I darednt put my question on here, i might get outed

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Just that really. My question and my problem is so complex and someone might recorgnise me. I cant have that. Dont know what to do?

Erm, not sure what you want by posting if you can't give any info Can you speak hypothetically?

Ring ACAS then.

Sorry, I dont mean to sound all mysterious, Im just so worried about all of it and not sleeping etc. I thought about ringing ACAS but its going to take sooooo long to explain whats happened.

You could write everything down and make an appointment with citizen advice. If it's complicated it might need an expert.

thanks, I hadnt thought about writing it all down, doh!! Its going to take me ages, its gone on for three years.

go on, just say it

Write it all down with a different type of work, swap your boss's gender, change/lie about a few bits but not so much as to mean people can't give appropriate advice, IYSWIM.