any working mums wish they could be at home fulltime

[robinredbreast]

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just now i do

usually love my job .

don't know if it's because dd is still so little ( almost 8mo) or because i have a slightly different role in school this year that i'm not loving.

I'm quite new to MN and have found this thread really helpful. I am a first time mum and will be returning to work in the new year when my DS is 9 months.
Before I had my LO I worked full time (shift work) in a really demanding job.
The thought of going back to work does fill me with absolute dread which I just cannot shift.
TBH I wasn't really enjoying my job when I found out I was expecting and I was estatic when I finally left to go on mat leave.
As much as I would love to be a SAHM we just cannot afford it.
The thing that worries me the most is leaving early in the morning and getting home late at night & not spending quality time with my DS. My DP doesn't get home until late in the evening too.
I'm even considering changing my job to be closer to home and for better hours but then that involves a large pay drop.
I find the whole thing really stressfull it's nice to read this & realise im not alone.

you feel like you need 2 lives, if you like your job

I wish I was A SAHM. On my holidays, I feel and look less frazzled, we can walk through the living room in a straight line and I cook healthier meals. I am not stressed as I have time for me.

i find it so demoralising to work and be barely better off.

Today is a great exmaple why I m seriously considering giving up work afer DC2 arrives next year. Yesterday off with DD who has an ear infection. Due to work demands I go in today and send DD to nursery. She was fine and I rung 3 times to check on her. Lovely nursery so no chance of worrying about her being there. Every intention of scooting off at 3 so she has a short day but oh no! Something urgent crps up at work at 2.55. Can't be ignored or handed on so I end up staying till 5 so DD is at nursery till 6. Fortunately she is fine but I feel so guilty. . Maybe pregnancy hormones kicking in as well. This is just about do-able with 1 but I cant see it being so do-able with 2. No family nearby and DH struggles to help in these situations. Problem is my job is well paid (ish) for p/t work, I have being doing it for 8 years and my skills are very specialised. I am therefore reluctant to give it up as I would lose my final salary pension (sad I know) and the long term earning power. I cant see what else I would do with my skills that would match my current salary, etc. Making myself sound like Alan Sugar.I dont get paid a fortune but as p/t jobs go its pretty good. I earn the same as my mum who works f/t in an admin type job. Dilemma dilemma. The other problem is my job is in central London which is an hour from home. Pretty normal for London based jobs but not ideal. Would prefer to be near hom if working but that would definaitely mean doing something else.

wow didnt realise this thread was still alive !

guess it just goes to show how torn so many of us feel

its a hard part of being a woman

personally i still really really do not want to go back to work esp as we dont NEED the money, but would give us more disposable income/better lifestyle

was in a job i didnt really like that much but th money was good so i stuck it out, now ive had dd my world has become a brighter more wonderful plac and i dont want to go back to the person i was
and i feel that going back there could squash my new found spirit dd is now 4 and a half months

wow didnt realise this thread was still alive !

guess it just goes to show how torn so many of us feel

its a hard part of being a woman

personally i still really really do not want to go back to work esp as we dont NEED the money, but would give us more disposable income/better lifestyle

was in a job i didnt really like that much but th money was good so i stuck it out, now ive had dd my world has become a brighter more wonderful plac and i dont want to go back to the person i was
and i feel that going back there could squash my new found spirit dd is now 4 and a half months

I went back to work FT after baby 1 and found it really hard, I have now gone parttime and am earning some extra money selling toys, it's quite a new company called Tish Tash Toys. I do parties and have stalls at events and so on and usually take my youngest with me (oldest has just started school) , I feel much happier now and I have managed not to use a nursery yet for my youngest (she is 2). I am even thinking about giving up job altogether and just doing Tish tash Toys as I enjoy it so much

I went back to work FT after baby 1 and found it really hard, I have now gone parttime and am earning some extra money selling toys, it's quite a new company called Tish Tash Toys. I do parties and have stalls at events and so on and usually take my youngest with me (oldest has just started school) , I feel much happier now and I have managed not to use a nursery yet for my youngest (she is 2). I am even thinking about giving up job altogether and just doing Tish tash Toys as I enjoy it so much

Tbh - not on your Nelly. I'd go mad at home full time. But i'm finding working 3 days a perfect compromise. I have two dd's and have come back to work after maternity leave recently and am enjoying the break from childcare. When i'm at home I enjoy the break from work.

Sorry I am on the other boat! I work 3 to 4 days a week and I love it! The money is great, I am furthering my career and I love the time I have to spend with my babas!

I don't have to work to pay our mortgage but I chose to! And i am not going back to being a SHAM.

My respect and admiration to the women who can cope with it. I just cannot do it!

such a mixed bag isn't it
there is no right or wrong

you can only really do what feels right for you