I have been working on my passion project for a few years, so far making just about £20k a year, I have just started making some real money with it. My earnings have increased to £79k this year and I have plans to grow further to increase my earnings further. This is something I absolutely love doing, I am constantly working on it, even when I am not working it is always on my mind but in a positive way- because I love what I do. I started this because it fitted so well around my family life, my children have always been my first priority and I stayed at home when they were both little. My husband has been able to work on his career and I have always been adapting what I do to allow for him to do his job which means he spends long periods away, does long hours etc. So the responsibility of the house and family is fully on me and always has been. He is a high earner and earns much more than I do.
He has been offered to relocate to America and bring his family, they could potentially increase his salary to make up for the loss of my salary and/or get me a job doing admin. When he mentioned about it for the first time yesterday he was super excited saying I am more than capable to do that job, who would be my manager etc. he had clearly been thinking of it for a while.
the thing is, this project is my baby. I have just got it off the ground and I am so excited about the potential. Two years ago I would have gone and not even thought about it, but for the first time in my life I am earning some real money for myself, I don’t want to drop that again for him. I have dropped things previously but I don’t want to now.
Not only would I be shifting papers in an office, I would be working 5 days a week for 4 weeks annual leave compared to my current 4days a week/ 8 week annual leave. I would also make around 30-40k a year, with potential to make about £60k. We don’t have a shared bank account so if they increase his salary I won’t really see the benefit in the same way as if I was earning my own money. My husband is very generous, and does put the family first with spending his money, but he does keep it as his money. When I was at home I had to ask him if I wanted something and sometimes he said no- for example tickets to go see my family. That was the reason why I wanted my own money, now I can buy what I want within reason of course. But I don’t want to go backwards into being dependent on him.
I think the children would settle well, they are doing great in their current environment but I think the schools we would put them in would be better than their current school. As an experience I think it would be valuable for them.
for my husband of course it’s a great opportunity, it allows for him to keep his high salary and potentially earn more, guaranteeing work for probably at least 5 years. I would of course enjoy living in America, I always thought I’d like to experience that if I had the opportunity.
my project is not something I can leave, sell or take with me. It requires me to stay in the UK for now at least.