Anyone else preparing themselves to go back to a job they hate?!

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I'm going back to work today. Worked one day so far since Christmas but was a short day and wasn't too bad, but back today and tomorrow usual hours.

Anyone else preparing themselves for it?

My aim for January/February is to find a new job and hand in my notice ASAP (which I can't see going down well!). Until then I just need to keep my head down and get the place organised for when I leave. Think I'll spend the next few weeks going through everything, stock and paperwork etc, so if it ends badly and I leave without working my notice someone else can just pick it up straight away.

Yup, I'm not back in until Thursday but still dreading it. New job wouldn't help me as I hate work in general! In fairness its a good place to work, colleagues lovely, generous holidays etc.

What's made you hate your job?

Yes newyear! I’ve been applying for a couple since November but am doing more applications before I go back next week.
Intriguing to know why you and others hate their jobs? I hate mine because I am basically the bottom of the chain there - I used to be very senior but then became a stay at home mum for several years so had to start at the bottom again. I’ve tried to fit into the team and help out where I can but because I’m part time I’m very much an outsider.
Actively looking for something else i need to brush up on my personal statements I think as a couple of interviews I didn’t get shortlisted on.
All the best to you and everyone looking to change jobs in 2020

Not me but dh, he went back today. He’s NHS, used to love his job and is brilliant at it but he’s had all enthusiasm and motivation sucked out of him. He absolutely hates it now, counting down the 8 years until he retires.

I am due to return to work after a period of sickness absence. My full pay is running out and I have to return for financial reasons even though mentally I do not feel well enough.
I have several disabilities and I have been discriminated against very badly. I submitted a grievance which has recently been partially upheld but only the very small things I complained about. The bigger things (which I could prove!) were not upheld. So I'm appealing and I've submitted a tribunal claim. My anxiety is through the roof :(
I am actively looking for other work but being disabled that isn't hard. My disabilities have not changed or gotten worse since I started my current job - the difference is that when I started, I was young and unaware of reasonable adjustments, so I didn't ask for any and that's probably why I got the job.
16 years on, I know about reasonable adjustments and whilst I have received some, I haven't received them all. My employer's attitude towards me has completely changed.
My employer knows they cannot fire me, and they probably know I can't afford to leave, so they seem to be just making my life as difficult as possible but blaming it on 'misguided' staff members. Seems to be a lot of 'misguided' staff members and no one higher up actually taking responsibility!
My union are being great and so is my GP but I'm not the person I was last year. I feel physically sick at the thought of returning to work. I've lost a lot of weight.
I've been trying to keep myself occupied by doing online postgraduate courses to help me change careers. However, it now appears that to do so would mean starting at the bottom which would be a £20,000ish pay drop and we cannot afford for me to do that.
I wish I could just win the lottery or have a rich relative leave me a shitload of money.
I never thought I'd be in this position. I thought I had a job for life. Now my confidence is shot and I worry that my managers are right, I really am shit at my job and what if any new job is just the same? What if I'm shit in that new job too?
Sympathy for anyone in this position. We should maybe keep this thread going as a support thread and update each other on how we are doing in our job hunt.

isn't easy is what I meant to say!

Oh no, not at all. I’m really looking forward to going back to:

writing my annual and quarterly activity and business plans, trying to plug a budget gap because ‘someone’ went delinquent on something (but since they are the boss I can’t make a fuss), dealing with colleague (although lovely, quite distracting), dealing with bosses (one a whirlwind and the other the complete opposite), trying to cram two jobs into a ‘part time’ (haha) and rather underpaid job... also sorting with pensions and family insurance (I joke about having a stroke one of these days... but I’m not joking).

It's strangely comforting to know I'm not alone! I dislike my job for many reasons:

I've been here for too many years, and the longer I'm here the less I'm appreciated (same applies to every member of staff, just taken for granted now)

I can't progress any further than I currently am, so I'm stuck at the same level even though I'm only 30 and still have some ambition

It's a family business, which used to be a good thing but not so much anymore. Your line manager doesn't like it when the person you're complaining to her about is her husband. Even if she agrees and deals with it, the atmosphere is worse than if we were all just colleagues, and you know you're being talked about that night when they go home.

I work in retail, and it sucks the joy out of every Christmas. Getting trees and decorations out in August means I'm sick of looking at it by the time I need to put it out at home, I'm tired and stressed right through December which isn't fair on the kids who are full of excitement. And if it's not bad enough putting Christmas away in the house, I get to do it all again at work in January

There's many more reasons, but I know the time has come for me to look elsewhere, I've decided to just take anything in the NY, even if it means I have to keep looking for something else. I just want out of here.

I’m not the only one hoping for a lottery win then I have daydreams often about winning and running in to say I quit 🙌🙌

I am on Mat leave for another few months. But I am dreading going back.

I am planning on applying for new jobs closer to my return date and use my holiday as my notice period.

I was thinking about this earlier.

I’m back on Thursday and, while I love being off, I’ll be happy to see my colleagues and get back to routine.

I’m really lucky. I have a job I love. It’s stressful and can be frustrating but I thrive in it.

I’ve not always been so lucky- I’ve had jobs where the fear of going in on Monday morning would start on Saturday afternoon. It was all-encompassing and miserable. I’d utterly hate to be back in that situation again.

