Would you leave a £250,000pa job to be a SAHM?

[misosoup]

Ok, I've changed my name for this, not quite sure why....

I really enjoy my job and it is pretty well paid but since I returned to work after having DD2 I have been thinking a lot about this.

I can afford not to work, dh's income is nothing like mine but still above average although it will clearly be a huge drop in our standard of living.

And I miss the kids do much during the day... I spend 2 hours per day with them plus weekends. There is no way I can cut my hours any more and part-time is out of the question.

But I have worked so hard to get here, against all odds. I don't want to throw it all away.

er yeeeeeeeeeeeeees

well said tigertum......

....children need a primary carer...mum or dad...and I accept in some cases dad is the one but in most cases the children need their mum

when you have one child ...your life doesn't change much...you can convince yourself that you can have it all, career, happiness, etc when you have more children you realise they need you in ways you never imagined.

Misosoup ..if you are missing the kids and feeling guilty now it won't go away..your heart is telling you what you should do...but your mind is going against it. As tigertum says you will NEVER get these days again.... the money/work is no comparison.... no matter what you do or what you get paid.

Money/lifestyle etc will not take those feelings away!!

Hope you work it all out
x

well just looking at cappucino's name is making me feel thirsty.

wheedles come over here, my dear, and tell me - are you a double shot beverage? leer

imo tis sasy to work thwn kdis are at nursery
its when they have after chool stuff to do thats the issue

oh and btw, despite the attempts of some people on this thread (e.g. Xenia, poppet) to pigeonhole us into two camps (i.e. the SAHMs on this thread are all blablabla)

I would just like to say that I have been a WOHM
and a SAHM
and now I work p/t
and plan to work f/t one day
life is a bit more complicated than Us and Them
thanks be to god and the Pankhursts

foxy, you aren't meant to drive past, you are meant to go in, make merry, and add a few shekels to the peahead coffers!

oh I'm sure over the years, I have lined a few of the peahead pockets!

fox, don't bore me, I am quite aware of that.
But no, I don't "have it wrong", I have an opinion.
So sorry that you are itching to get back to work but how wonderfully lucky your children are to have had you to themselves so far. How they will thank you.
That is my point. The poor little darling children cast off by their parents who don't love them enough to stay at home and be bored by them.

In my opinion, it is a cop out to get someone else to do the hard graft for you.

Now I will leave you lot to get all defensive and guilt ridden. I am off to spend some precious, quality, irretreivable time with my LO, who are just about to wake up.

bye bye now. xx

Cappuccino, I'll quote you again
Being a SAHM is a positive choice, just as being a WOHM. Both should be given their full appreciation. Both can be hard work, can be stimulating, and both are worthy of admiration.
At this time of the day, I'd like a macchiato

If you can afford it and you and dh agree - I would - stuff the money! I'm a SAHM and love it - I am looking forward to going back to work once no3 is at school though lol! Good luck with your decision.

slurp

quickly licks foam off cappucino when she isn't looking

burp

dang, I forgot that extra 'c' AGAIN

thankyoupoppet - just stop it. You are annoying and silly - and I am one of the SAHMs you rate so highly! I would hate to think of myself in the same camp as you...even though I have made the same practical choice as you (to SAH). Just goes to show - we are all different - it is much more complex than SAHM/WOHM

PPH get off my damn froth

it's everything I stand for

not any more it isn't

poppet, you have it wrong because you cannot respect other people's opinions.

I don't give a monkey's arse whether people work or not. What really rubs me up the wrong way are people like you who feel they have to be evangelical about the choice they have made (and you were lucky enough to have a choice) and then try and make other people feel guilty!

totally agree foxinsocks - well said

well said fox

I've got an idea

let's throw poppet and Xenia into a pit

and they can live there forever together

Wow - all you ladies do get your pretty little heads in a spin when someone criticises you for not looking after your own children! I've rarely seen such patronising and shirty comments as some aimed at Thankyoupoppet. This is meant to be a discussion; she offered her opinion and instead of discussing it, you all got your knickers in a twist.
I left a very highly paid job (with no hope of returning post children) when I discovered I was pregnant with my first child. I have now been a SAHM for 4 years and will continue to do so until they are both at school. There is no way that I would hand over the most precious things in my whole world to someone else to bring up for the most formative and fleeting years of their lives. We have made quite a few financial sacrifices in order to be able to do this, and if necessary would make more. I do know couples who say "We can't afford not to both work" but they have new cars, several holidays a year and almost full time childcare, so I'm afraid I think they don't want to drastically change their lifestyles.

ol at get off my froth

satine, are you Piers Morgan?

If I were Piers Morgan, I'd have entirely ignored the subject being discussed and just droned on and on about my fabulous new children's newspaper until everyone went away and started another thread......

'The poor little darling children cast off by their parents who don't love them enough to stay at home and be bored by them.'

I am sorry but I think accusing working parents of not loving their children enough is horrendous and I am not surprised people got shirty.