Anyone else preparing themselves to go back to a job they hate?!

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I'm going back to work today. Worked one day so far since Christmas but was a short day and wasn't too bad, but back today and tomorrow usual hours.

Anyone else preparing themselves for it?

My aim for January/February is to find a new job and hand in my notice ASAP (which I can't see going down well!). Until then I just need to keep my head down and get the place organised for when I leave. Think I'll spend the next few weeks going through everything, stock and paperwork etc, so if it ends badly and I leave without working my notice someone else can just pick it up straight away.

Having to work full stop! When I see the women I know who are lucky enough to not have to work - and have enough money to have fun whilst not working - I look at my aged face and flabby body and feel very jealous (I know it’s nasty but can’t be helped really).

Oh well, as my mum used to say ‘oh why wasn’t I born rich instead of beautiful?’ (She was both...)

I have reached the point of disliking my job. It’s sapping my soul and I’m bored to death. I need to move on, and start an evening course to that end in jan.

I pray for a lottery win. Not even the jackpot is needed. The millionaire maker would be more than enough!

to all

I guess we should count our blessings that we are employed but it is hard when you are in the thick of it.

I have been buying more lottery tickets lately. I need to stop that, could get addicted to a dream. I want to retire, and I want my DH to as well. Won't happen for many many years.

Well today is my first ''proper' day back in the usual routine etc after Christmas!

I've already done two days but feel really down today, although the positive is that that feeling encouraged me to apply for a few jobs last night! Think today I'll crack on and have a few minutes break every hour to evaluate what to do next. Literally using preparing the place for me leaving as my motivation.

How are you all doing this morning?

Running late! It’s only me that’s is back to work/school so the good side is that I just go up, had a cup of hot lemon and ginger, wash, breakfast, made lunch and got dressed. Not having my coffee before I leave... hi ho, hi hi...

Sending good vibes to the other January 2nders...

Well I’ve already encountered a stroppy bus driver and an angry, shouty passenger (the two things weren’t unrelated). Everyone looks like they are going to their own execution. It’s grey and gloomy today, also damp and cold. Oh joy!

@Sarcelle I could relate to a lot of that

I think we should keep this thread going for the year and all support each other, keep each other sane

I don't return til end of Jan as I am signed off. How my return goes remains to be seen. I am working on my grievance appeal letter so that is terrifying in itself.

I am scared of getting upset or angry upon my return - there are so many people who wind me up and give me anxiety.

What is keeping me going is applying for other jobs - even if I am having little luck so far (disabled). Also having my union's support.

Admittedly their support has been rather see-saw but at least I'm not on my own.

@Lordfrontpaw I hope your day has improved! 

@strictlymomdancing yeah I'm happy to keep the thread going through this year, hopefully by the end of 2020 we'll all be much happier in our employment. Have you applied for many jobs so far?

I have applied for 8 jobs in the past 10 months. Got an interview for 2 and not successful. One application never got back to me at all.

think a teacher who doesn't want to do teaching anymore and you get an idea of how difficult my job search is. I've done extra qualifications but as I said, I'd need to start at the very bottom and I really can't afford to do that

Sympathies. I don't HATE my job as such but there have been a lot of changes recently in terms of organisation and my manager retired so I feel quite up in the air. On top of that, I'll be going on mat leave in early February and am deeply resentful at having to go back for 4 weeks of what will just be a dreary slog when all I want is cuddle my baby already! Hope everyone makes it through the day ok and best of luck with the job searches etc.! 2020 is our year!!!

@strictlymomdancing

I have learnt about grey rock technique on here and I deploy that tactic to stop people winding me up. People get a kick about getting a reaction and why give it to them.

I could try that, easier said that done though. any useful links?

I'm a very emotional person and also a very angry person right now. I want nothing more than to give everyone a piece of my mind but that would be unwise.

@stilldoesntknowwhatshappening £24k is not a good wage for one that's so full on....I was on £20k as a bloody apprentice!

@LemonPrism I understand that. But it does come with ridiculous flexibility. I can attend every school event for my 2 school aged children. I worked from home for the almost 2 weeks that they had back to back chickenpox and I get expenses for travel and parking. Which does add up.

So the job is the pits but while the kids are young and it helps to be involved while they have 2 parents working over FT hours.

had a few friends today contact me asking me to 'keep an eye out' for any jobs for them.

Wanted to tell them to piss off cause I've got my own job search to focus on lol

Dreading the return next week. I feel so ungrateful as I'm very well paid and the job comes with great perks but I started a new role a few months ago and I hate it.

Fortunately there is a lot of flexibility and I can work from home whenever I need to.

Can I join? I had my first day back today. I felt flat since Boxing Day. It was like I got Christmas out of the way and I had to work myself up to going back. Yesterday I just felt so flat and dull. Anxiety started to build over the evening and I couldn’t sleep last night. Since Boxing Day I’ve been having bad dreams. So definitely affecting my wellbeing. Just didn’t quite realise how much until had a break. Once I got through my emails this morning, I counted how many weeks until our holiday in May. Then I checked my leave card and tried to work out the best way to use my 9.5 days before March. Should I take a week off at the end of January? Should I hold out until the end of the year?