Hope the new year brings you a better job that you love, OP.

@PaperbackBlighter thank you you've hit the nail on the head there with the feeling of dread - I have 2 day off per week and the only time I feel like the weigh has been lifted are the nights before those days. But as soon as the morning comes I can't fully my enjoy my day because I know I'm back again tomorrow.

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it is hurtful and frustrating when people say "just get another job" as if another job will magically appear tomorrow morning.

Its also hurtful and upsetting when people say "just put your head down" or "just ignore it" or "you've got a good wage / benefits / easy job and lots of people don't" etc etc

Its really hard to get the support and empathy you deserve.

And there's the fear too - what if a new job isn't any better?

That resonated with me so much.
My job is wellish paid £24K plus £900 bonus per quarter if targets achieved. Fairly flexible.

It's sucking the soul out of me. It takes over my life. There is no work/life balance because the demands are so much that I have got to work at home.

@strictlymomdancing and @stilldoesntknowwhatshappening are you both looking for new jobs? Or just trying to put up with your current jobs for now?

I have a meeting next week with someone who works in recruitment. Trying not to get my hopes up but really hoping she has something that will be a good fit for me 🤞🏻

I'm on maturity leave and don't go back for another 6 months. But I am so desperate not to return. Luckily my company only provide SMP so I don't have to return.

However. Finding a new job with so degree of flexibility is going to be a nightmare :( I would even take a pay cut. But my husband can be out of the house anywhere from 05:30 until 06:00 the next morning for work. And his shifts are not the same so I can't rely on any predictability.
So I have to ensure I can do all pick ups and drop offs at the childminder. I can never do evenings or weekends. And the latest my childminder can work is 6pm.

Not a great candidate am I.

Apologies for the atrocious grammar. I am literate at least 😅
Shouldn't try to Mumsnet and bath the kids.

I'm looking for another job but not many at the same salary. My experience and qualifications are very niche, so this (plus my disabilities) make it very difficult.

So staying where I am but actively looking. Its very depressing. Part of me wishes they would just pay me off, but what if the money runs out before I find something else?

I actually love my job, but it has recently become untenable for me because of the owners spouse. This person tore a strip off me for some imagined sleight and has then taken every opportunity to let me know that they set up the role I'm now doing and could do it with their eyes closed (not realising that it has changed beyond measure). My immediate boss let it be known that my job was at risk if the owner decided to get involved. The spouse has taken to calling every week to make demands of me that I am not allowed to refuse. the final straw has been an office move, where I have been isolated from my assistant as the spouse has organised the office space for how it looks not how it functions.

I have an interview in the New year and have also been taken on by a recruitment agency. The company will struggle without me, but I cannot continue to work somewhere where they do not value me. The spouse thinks they can do my job so they can have it!

Feel the same. I quit my dream job (turned out to be a nightmare) with immediate effect, after 3 months. Now starting to question myself and my inadequacies.
Started new job. It's awful.
So sad.

I don't go back until Monday but started to feel anxious about it already. My job is fairly well paid with the opportunity to WAH some days, so whilst the job is mundane the terms and conditions are good. More than I would get anywhere else. I am middle aged, I doubt I would get a job as good as this now.

But it's the colleagues. A lot of us in the team have worked there a long time. It is stagnant and trying to do stuff differently or to change something is nigh on difficult. The team have faced lots of management changes and lots of bad behaviour crept in whilst we were left unmanaged. And even though we now have had a period of stability now, the newish managers are not experienced and are being played by the diehards. I find it a bit depressing. I like doing new stuff in new ways but the lunatics have taken over etc.

But the main thing is that old adage, familiarity breeds contempt. There is a underlying contempt that runs through interactions with colleagues. I find them rude and no respecter of boundaries, this is because we have all known each other too long and we are like a dysfunctional family. I have an equal contempt for them (not all of them but the queen bees and top boys) but it is so draining to be on guard or closed up so that info is not used against you. Or to not give them the opportunity to be sarcastic or scathing in their interactions.

I listen to podcasts or music all day to try and build an audio wall between me and them. There are only a couple of people I respect and they find it equally depressing and odd. We are the very definition of a toxic team.

If I could turn back time I would never stay working for the same organisation for a long time unless my career trajectory was stellar.

Due to go back to work tomorrow to start a new role that I don’t want (long story).

Trying to remain positive, but my heart just isn’t in it.

I will be looking for new roles, but had an interview at the end of November for a role I was perfect for and didn’t get it (came last) so that’s a big confidence knock.

Hoping 2020 is the year I secure my dream role. And if not my dream role, a role that doesn’t feel like a massive backwards step.

Thinking of you all... completely sucks to spend so much time doing something that isn’t right.

I hate my job but I can cope with going back to work because I have already decided that I will be handing in my notice this year. I have no new job lined up, but have enough in savings to live off until I can start to draw my pension. I am sick to the stomach that I will have to spend my life savings this way, but it is either that or get ill again. I used to love my job - now it gives me panic attacks just thinking about being there.

Sarcelle - are you me? I could have written that. I'm 50, been there 20 years, and just plodding along awaiting retirement, winning the lottery, redundancy, something. I also have headphones on all day as much as possible (sat in front of a computer)

This is such a sad post, so many people, so unhappy and stuck in awful toxic work situations........