Hello everyone, cravens you have been busy! So much to respond to here. Baby ha been teething and had a back issue I needed to sort as I couldn’t lift him!
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- *@stillcountingmyvotes*@Vintage123 and others... burn out. Yes, I do work out with many clients at this point. In fact, that’s what often pushes them to get help at a really critical time. It becomes both urgent and important and emotionally inescapable, to get out.
I’ve also been there myself. Will tell story when I have space to. I did a recent webinar on burnout, drop me a DM for link as It gets deleted if I post it here.
Things that help:
- If you are burnt out, you can’t and shouldn’t be thinking about your passions. If at all humanly possible, you should be doing as much as you possibly can, to regenerate, to stop and to rest. Self care, whoever and however you can.
- If it is an option, consider holiday time off or sabbatical. Just use leave to rest as much as you can.
- If it your actual job that’s breaking you, I would always explore with you how you could facilitate a safe and swift exit, if that is what you needed to retain your health.
- Burnout happens when your equation isn’t in alignment. When you work significantly outside of your fundamental make up, it is freaking exhausting. So the thing to diss is, is it the skills and work I am doing that exhausts me? Is it the subject area that dinindhes my enthusiasm? Is it the way that success and my value is being measured here? Or is it the environment?
If you reply, all of the above, consider a swift exit.
More often than not though, it is one of the four equation factors that is out of joint. Once you can get specific about which bit needs to be upped, then you have more energy and a more manageable plan of action. That’s why the definition work is so important, because until you have diagnosed the specific issue, you can’t shift it.
Example. I once worked at a big training company for eight months as their head of a new product line. There were 30 consultants and 400 sales people. Before I joined it I knew that it was a little bit mental. But I felt like I really needed a job at that particular point and so I compromised on my intuition that the environment was going to be just way too chaotic for me. Paragraph I quite like the work and I was interest in the subject areas and I cared about the outcomes for clients so that means it passion and impact are in alignment and I was using plenty of skills that I liked using so it should be good but environmentally I was just too asked for, as in suddenly a huge volume of projects were all coming at just me and my product- extending me way beyond the capacity I could fulfil in waking hours, let alone working hours. Plus, I wanted to do exceptional work and wasn’t able to let my standard slip just to get something out the door. A job hadn’t worked out previously for me and so I was a bit self-conscious about wanted to getting it right this time.
Coupled with many let’s say, ‘shirkers’around me the crippling level of the work that I needed to do, plus the exhausting amount of pointless meetings that I was supposed to attend which left me with no time to do the actual work, broke me in the end. I negotiated a mutual agreement termination of contract. And I read my book instead. It took me a long time to recover. At least a good five months.
When I picked myself back up, I chose carefully. Third time lucky. And it was way better.
Sometimes you have to go through something shit to discover what you don’t want.
- Sometimes what you want is so far away from what you are doing, that it an feel impossible to ever make a shift in mindset, energy, role, behaviour or whatever. This applies beyond careers, btw. Recognising that this is where you are at is awareness. And awareness in itself, can be curative and is certainly half the battles.
Then you become curious... why do I feel this way? What has worked and hasn’t and why? What does my being really need right now and how can I get super creative about making that experience happen. It’s at to much to explain with thumbs on social
Media, but you get the gist I hope. If you think about any other major changes in life, the probably began with either a wake up call (I’ll health, depression, panic etc) or through an opportunity (leave home,new love, job offer) etc.
The cleaner we are about what we want to experience in our work/life/family etc the more feasible it becomes to move a little bit towards it each week.
Will post more but I hope that is a helpful starter for ten. So much more to say but must abed for today :)