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i'll get flamed but why are stay home mothers so smug?

316 replies

wombleprincess · 29/08/2008 10:47

this is not a thread about the pros and cons of working/not working, i just wonder if anyone finds that stay at home mothers are really smug about the choice they've made? or is it just my experience? cant they just live and let live? I dont judge them, but they seem to be very judgemental about working mothers.

anyway, a friday topic for anyone at work trying to get through the day perhaps!!

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Janni · 29/08/2008 20:18

Pagwatch - I was hoping it might be the rather exotic penii, but fear it is boring old penises.

bramblebooks · 29/08/2008 21:24

do you think that if you ate a koala your wee would smell of eucalyptus? A bit like asparagus or sugar puffs?

thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 21:39

eucalyptus can be toxic to other mammals so I wouldn't want to take the chance to find out! By the smell of them, koalas concentrate the eucalyptus so that might make them more toxic than eating the tree direct!

bramblebooks · 29/08/2008 22:08

those koalas should be red as a warning to predators.

thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 22:22

i reckon that a koala dropping on your head is probably enough warning to predators - they are remarkably solid and heavy!

Slubberdegullion · 29/08/2008 22:30

and they have nasty eviscerator claws.

Most of all they have a bad attitude.

thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 22:38

to go with the bad smell I guess!
They do always look pretty grouchy, don't they...

Slubberdegullion · 29/08/2008 22:42

In various zoos and whatever around Australia you can hold a koala. They look at you full of distain 'I pity the fool who wants to cuddle me, I smell like an old ladies medcine cabinet and I'd have your eye out in a flash if I could be arsed.'

Oh yes koalas are in the smug list.

thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 22:46

yes I see your point - especially when they carefully wee down your clothes while you are holding them.

DH and I have a lovely pic of us and a koala at the Lone Pine Koala Sanctuary in Queensland - we joked that it looks like proud parents with their first child. Now we don't, not now we have DS and he doesn't look remotely like a koala (though he does do a good line in smug, usually also when he's doing illicit weeing....)

Slubberdegullion · 29/08/2008 22:49

Oh I have a me and DH holding a koala photo somewhere too. I bet if we both went and found them and had a good look at the koala it would clearly be projecting a, put me down and please fuck off, attitude.

thumbwitch · 29/08/2008 22:51

LOL - yep, I think you're right - coupled with "oh, another pair of sad fools who have nothing better to do with their time than hold me while I wee..."

Slubberdegullion · 29/08/2008 22:53

indeed, indeed.

ghosty · 29/08/2008 23:50
pagwatch · 30/08/2008 08:58

sod off ghosty.
I saw slubber first...
shes mine

bramblebooks · 30/08/2008 09:10

hurls guinea pigs at m'netters and runs off with slubber to eat cakes and stare at owls.

RubyRioja · 30/08/2008 11:51

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Slubberdegullion · 30/08/2008 18:24

oh aren't you nice pagwatch and ghosty. I love you both too. I am two sheets to the wind already with very nice new fancy saffron gin and tonics so am emboldened to say you should really be wanting bramble who is a fox with yumptious hair.

ruby the animals jumping through flaming hops was an idea that was building up to a seminal point on another thread. there was concern re animal shit that was not resolved.

OrmIrian · 30/08/2008 18:27

Not fair! I want to be smug too

Sorry. Not read the whole thread.

MuchLessTiredNow · 30/08/2008 18:36

I've read bits of this thread, but what strikes me is what can come across as smugness might also be defensiveness . I have been a SAHM for 5 years, just gone back to work part time, and I would say my only issue between the two camps is how often I have been made to feel inferior by some of my WM neighbours (about 60%) of my street, but then relentlessly called on for free child care when they are stuck. Also, I get V pissed off that I am expected to do so much at the school because I don't work, even though I am juggling 2 smaller ones, and never seem to get any recognition or politeness as a result.

Judy1234 · 30/08/2008 19:31

I have never relied on a stay at home paren t for childcare as we arranged our own, nanny or whatever. Some stay at home mothers feel a bit inferior I suppose and of course they should - any self respectign woman in 2008 ought to earn at least 50% of the family income and if she doesn't she's kicking her sisters and daughters in the teeth and ought to be booted back to work.

RubyRioja · 30/08/2008 19:38

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MuchLessTiredNow · 30/08/2008 19:41

Xenia - I am sure you haven't, but you are not the voice of all WM

Janni · 30/08/2008 21:13

Xenia - how long can a woman stay home after childbirth before you would consider her to be kicking her sisters and daughters in the teeth?

thumbwitch · 30/08/2008 21:45

is Xenia a camel?

I like the idea of camels in the 2012 olympics ceremony but feel that they should be riding bicycles for extra levels of smugness

cheesesarnie · 30/08/2008 21:46

i couldnt care less what others do-whatever works for them.so long as me and my family are happy.