Anyone just done with work at middleage?

[Peterbear]

I've got 25 years left before I can retire. (At 75)the problem is I I honestly don't have 75 weeks left in me. Every job I've had has been a disaster (last 30 years ) with the odd great experience/team. Now I'm 50 I just can't take people and their stupid shit and since covid I have no tolerance for anything. Hate wfh but also feel really anxious and self conscious in an office. Anyone else? Please be kind having a terrible few weeks at work. My boss is now old enough to be my daughter which isn't helping.

OMG this is my life in a nutshell! It’s bloody miserable.

This is my life at the moment - soul destroying

I find it impacts on my weekend as I am worn out and want to stay home

Same as PP. Not that long ago I'd have been retiring at 60- 10 years'time- now it's 67 😱. The thought of it...

@123shush I actually could I've just been on government website.maybe being a tad dramatic! Still a long time to go though.x

Same here, I do worry about my pension as I've been part time for 10 years since children, I do 3 days and barely get through them!
I'm 45 and definitely can't imagine still working in my late 60's 😫

I’m convinced that one of the reasons women used to be able to retire at 60 is because of the menopause, but somewhere along the way this has been forgotten about. I’m 56 and have reduced my hours to 4 days a week due to meno symptoms. I’m just counting down now. Only 11 years to go…

Yes it makes me resentful of my m-i-l who was able to retire at 60 after working pt all her life. House paid for, kids all independent. Us on the other hand have had to rent forever and have only just been able to afford our own house (shared ownership).
I'm 50 and peri-menopausal. I ache all over every day and the only way i can cope is by working part-time. My sick record would be sky high if I didn't work pt!

Yes! I left social work 2 years ago when I could no longer spend my nights awake worrying about my cases and stuff I hadn't done.
I now work in a school part time as a pastoral worker. Big pay cut but hours much better and school hols off which is nice for the children.
However its hard work emotionally and I have to give myself totally to other people which is not easy after a sleepless night (meno) or if not feeling quite yourself (meno) I go to bed early every night just to be be on my own for a while.
Planning to downsize ASAP.

I HAD to retire early as the menopause was and still is causing horrendous symptoms. 10 years and STILL suffering badly. I found the young girls at work had to understanding and not an ounce of sympathy. Also I became invisible to everyone when I reached my 50's as most of the other staff were in their 20's and 30's. If I dared to say I felt terrible, the young women would remark "its your age!" I could not get out of that job quick enough! I was top of my field in the work place but was made to feel like an old bag.

no understanding not to understanding.

It doesn't help that the phone in this morning on BBC Radio Scotland is about retiring in your 50s! Fuck!

925xx - nope people haven't got a clue and just dismiss it as 'women's troubles'. We haven't moved on from the Victorian era really.
there has to be more to life than work!! Can you retrain at 50 ? Feel like I need a job a couple of mornings per week - but not likely.
Both mum and m.i.l retired in early 50's after a few years of pt clerical/shop work but both make out they were literally 'downt pit' all there lives!!!

Yes same here!
Menopausal, tired, HRT doesn't help.

Currently in a very low paid role within a school and need to muster the courage to ask how I progress to the next pay scale.

Really can't be bothered with work at all right now, particularly as I've worked hard all academic year.

4 weeks to go until the summer break. Thankgod!

I'm in the same boat but age 59.

So tired of the ageism on top of everything else.

6 years to go.

Update - I decided I cant do this any more and told them I want to move to another department.
Hopefully a change of scenery will do me good.

I'm 36 and have been a teacher for 15 years. I can retire when I'm 68, just another 32 years to go. The thought of that makes me want to cry.

My mum retired on her 60th birthday, and that was as recently as 2008. I can’t believe that I will have to work for another 7 years longer than she did. It’s such a depressing thought.

Obviously the blatant sex discrimination in retirement age between women & men was completely indefensible, but why couldn’t they have compromised by letting everyone retire at 62 or 63?

Yep I resigned from a job last year and now self employed.

My income dropped by a 2/3 so I have had to really, really cut down and sometimes dip into savings where needed, like two new tyres needed this week. But I am so much happier, it wasn’t the job or my colleagues who I really liked, it was the people we had to deal with.

I have enough savings to prop myself for a about a year whilst I build the business up which already covers my basic outgoings, it’s giving me choices which has been so liberating!

I’m 43 (nearly 44) and can’t be arsed either. Sadly I have 2 kids under 4 and just taken out a large 25 year mortgage so have no choice but to carry on.

hoping to retire at 60 but think more likely 65 as DH 5 years younger.

I just can’t be arsed with all the bullshit (though the actual job itself is ok) and some of the younger ones taking the piss with hours and getting away with it

I'm 47 and I certainly am not willing to work as hard as I do now for another 20 years. And I don't have it too bad (30 hours a week mostly from home, I do realise that compared to NHS and numerous other more eseential jobs I have a hugely easy life). Peripherally doesn't help as it creates low mood and lack of motivation for me. I think I can hold out til 50 doing what I'm doing now, try and max my pension contributions and then I'd like to do 3 days a week perhaps freelance and only take on jobs that I like the look of between 50 and 60. Then knock it on the head at 60, finances allowing.

Maybe try jobs where you have minimal contact with others such as a driving job or cleaning where you get to plan your workload and not rely on others . Your own boss in a way .

Isn't it, I'm aiming to retire at 60.

Glad I found this thread as this is how I feel, menopause has destroyed me even with HRT. Mid 50s and feel invisible at work, and colleagues much younger. Feel like a dinosaur now. Work seems so pointless wish I could give it up. It’s all wrong working to 67 can’t seem how I can! It’s crap all round...women used to retire at 60 how I wish that was still the case...

Yes it was for a reason

Probably linked to menopause and caring responsibilities.

I've paid my 35 years of stamp

I'm 42 and my first job the pension paid people at 55! I had my paperwork out now it'll be 67/68 (NHS!) and that will probably go up to 70!

I've worked since I was 18 with a couple of gaps for children (a year off each time) but I'll have paid my 35 years NI in way before then but I just can't see how on earth I will be able to afford to retire anytime sooner really.

I honestly don't know if I can stand another 25/26 years working but I'll have too as my children are young and we are buying a house soon so I have no choice.

I just hope that I can get a couple of promotions in the next couple of years and then I'll hopefully be able to save some money, overpay on the mortgage and be able to retire a bit earlier!! I can't see what else I can do really apart from hope I get a winning lottery ticket!