any working mums wish they could be at home fulltime

[robinredbreast]

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I did and as of Monday will be at home full time and can't want. Goodness knows how I'll be feeling by Xmas!!

Dunno TBH. I used to - spend ages being quite depressed after my 2nd child was born longing to be at home. But I've had a chance to be at home more after my 3rd was born and I struggle with it. If I could be at home (and a much nicer bigger one ) with as much, if not more money than we have now, I could probably handle it. Having the choice would have helped though

tomme what happened can u tell me your story?

ormirian what sort of work do u do ?

Hmm, I'm not sure how to answer this. I don't spend my life longing and wishing I were at home full-time, but if money were not object I would choose not to work.

My boys are in junior school by the way!

I'm in IT and I work from home 2 days a week. I also work 9-3 so I can do the school run hassle and I don't have to commute.

hi rosin what would be your ideal dream? to stay home till thy finish school

i used to wish i didn't work when dd was smaller. now she is nearly 4 and enjoys nursery i am glad to have a job and not have the horror of reentering the workplace.

ormirian it dosent sound too bad
least you can pick up your dc from school and take them
what would u do if u won the lottery

Nope. I enjoy my job. I work 4 days so I still get time with DS (he's 1). I'd go potty at home full-time.

"not have the horror of reentering the workplace. "

That is so true sheherazade! The thought of having an interview brings me out in a cold sweat. Used to love them,. Let alone getting to know a new place and new people.

(and if I won the lottery I'd still do volunteer work )

If I won the lottery, I'd buy a big house, pay off our debts, buy DH his dream car....invest the rest and think on it. I wouldn't give up instantly and I suspect I'd find some sort of work to do, if not start my own business eventually.

no (although i do have the odd pang)

i work fulltime but negotiated flexible working hours which makes a huge difference

I did give myself a 3 month window when i went back to see how it was all going and how we all settled in

it suits our family

I used to enjoy my job but since I went back full time my boss has been a total arse and now it's an awful place to work, so yeah, compared with that I'd rather be home full time!

I think working 2-3 days a week is a nice balance though, if you actually like your work. Horses for courses though, and to be honest we're really skint so I need to find something else.

work FT, wee one at nursery - and im really happy with that choice

stimulated
contact with professional peers
i love working

imo depends on individual preferences/finances/personal circumstances. whatever works for you

it is a common media stereotype that working mums are wrought with guilt/anxiety/cant juggle all demands. not necessarily true

I went back to work in the family business a month ago. My boss is the dcs father, so should be fairly flexible!
However, I find I am under a lot of pressure (although coping, kids are clean, healthy, happy, getting their 5 a day). I miss having the time to plan things, I miss giving the dog walks of more than 30 mins, I feel sad that I can only visit the older relatives once a week to help out now, I already feel I am 'out of the loop' with the other school mums, miss helping out at my OAP lucheon club once a month, FGS why am I doing this?!?
I hope it's just for the next year as we make some big business changes, then I will ease off again. I truly believe I contribute so much but working in the home and in my community. But at this moment in time, dh needs my support (quite sure if things were different he would want me simply to do what I want to do).

If money were no object I would not be in paid employment ever. I would much rather lounge around as a lady of leisure, potter in the garden, read books, better myself with educational pursuits, engage in some voluntary work when I see fit, visit the poor and needy, run my household, direct my staff ...

Do I sound as though being part of the landed gentry in the 18th century would be my ideal world?

I have no time to work. My house is a mess and my family need me at home. But we cant afford it. Id love to be SAHM for the rest of my days just caring for the family and home, but its not an option

I don't have to have to work. We wouldn't starve if I didn't. But I have a job which is term time/school hours only, so I get plenty of time with the boys. And my salary means we can send the boys to independent secondary school: so that's why we do it.

hehe think ill start a new thread what you you do if you won the lottery !!

not that i have i might add!!!
[robin dreams on !!]

lol start lottery thread - i have many ideas

I have worked a 3 day week since having my DC and have been really unhappy at not being at home with them. I was scared to give up financial independence but finally decided to take the risk at the beginning of Sept and am about to embark on my first full week as a SAHM

tomme goodluck for next week hope you enjoy it as much you hope to x

Just came into this topic, wanting to ask a very simliar question so hope you don't mind if I join in too.

I absolutely HATE working, have a 1 year old ds and had to go back part time when he was 6 months. But my heart is so at home. Those first 6 months were like I'd finally found my reason to exist, and found the only job in the world that I wanted to do. I can't deal with the guilt of it, and the thought that someone else is buying my brains & time that I should be devoting to him, torments me sooo much. But I do understand for working is right for some - I actually thought I'd be one of these and that it would drive me crazy staying at home

Anyone any tips? RRB, what's your situation? Are you in a dilemma over it too? Is that why you 're asking?