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To think this is an odd Christmas present

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Moggymorn Sat 07-Dec-19 13:09:55

I met up with a friend yesterday for lunch and we usually exchange small gifts, nothing fancy, up to about £20. For reference I got her a nice candle, a mug and some chocs. Just general little goodies.

She gave me a necklace, which is lovely, but it has the name of her daughter engraved on it. It's a lovely necklace and her daughter is lovely, and I'm sure it would be a lovely present for her... but surely it would make more sense to get my own kids names engraved on it?

It was a lovely necklace but I just don't understand! I'm only really posting as dh thinks she might of ordered that one for her and one with my own kids name on for me and got them the wrong way round and said to ask her. Or is this not as weird as it seems in my head?

abouttime2 Sat 07-Dec-19 13:11:20

That's really odd. Is the engraving really noticeable ? Wondering if it is a regift and she didn't realise it was engraved?

AnchorDownDeepBreath Sat 07-Dec-19 13:11:43

Oh. I think a mistake has happened... either what your husband said, or maybe she was gifted it and thought you'd love it more, and didn't notice the engraving?

It'd be a bit odd to give other people jewellery with your children's names on... I don't think that'd be deliberate.

AtrociousCircumstance Sat 07-Dec-19 13:12:15

It’s reeeeeeeeeally weird. Really, really weird.

You could ask if there’s been a mix up but then, if she did mean to give it to you, she’ll know you think she’s cray!

justcly Sat 07-Dec-19 13:12:33

I would ask. It is strange, and I can't think of any explanation for it (other than your dh's).

BlueCornsihPixie Sat 07-Dec-19 13:14:42

That's really weird

I would assume a mix up tbh.

Wantarefund Sat 07-Dec-19 13:16:13

You have to ask her and report back.

I think what your OH has said has major plausibility.

georgialondon Sat 07-Dec-19 13:16:13

Sounds like she's regifted it to me.

Chamomileteaplease Sat 07-Dec-19 13:16:49

Was the name not spoken about when you were sitting together?

CodenameVillanelle Sat 07-Dec-19 13:17:19

Someone gave it to her and she never noticed the engraving

christmassymcchristmas Sat 07-Dec-19 13:18:20

Did she mention the engraving? Did you?

Is her child a PFB?

Moggymorn Sat 07-Dec-19 13:18:51

No I was too awkward to say anything to her as I didn't want to offend. It's her pfb and only 7 months old so just didn't want to upset her. Showed dh when I got home who thought it was weird I hadn't mentioned it and said to text her but I've been too worried about offending/looking ungrateful. I will try and word a message. Thanks

Loveislandaddict Sat 07-Dec-19 13:20:09

I think she has got the gifts muddled.

Maybe send her a message along the lines of:
“.. thank you for my lovely gift. However, I noticed it had dc’s name engraved on it. Did you intend to give this one to me?”

Wantarefund Sat 07-Dec-19 13:20:42

Are you going to be DDs godmother or something? I can imagine some parents thinking someone might want this in certain situations.

Moggymorn Sat 07-Dec-19 13:24:38

@Wantarefund No not godmother, she will put "auntie moggy morn love DC name" on cards and stuff. Not actually an auntie but I guess an honorary one. This is my fear that she genuinely meant it and I message her and cause an issue

Apolloanddaphne Sat 07-Dec-19 13:28:33

Message her and say that you noticed the necklace she gave you has her DDs name on it. Say it is really lovely but you just wanted to check that she hasn't mixed up necklaces given you one meant for a relative.

Whereland Sat 07-Dec-19 13:29:19

I would just say nothing and wait, if she realises she'll message you and you can just explain you thought it was probably a mistake but didn't want to say just in case!

doolaley12 Sat 07-Dec-19 13:29:28

I wouldn’t message. It’s possibly a mistake and if it is surely she will realise when she opens the other one and contact you. If it is a regift it could be as she is low on funds if still on mat leave and it coming up to Xmas. If this is the case and you message her I’m sure it would cause an issue and is it really worth upsetting your friend over a token gift?

turkeyontheplate Sat 07-Dec-19 13:30:06

It is possible it's not a mix-up and she genuninely thought you would want a necklace with the name of her wunderkind engraved on it. Like the parents who present teachers with a framed photograph of their child as a gift. Odd as fuck, but it happens!

LemonPrism Sat 07-Dec-19 13:32:17

You cups ask what made her t

Butchyrestingface Sat 07-Dec-19 13:34:35

It’s a mistake. Poor woman is probably tearing her home apart looking for bubs’ necklack right now. fsad

Wantarefund Sat 07-Dec-19 13:38:11

Bless her, sounds like she does just have PFB syndrome and you’ll need to wear that necklace with pride every time you see her from now on blush

Mama1980 Sat 07-Dec-19 13:38:10

I think your husband is probably right but maybe phrase the message something like
"I noticed that the necklace has your dds name on's lovely I'm just worried you've mixed it up with a necklace made for family" that way if she says no it's for you, you could reply saying that really sweet or like family you are etc.
But I do agree it's weird!

Butchyrestingface Sat 07-Dec-19 13:39:08

Could you er, “comment” on the name in a way that would alert your friend to the fact the necklace has her baby’s name on it without revealing that you think it’s a strange gift?

Does the name have an unusual or usual spelling?


“Oh, thank you so much for the gift, do you know, I always baby’s name was spelt AMY not AMIE. But now I know.


burnoutbabe Sat 07-Dec-19 13:39:33

I'd have to ask if it was a mistake. If nothing else it will stop future gifts being engraved with her kids name.
Anyone else who sees it will think you are some weird over invested Aunty type. Or don't know your own name!
Very odd gift!

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