Message for Xenia

[opinionsrus]

What I would like to ask is how exactly do you find so much spare time to chat on these boards about earning between £100k and £250k when you have five children of your own and also what seems must be a very demanding full time job?

I have just one child and a very part time job and this will be about the only 5 minutes I get to luxuriate on the internet?

Have I told you lately that I loooove you?

wanna be in my gang my gang my gang
d`ya wanna be in my gang
whhoa yeah

therestwo... oh God, I cringe. Who says "therestwo"? There "are" two.... please for my sake change your user name forthwith. It grates and scrapes. You will drive me from the board, heaven forfend. Or there is some correct form of "there is two" which is evading me as it's bed time.

Personally i think xenia has really raised the level of debate on all the threads she posts on....i rate her, especially as a professional mummy,( that one's just for you Xenia ! as do not usually refer to self like that..but go on you convinced me ! ),with a larger than average family, who's a bit further down the line than me....Carry on posting !

Haven't a clue what's going on. Might start posting random links to diverting sites in a moment though.

I'm glad you post on mn Xenia. It adds a bit of spice to life. Sometimes I think your comments are spot on, sometimes I don't. But I enjoy reading them.

I respect people who have the strength of their convictions. I have a big issue about being judged, patronised and prejudiced. To do sop implies that one considers oneself superior and a saviour. disagree but respect, obviously their are exceptions, racism, violence etc the opposing view. my husband works because he earns significantly more than me and I am glad to be a home with my children. my mum ( largely a single parent with two really shit husbands, had two / three jobs most of her life and in her sixties is now down to one. we were latchkey children and for this and a whole host of other reason I dont want this for my children. That is my choice and I respect others for making different ones so long as they dont feel they can sit in judgement on me. Xenia you life sound hard but I am sure I can give you a run for your money on that one as can many others on here and I am sure there are some whose have been much worse. but it is all relative, despite surviving my childhood, I dont feel elevated to a superior status to judgepeople who are getting on with their lives in a reasonable manner, not interering with anyone else.

Thanks, all. Judgment is an interesting thing. Some things we have to stand up and say are wrong such as those magic mentions and I do think there are objective universal things that are right and should be in all cultures. So beating children and wives (and husbands) always wrong. Children working in countries where their wages are needed - sometimes justifiable. Male circumcism arguably against the rights of the child but not so damaging I'd bad it. Female c always wrong even if 80% of the population in Eritrea or wherever have it and the women want it. SAHM - don't damage their children and nor do working mothers. Any parent who shouts at her children or hits them - wrong. Anyone saying male hands are physically incapable of cooking or changing a nappy - wrong or that women can't be MDs of our biggest companies because they're brains are too small - wrong. etc

ok then - just close down mumsnet and pout that last paragraph in its place.

I do know that if my DP were posting as a woman he'd choose a name very like Xenia. (notagrannyyet I agree with you there)

If DP had had his way our dds would be called Xena, Gabrielle and Callisto.

Now there is an interesting thread idea: "If my DH was on mumsnet what screenname would he choose?"

Oh God.... You don't think my DH types on mumsnet, do you???? Perish the thought!

Am not, I hasten to add, suggesting that the Xena or Callisto who are regular posters are my DP or men in disguise....

Why do you guys think Xenia is likely a man's name? (not that I think she is a man, I think she is a woman)
But, I am now curious about the meaning of "Xenia".

ROFL at custardo "just close down mumsnet and put that last paragraph in its place."

Xenia, my 4yo has asked me for "a recipe for all things" for Christmas. Could you knock something together for him, do you think? You seem to have most of the answers

Many computery-oriented men have a certain enthusiasm for science fiction, fantasy games and stories. and perhaps porn sites. Xenia's the sort of name which women in these sites and games are called. If you do a google search (which notyetagranny did, I haven't done it for Xenia but have done it for other names (before calling my dds them), you'll get the picture.

Catsmother

I long to know what other site Xenia is on - I would like to see it for myself - especially if she is giving advice to people - is that Legal advice by any chance?

Yes I have, actually, Hamster....in fact, i will find a link RIGHT NOW!!!

I'm with Catsmother. Sometimes Xenia's posts grate a bit, saying things like "both parents should work and both should do the housework" - life's not that simple.
BUT I do admire Xenia's honesty and sometimes I'm cheering her on. I am a tactless bugger myself, tho'.
Keep posting,X!

Am I right in presuming that Xenia is a barrister?

Oh, I completely agree that both should work and both should do childcare. Woudln't have it any other way in my house.

^^

I agree with Catsmother - on the 'other' site Xenia has given a lot of helpful and thoughtful advice to people - I always had a lot of respect for her over there and looked forward to reading her posts. That's why I feel so disappointed with some of her ramblings in the 250k thread - I feel quite angry that she has posted a lot of drivel about SAHMs which is based not on research (which shows time and again that children usually fare very well in the full-time care of a parent) or on her own observations (Xenia admits that she doesn't know any SAHMs in real life) but rather it is based on her own prejudices. She seems very bitter and twisted and is coming across on this site as a very harsh and judgmental woman - perhaps life as a single mum post-divorce has embittered you somewhat Xenia? Anyway - apologies for my post yesterday that you are full of bullshit - I don't really mean that - you usually have lots of interesting things to say (even if I don't always agree) - I am just rather miffed that you aren't showing others the same respect on here that you demand for yourself.

no mumblechum, Xenia is not a barrister