tue 23-Jun-20 10:46:44

I bought the cerocero 0% alcohol gin like drink from Lidl

It's the same habit as having a G&T but tastes great and the no alcohol is obviously the good point.

At beginning of lockdown I was drinking 4 or 5 bottles of wine a week. Now I have on average 1 a week.

fluckityfluckfluck Tue 23-Jun-20 11:03:18

I'm on day 6, longest I've gone in ages. The seedlip is really nice and last night it stopped me reaching for the wine. Wish there was a decent no alcohol wine though.....

@patbutcherismyhero I am pilgrim is a most brilliant read....highly recommend

nettie434 Tue 23-Jun-20 12:38:03

I think AIBU has a lot more 'traffic' patbutcherismyhero so I was only suggesting the alcohol support board for more long term support. It sounds as if you are really determined and good luck to you, fluckityfluckfluck and all of us who have found we have drunk more in lockdown and want to stop or reduce the amount we drink.

fluckityfluckfluck Wed 24-Jun-20 09:28:20

I feel a bit like I'm emerging from a fog....feeling brighter

awesomeaircraft Wed 24-Jun-20 09:34:19

The Naked Mind was great.

The lady is very personable, been there, done that, and gives tons of info/support. It is free too (well the 30 day experiment is).

I really recommend it.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, quick, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Get started »