City lawyer with toddlers can't cope

[RosieIrene]

I work FT at a city firm and have two dd 1 and 3. Have a full time daily nanny but still can't cope. Work all day, come home and put kids to bed and work all evening to make billable target or have to go to client functions. So stressed out that on weekend just want to sit in garden with kids and do nothing. Can't sleep, can't talk to anyone. How do people manage?

Anna, you are indeed smug. I was biting my tongue on that. But now that you've been called a tit and smug, I feel compelled to register my vote with "smug".

Oi, potty mouth, fancy a meet up in Wimbers? 07 July. Jura is coming. You are welcome to join us.

Nemesis is not inevitable.

i assume you mean me?

i am in france then sorry

i think the difference is when the attitude is 'my way is the best and only way, despite your circumstances being vastly different to mine, your life choices ad chances different to mine, i refuse to accept that there way be comprimise and that my life decisions cannot remotely be the universal eutopia for parenting and life in general'

and this is not unique to one poster - maybe unique to 3

Is there another potty mouth here?

Pity. Can't say you weren't invited.

BlindinglyObvious

Thank you for the clarification. I can understand that both statements are valid.

Do you think it is neutral for the children that their mother and their nanny dislike one another?

Mumblechum - I had you down as a nanny.

I've lost track and can't remember whether I'm supposed to be insulted

custardo - I presume you are referring to Xenia, Mozhe and me?

Believe me, I do NOT think my way is the only way. I am only trying to say to those who say that full-time working is the only viable option for women that being a mother at home CAN be interesting and stimulating and good for children and mothers.

I get very irritated when this is taken as defence of the SAHM model. It's not. I've worked for many years, I will start work again in September (I have a contract signing meeting next Thursday) and most of my friends work and have children.

2 out of three don't know mozhaes strong views.

Mumble - Why on earth would you be insulted at being mistaken for a nanny?

Personally, I wouldn't, I just saw there was a scrap furthr down the thread where people were being derogatory about them.

Am I 3?

Damn damn damn. I was so happy not to be on the list, but now I'm worried it's me.

mumblechum - it was a whole load of fuss about nothing, with lots of posters getting all worked up about what other posters (me and Caroline) had apparently said. I was wildly misquoted out of context and slammed for it.

If only people would read the thread before getting all emotional we wouldn't waste so much energy on nothing.

Eleusis - I don't think of you as having particularly strong views. Custardo?

You might be in a minority there, Anna.

Well, Custy, who is the third muskateer?

Anna - Were you "wildly misquoted out of context"? I thought you were simply misquoted.

Caroline - the "out of context" refers to the fact that, although I had been very clear I lived in Paris and was talking about what I knew about here, that was not referred to and I was taken to be taking shots at trained English nannies. Which I was not, at all.

"Wildly misquoted" - personally, I do not think that "not particularly bright" equates in any way to "thick".

Like I said earlier

Not particularly beautiful
Not particularly rich
Not particularly kind

don't seem to me harsh condemnations of somebody's attributes. Or are they?

I think that "not particularly bright" within the context in which it wouas used could very reasob=nably be interpreted as a polite way of saying "thick".

Eleusis - if you try very hard, many things are possible. You are trying very hard to read "thick" into "not particularly bright". Go ahead, try as hard as possible.

Anna, now that was very smug.

No, that's sarcasm.

Blimey is this still going on?