School photographer telling my daughter to 'look smart' for her photo and making her do her tie up

[wibble75]

Eldest DD is in Y7 and has come home this evening with the proofs from her school photos were were taken in the first week of term. I've only just got in from work and seen them and tbh a pissed off that they don't represent how she looks for school and she's since told me that the photographer made her do her top button up and 'look smart' for her photo.

I totally believe DD on this as she hates having her top button done up - she doesn't have her tie very loose but enough to be comfortable, and has done ever since day 1 of primary school. None of her teachers have commented on it, she's never worn it done up for any of her previous school photos, and was furious at having been told to do it!

Is this normal or AIBU to think it a bit crap of them? Surely it's up to the child how they look for their photo, and if it's 'smart' enough for the school then the photographer should go with that?

[Sirzy]

Perfectly normal

[GreenTulips]

Most kids don't notice.

Some parents complain their kids look unkempt due to buttons ties hair etc

Schools can't win

Take her yourself if you want to police what she looks like

[AnyFucker]

Perhaps you could report him to the police ?

Or at least get it logged

He could be a peedo

[InfiniteSheldon]

Parents regularly complain that the photographer didn't tell them to sit up straight/do button up/wipe food off their chin. It's a no win for the photographer if you don't like the photo don't buy it.

[SundayNightLights]

Oh for goodness sake. Does it matter? Why do you want a picture of her looking scruffy?

[Belindaboom]

You're kidding, right?

[GirlOnATrainToShite]

Well - I have really fucking heard it all now.

[BluePheasant]

...meanwhile in a parallel universe.... Parent complains that school photographer didn't bother to remind their child to do button up and is annoyed that they don't look smart enough in the photos.

[Iwanttobe8stoneagain]

I would have thought photographer assumed parents wanted child to look smart on their school picture! Naughty photographer! Bad photographer!

[hubbahun]

Lolololol

[Anasnake]

Oh ffs - get onto the Daily Fail and do the whole 'I'm fumin' bollocks

[ZeroFuchsGiven]

This site is going downhill faster than Eddie the eagle ffs.

[DustyCropHopper]

YABU, totally normal for them to get the children to smarten up as most parents would complain if they didn't. They really can not win!

[Dahlietta]

This actually leaves me speechless.

[Caulkheadupnorf]

So don't buy the photos

[FakePlasticTeaLeaves]

AnyFucker HAHAHAHAHAHA

[FakePlasticTeaLeaves]

You made me laugh.

[NicolasFlamel]

U ok hun?

[FairNotFair]

YANBU. Her buttonz, her rulez.

[mineofuselessinformation]

In my school form tutors are expected to make sure their tutees have their ties and blazers on, with top button done up and tie pulled up to the collar for photographs. Most parents like it.
If DD feels her collar is too tight, buy her a bigger size so she can be comfortable - it is possible.

[saoirse31]

Seriously?

[fusspot66]

Last year when the school photos came home, on poster gad a teenage DD in shock and denial and hysteria about her orange face and Pavarotti eyebrows. The kid had left home looking normal!

[MoonfaceAndSilky]

This is not real, surely

[Penguins333]

@anyfucker fully agree. Painful painful people.