Only 2 days in but family struggling

[Overwhelmed124]

I got a job with Asda and started Monday. The induction was awful and felt like a spare part. Second shift today and I just dont want to go in.
My husband is having some issues with mental health at the moment and laying guilt on me for leaving him to go to work. And my youngest is not happy as will have to let himself in after school and I wont be back until nearly 7, so tea will be late.
Dont know what to do. We need the money but Im working 4 days and 23 hours.
Is it worth seeing if I can reduce hours/work longer shifts or just leave it?
Im also finding the job overwhelming as so much to learn.

I think that except in extreme cases, work is good for people. Lying around watching TV and doing nothing to help with the running of the household won't be doing your DH any good (and I say that as someone with a chronic MH condition - getting on with it is infinitely better than lolling about). Stick at your job; it's such early days and I think you being out at work will benefit everyone in the family. Your DC will develop more independence. Your DH will have to get some motivation from somewhere.

Most people have to work and juggle children etc, it will take time to adjust but you'll get there if you give it a chance. Your husband is going to need to step up and support you. It's a good example you're giving to your child too!

I'm glad yesterday was better and that you came home to a cooked meal. :)

Well done @Overwhelmed124 on getting the job, and stepping out of your comfort zone. The first few days and weeks of a new job can be a bit mercurial but stick with it, it will become more familiar and your confidence will grow.

You’ve added another ‘hat’ (employee) to your collection of wife, mother, daughter etc etc but it is great to earn money, so please relax in to it, you’ll get more comfortable.

Good luck!

Well done OP, it will feel a lot at work but honestly give it time. It will become your reprieve. I think it could do your husband good to have a purpose, keep setting your expectations for him x

Had another good day at work yesterday. Still feel anxious but doing it anyway.
Got home and nothing had been done so I need to get bit firmer now. He is just moping about feeling sorry for himself and its no good for anyone. Hes not pulling his weight and its making me so annoyed.
Big chat today I think.
Thanks for all your support.

Good luck

ok 4th week in job and still feel so nervous. Made a mistake on Monday, angry customer but apologised a lot and all ok in the end. No one seems to care as long as customers leave ok, the support for new staff is awful. I feel like I dont know what Im doing and Im not enjoying. been looking for something else but no idea what.
Husband had good news so lots better now but really time to sort this anxiety out. Hes back to work Tuesday so see how that goes.

Well done op, you're doing great. Good job you didn't listen to your husband. Otherwise you'd be stuck at home, when he went back to work.

You're doing great, OP. The longer you stick with it the better your chances will be of picking up a better job, and the more confident you will feel anyway. It's also really good for your husband and son to realise that they need to pull their weight.

Weeks is not that long, if after 4 months you hate it - fair enough. If you can identify the support you need perhaps ask a manager via email ? Also they obviously think you're doing ok or they would have said. Please don't be put off by nasty people who forgot yo are a human with feelings x