I’ve been at my job for 4 years and I knew within a few weeks that I’d made a mistake. They’d made it seem very promising when I applied and in the application and I got there and realised I’d been lied to. Throw in an unsupportive manager and team. I’ve had a few bereavements whilst there and my manager hasn’t even managed to offer general condolences, actually he usually offers some sort of dickhead comment. I was talking to DH yesterday about my funeral (not planning on dying soon but New Years Day is always a good opportunity get morbid ) and I mentioned that entry to my funeral is that someone knows the name of our dog (I haven’t posted it on Facebook so I have to have mentioned it to them at least). If we’re not close enough that you’ve heard me use my dogs name, you’re not close enough to pretend to mourn me. I came to the realisation that nobody in my team would get entry to my funeral. I know their kids and pets names. I think 3 members of my team couldn’t even tell me DH’s name and I’ve worked with them for four years (different office bases but still I can tell you their spouses names). This year I’ve also had my budgets cut. The projects I’m working have really started to deliver and the organisation just doesn’t see the value in what I do, so slashed my budget. They wanted to take everything but I’d already committed to some (necessary) payments but then I got a bollocking when the programmes aren’t delivering the same as last year. The final cherry on the turd cake is the constant politics and blame culture but taking credit for others work. It’s just exhausting. I don’t have the patience to play those games. From the next financial year I have also been informed that the small elements of my job that I do enjoy will need to be cut down on - we’re delivering more with less. Those small bits were getting though me the year and now...?

I’ve been looking for a new job for about 3 years. I decided to give it a year to see if it got better and to give my CV a chance. Can’t remember how many jobs I’ve applied to but I’ve attended 12 interviews and only got one of them (which I turned down because it felt worse than my current job). Worse, people know I’ve been unhappy for all these years and I’ve mentioned I’m applying to jobs/had interviews. I think people just think I’m lazy and like to complain. For people who know I’ve had some of interviews (only DH knows all the interviews I’ve attended and he can’t even keep count) it just makes me seem stupid that I can’t get a job. Which is a true statement because who the bloody hell needs 12 interviews and still can’t get a decent job?!?!

I’m in a niche area and not sure I want to be pigeon holed in there for the rest of my career but my CV is so dedicated to it that employers struggle to see why I want to leave the sector. I have a job I’m applying to at the moment, slightly out of my area but my transferable skills are a big tick for the role. It would be an amazing opportunity. Doing the parts of my job that I enjoy at the moment on a full time basis, pay rise, more flexible working and getting into a new sector. I’m scared to put the application in though. The number of jobs I’ve applied to, you’d think I’d be used to it but this one feels like the last hope. I know that is silly because jobs will always pop up. But it really feels like my last hope and if I don’t get this one it’s really going to knock me. My confidence is already hanging by a thread.

Sorry for the essay!

@Cakeandgin put the app in, nothing to lose.

Really, do it tomorrow.

@CakeAndGin that sounds really rough.

I know what you mean about being worried to put in job apps/get negative outcomes, and I haven’t applied for that many.

My role is really niche too, so when roles do come up (only every few months) there’s a lot of (self imposed) pressure to do well otherwise I’m stuck where I am for another few months. Of course, that pressure means more likelihood of fluffing the process. For me, anyway. 🙄

It’s really hard, but I think the only think you can do is realise that recruitment processes are a bit like sausage machines... there are certain things/words they’re looking for and if you don’t get a role it’s not because you aren’t good, it’s because you didn’t tick a particular box. One day, you’ll get an interview and you’ll tick more boxes than anyone one else. That might be the role you e seen, it might not be.

Be brave, put in for it. You never know

welcome newbies. I know how you feel @CakeAndGin. My CV is very similar.

I was unsuccessful for a job that sounded perfect. More inclusive and flexible. I thought I'd nailed the interview. They never even bothered to provide feedback.

But you should always apply because if you don't then obviously you definitely won't get it.

That sounds tough @CakeAndGin. I've seen a few roles I would love to apply for but have lacked the time to do so. Ironically the role I'm in at the moment that I hate keeps me so busy I don't have the time to look for another one properly. I've also only been in this role a few months and think it would look better if I least get a year under my belt before moving so I'm trudging on for another 9 months or so.

I'm dreading going in tomorrow and really can't face it so thought about working from home but then remembered I have a meeting with my manager so have to go in

My god. I'm back to work on 13th January. Dreading! To be honest I love my job but leaving my 1 year old at childminders and going back full time is heartbreaking.
As well not too sure if it is financially beneficial. Will see how it is once back to work. As well trying to figure out all this new morning routine and after work running to childminder is so scary.
How do you get your head around and turn off the mum guilt???

In my experience the morning routine and after work pick up eventually become second nature and through trial and error you will work it all out. We were fortunate enough to find a CM who lived a 5 minute walk away but she was then 50mins - 1 hour away from work so there were a few fraught evenings when we were caught in traffic/drama on the tube (we live in central London) but she was always very flexible. Hopefully your CM is as well, I generally find childminders are more 'forgiving' than nurseries if you are running a bit late.

I can't really advise re. the mum guilt - I didn't really feel any tbhI couldn't wait to go back after my first maternity leave as I missed all the adult and work interaction. How times change. I would love to have the option not to go into the office now.

I am back to work today. I have 2 part time jobs, this one is ok.

On Wednesday I'm back to my newer job. I've only been there a week.

I feel ill at the thought.