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To put my son in girl's clothes?

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Embarassed123 Sun 22-Apr-18 07:57:14

I'm a SAHM to DS who is 4 months old. He was an unplanned but very wanted addition to the family. We also have an older DD who is 3.

Finances are pretty tight at the moment, as although we did eventually plan to have 2 children, we weren't expecting to quite this soon! So far, I've been dressing DS in white babygros, but it's looking like he'll need new clothes soon.

I have all of DD's clothes from when she was a baby, and I was wondering if it would be mean to put DS in them? They are perfectly good clothes (no dresses as I find them impractical on small children, but loads of flowery tops and some trousers.

WIBU to put DS in some of the least offending outfits instead of spending money I don't have buying him a whole new wardrobe? I know random strangers would assume he's a girl, but in that case I could just roll with it.
Honest answers please, I need to know if I'm being mean even considering it.....

Lottapianos Sun 22-Apr-18 07:59:04

What could be mean about it? Your baby won't give a fig so long as he is warm enough and comfortable. Sounds sensible to me

littlecabbage Sun 22-Apr-18 07:59:21

Of course it's not mean! He has no idea or interest in what he wears, as long as it's comfy. And it's not like his peers will bully him! You sound sensible - save your money for more important things.

Justgimmeit Sun 22-Apr-18 07:59:47

I wouldn't dress a boy in girls clothes. Baby clothes so can be found very cheaply on gumtree, eBay, Facebook and charity shops. He doesn't need a full new wardrobe just a few outfits and a washing machine

BlondeB83 Sun 22-Apr-18 08:00:36

Sounds very sensible to me!

12PurpleSnails Sun 22-Apr-18 08:00:40

Of course that is fine. My friend did exactly the same.

WellLetsSayHesSquare Sun 22-Apr-18 08:01:05

He honestly won't care. Have you thought about swapping bigger sizes? I put all my lo's clothes on fb to sell and someone had a pile of girls stuff they wanted to sell also. We swapped as she was expecting a little boy.

Bixx Sun 22-Apr-18 08:01:19

Why not? As long as he is appropriately dressed for the weather that’s all that matters.

EdithWeston Sun 22-Apr-18 08:02:07

Handing down clothes between siblings (and then on to cousins) is utterly normal.

And that was before the 'reduce reuse recyle' mantra came along.

Of course it's fine to do it.

Especially if you make sure that, going forward, you have plenty of clothes in nice colours and basic styles that work equally well on both sexes.

milkysmum Sun 22-Apr-18 08:03:01

I used all dds baby grows for ds when he was born. Some people passed comment on the pink ones but hey ho!

GreenEyedGoose Sun 22-Apr-18 08:03:12

I probably wouldn't put him in anything too girly. What about when he looks back on baby photos and says why am I dressed in that pink frilly dress smile

CuppaSarah Sun 22-Apr-18 08:03:17

Why not? Babies don't care what they wear. If it bothers you a lot on Facebook you can usually get baby bundles of clothing for £5 if you keep checking reguarly. But there's no problem dressing him in his sister's hand me downs.

Yesterday toddler ds was running around in dds summer dress happy as anything. He'd been desperate to try it on since she got it this week.

bonbonlavie Sun 22-Apr-18 08:03:39

If you want my honest answer then no i wouldn't.

As a pp pointed out, gumtree/eBay for cheap bundles

velourvoyageur Sun 22-Apr-18 08:05:10

He won't be wearing a bra so no he won't be wearing 'girls' clothes'.

Justgimme out of interest, why wouldn't you put a boy in a flowery top?

KateGrey Sun 22-Apr-18 08:05:34

Maybe put a message out on Fb selling sites to see if anyone will swap. If I was really struggling no I wouldn’t worry what he’s dressed in. As long as it was comfortable who cares.

BodgingThisMumThing Sun 22-Apr-18 08:05:53

My son is 6 months but has loads of clothes from my little sisters who are 4 and 6 so still good quality clothes, lots of others from their friends parents who passed on baby clothes to me. This means lots of his clothes are lovely and pink and flowery. He has a blue flowery romper which I love.

The other day I sent him to my mums in jeans jumper and bright pink vest saying princess, weather warmed up so he was only wearing the vest. He didn’t complain once wink

It’s fine OP! No point buying new stuff when they only wear it for a few hours anyway.

Steeley113 Sun 22-Apr-18 08:06:29

Why not sell the girls clothes and buy a second hand bundle of boys? Remember, he’ll look back on the photos one day.

RBBMummy Sun 22-Apr-18 08:07:03

Fabric doesn't have gender

DaisysStew Sun 22-Apr-18 08:07:58

He’s a baby, he’s doesn’t know what sort of clothes he’s supposed to wear. As long as he’s dry, warm and comfortable he’s happy so go for it.

My friend had her first quote young and was short on money. He spent the first 6 months of his life in girls clothes (friend had a little sister who was 1 when he was born) and he doesn’t seem too traumatised by it wink

Thishatisnotmine Sun 22-Apr-18 08:08:56

The are pictures of my brother in my pink babygros, he looks perfectly happy. Uts a sensible thing to do and if you are worried about it just buy one ir two 'boyish" things for going out.

Also recommend ebay for bundles. We got a load of vests from.newborn to about 6 months for dd1 and most were in such good condition we used them for dd2. If we have a third they will be coming out again!

ambereeree Sun 22-Apr-18 08:12:00

Hi OP YANBU. I'm reusing loads of my daughters clothes for my little boy and my finances aren't even tight. It seems foolish to buy new. I've had a couple of comments for a flowery baby gro but honestly who cares.
Save your money for when he's bigger.

Owlettele Sun 22-Apr-18 08:12:02

Did this regularly with ds and still do at 8 months. He looks awesome in most of it. It did confuse a midwife when we turned ul for a postnatal check with him in a flowery grow. Kept saying 'she' even when he was naked on the weighing scale! 😂

Thurlow Sun 22-Apr-18 08:12:36

I still buy girls leggings for 18mo DS. They're loads cheaper than boys leggings and leggings look more comfortable than trousers or joggers. He's got some lovely frills on the bottom of some of them. Who cares?

fussychica Sun 22-Apr-18 08:12:49

It's fine your baby won't care and you don't so no problem. I'd probably reserve the most pretty things for days when I wasn't going out. Personally I'd rather do this than buy second hand for a baby due to the kind of spillage babies havegrin.

Anditstartsagain Sun 22-Apr-18 08:13:05

I wouldn't either tbh

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