Anyone just done with work at middleage?

[Peterbear]

I've got 25 years left before I can retire. (At 75)the problem is I I honestly don't have 75 weeks left in me. Every job I've had has been a disaster (last 30 years ) with the odd great experience/team. Now I'm 50 I just can't take people and their stupid shit and since covid I have no tolerance for anything. Hate wfh but also feel really anxious and self conscious in an office. Anyone else? Please be kind having a terrible few weeks at work. My boss is now old enough to be my daughter which isn't helping.

Why do you need to retire at 75? Can you change whatever is stopping you leaving before then.

I'm ready to leave right now but trying to hang on in til mid 50s, then I'll sell up, move to something tiny, and give up on work. Am already downsizing this year and putting everything into my pension.

Yup. I'm 42 and sick of this shit to be honest! Retirement feels a long way away.

@LASSOF hmmmm ....yes I need a down shifter plan..
I'd happily live in a caravan and eat marmite sandwiches than endure another 25 years of work.

Totally agree. I'm only 40 and already on countdown to retirement!

Went into the office yesterday, only the second time since WFH due to covid - waste of my time. Overpriced lunch and stilted conversation? Fuck that

Yes to the caravan living

😂😂

I mostly like my NHS job but just lately I'm tired and fed up with it. I'm 60. It's a relentless grind post covid.

Yes to the caravan and marmite sandwiches. Why 75?

I’m almost 55 and start getting my full RAF pension on that birthday, but sadly it’s more like a nice pay rise than retirement trigger. 10 years left on the mortgage, but hopefully only 5 more years of the mindless boring shite.

I’m 49 and just got another job after 7yrs of unemployment. It was hourly for 16hrs a week so I set up everything to work tu/th. Work was flexible with it. After a week I got reduced to 1hr a week! Some more bits of work is coming so I went to the office yesterday to talk to the manager of the work and he said he’d email me the stuff, he knew I was coming in. I was there for 3hrs, get paid for 1. Plus the 90mins commute I wasted. Feel like jacking it in but my colleague said work is coming in spades don’t jump too early, and who else will be flexible with the days I can work right now. Of course the downside is no guaranteed hours. The job I was supposed to work on can’t prove the technology they were testing therefore no finance to construct.

it’s very frustrating, I could Jack it in as we’ve managed but I have one child 3yrs until college (US) and 2 behind that and no pension, and no vacations so was planning to work to plan/afford all that.

Are you peri menopausal or menopausal? A huge percentage of women give up work around this time because of symptoms.
If not, could you afford to drop your hours a bit to relieve the pressure?
Ive decided to stop my professional job at 60 and do something else til official retirement. I have a crap work pension and quite a physical job but my poor old joints won’t last out even with HRT to help.
I reckon I could live on very little once the children are not dependent.

I went part-time when I had DS at almost 41. I'm 50 now and the only way I can cope with work is to stay part-time. We have to go without holidays abroad or new cars but it's worth it to be less burnt out

Totally! Can't care less about my job at the moment. I applied for a different one, not home based, in the hope I'd feel better but I didn't get it, sadly.

Thanks feel the same!☹️

Thanks for your replies all x

Oh I TOTALLY gey you OP. I'm also 50 and really can't be arsed with work sone days. A job I've always loved turned to like about 10 years ago, now it's okay. I'm a professional and well regarded, great workplace, colleagues etc, but would just rather be home reading books and pottering!

I went to 3 days 18 years ago after DS1 and then DS2 and DS3. Now they're older I went up to 4 days 4 years ago and DH went to 4 days. It really is much better part-time if you can afford it at all. We're far more skint and don't do the expensive holidays/ clothes/ cars friends do, but we do just fine and it's all about the balance.

We've just bought a 2nd hand camper van and I intend to have lots more time away/ freedom to roam to counteract the work necessity. I also highly recommend a hammock- I'm in mine now and it's my favourite place after work.

I hadn't thought that peri- menopause (just starting for me) might be affecting my motivation- good point!

Just read that back and I sound like an old gimmer! But I don't bloody care!

Totally had enough of working but 8 years away from pension age

I’m 58 this year. I am literally counting the days until I retire. I actually daydream about it. I’ve worked full time (apart from 6 months Maternity leave) for 42 years.

Yep another one here! But to be fair am peri menopausal and going through a big change in work so it's little wonder. Hoping a new job may reignite my work mojo...

Yes, I’m early forties and simply have no enthusiasm or drive for my career. The only reason I do my job and do it to a decent standard is the fear of what happens if I don’t.

And, I completely get your comment about your younger boss! My team, including my boss, largely consists of very enthusiastic and competent twenty and thirty somethings. It’s very tiring having to feign a vague level of enthusiasm, plus makes me feel extremely old.

I'm 45 and medically retired. Do miss work sometimes but this thread helps me feel a bit better, maybe I'm not missing out that much!

I’m 48 and NHS, I feel like I’m done.
I’m tired of the relentlessness and feeling that nothing I do is ever enough.

I do 9-5 which is better in some respects than my previous shifts but I earn less overall than nurses a band below doing shifts due to the stupid banding and lack of enhancements with 9-5 hours. And I get all the responsibility.

And my DH is no longer working because he is older which just irritates even though I know that’s not fair.

It's paaaaaiiiiinnnnnfffffuuuuulllll this side of a working life. I know this isn't everyone's position, but I've been on a plan that started counting down a 20 years to retirement plan for, so, long, now. I'm no longer looking for work, no longer caring about climbing, no longer caring about making an impression or friends, just want to finish.

I feel you op. I'm 42 and counting down until I retire, which will probably not be until I'm 68, so I've got another 26 years of this shit to put up with 😫. I hate working, its just so draining, and colleagues just annoy me. Dreaming of a lottery win!

Hmmm glad it not just me but what to do? I already work p.t (3.5 days ) and yes on hrt. dont think I'm lazy I could volunteer/keep myself busy quite happily and cheaply. It's just the nonsense and bullshit of work and the fads that I've seen come round again over the years.all the time wasted talking shit/doing shit at work - I'm just done with it.

I'm 59 and would retire right now if I had the choice. But DS is still a teen and I can't sell up and move somewhere cheaper until he's finished school so I guess I'm here for another 4 years. 😕