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To want to tell my SIL to go and take a running jump...

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OhJustPassTheCake Fri 10-Feb-17 16:25:47

So I don't have a good relationship with my brother and his wife, unfortunately. I used to be great mates with my brother but since his wife came along (10 ish years ago now!) it's got worse and worse over time. She doesn't like to associate with family, preferring her friends over anyone and everyone. Her choice but makes a lot of situations awkward, especially as I would like my son to have a relationship with them and his cousins.

Anyhoo.... she has just text me to say that she is organising a surprise party for my bro's 40th in the summer, so I'm thinking, ooooh that sounds fun, I wonder what we'll be doing..... and then it says "so because everyone will be there I was wondering if you would babysit?"

After I spat my tea all over my keyboard and got over the shock, I typed back a very blunt and rude text but don't dare send it! How does she dare not invite us!??? I really wanna put her in her place but I also don't want to cause a bigger rift in the family...... what do I do Mumsnetters, WHAT DO I DO! I fucking hate the evil bitch

FeliciaJollygoodfellow Fri 10-Feb-17 16:27:09

"Are you 'avin a fucking laff?!" is the only acceptable response.

What a bint she is.

Monkeypuzzle32 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:27:53

You could be sarky and text back "haha, good one! So what are you planning and is it on his actual birthday?' 😇

Missrubyring Fri 10-Feb-17 16:28:52

The old classic of 'Are you on Glue?!?!' Should suffice!!
What a fucking cheek. shock

FloorHugger Fri 10-Feb-17 16:29:23

I would text back ; 'No. '

(I'd have to sit on my hands to type what I really think).

RuggerHug Fri 10-Feb-17 16:29:27

Ha ha hilarious. So what's the plan?

Fackorf Fri 10-Feb-17 16:29:31

Forward the email to your brother

Politely decline.


Gwilt160981 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:30:32

So his own kids ain't allowed at the party either???

KatnissMellark Fri 10-Feb-17 16:30:38

That's really weird. Presumably from your OP there must be a backstory. How about replying something along the lines of 'We'd love to attend the party and as it's adults only perhaps we can share a babysitter with the dc at ours so you can have your hangover in peace?' Then see what she says. It would take some huge brass balls for her then to reply and say you're not invited...

Fackorf Fri 10-Feb-17 16:30:56

As in, decline to babysit.

Respond: oh sorry, we can't babysit because we are coming to the party.

CatsBatsEars Fri 10-Feb-17 16:30:56

Tell Ber she's got more front than Blackpool shock

CatsBatsEars Fri 10-Feb-17 16:31:24

Her even blush

Fackorf Fri 10-Feb-17 16:31:52

Unless... It's not a swingers party, is it?

ScarlettFreestone Fri 10-Feb-17 16:31:57

Text back "but surely you'll be inviting us too? DB would expect us to be there"

Msqueen33 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:32:36

Christ what a nerve!

SaorAlbaGuBrath Fri 10-Feb-17 16:32:38

Fuck right off ought to cover it grin

LindyHemming Fri 10-Feb-17 16:34:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

EmeraldScorn Fri 10-Feb-17 16:34:27

You reply with the truth,

"He's my brother and I'd like to celebrate his 40th with him, so no I won't babysit, I'll be seeing my brother on his birthday."

jopickles Fri 10-Feb-17 16:34:59

I would text back and say that actually if you aren't invited to attend that you will be making other plans for that evening, in fact I would be tempted to buy him tickets for an event on that evening as your present to him and take him out for the night and really throw a spanner in the works

OhJustPassTheCake Fri 10-Feb-17 16:35:06

Oh My Days! I knew I could rely on you guys.... now to choose the best response..... grin

Twatternatter Fri 10-Feb-17 16:35:21

Just say "No I'd rather go to my brothers party thanks!"

Loraline Fri 10-Feb-17 16:35:24

I'd text back simply 'everyone will not be there. His sister apparently won't be.'

8misskitty8 Fri 10-Feb-17 16:35:49

I'd reply ' haha, I think you have sent this to the wrong person. This is (your name) number. I'll be at the party as I'm his sister ! Lol. What time is the party ?

If she replays saying your not invited then forward it all to your brother. what a bitch.

DorcasthePuffin Fri 10-Feb-17 16:36:29

Are other family invited to this party? Or is it just for their social friends?

It's cheeky either way, but much more massively so if the former.

OhJustPassTheCake Fri 10-Feb-17 16:38:27

oh good question DorcasthePuffin..... I'll try and find out.... xx

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