Team member blanking / ignoring me

[Idiotdh]

I rejoined a team recently that I was part of a few years ago. At that time I was friendly with and worked closely with a certain colleague.
For some reason now he doesn't even register me in the room, sits elsewhere during breaks and doesn't speak to me or include me in anything unless its absolutely necessary.
I just don't know why he is doing this...is he afraid of the competition? Does he dislike me? It's as if he wants me out of the team. It's not that we don't know each other very well...we do!

Can you not just go up to him and start chatting? If you know him very well

Yes, of course I do...what I mean is, he's being off with me, blanking me and avoiding chatting and contact.

I find it odd...can only think he now sees me as a threat maybe , or perhaps finds me annoying.hopefully it's not because he finds me a poor worker.

I don't know, either ask him or let him knock himself out.

What does knock himself out mean? I would ask him but feel sure it might make matters worse...he may brush it off, repeat my comment to someone else or minimise it...I don't think he will say...oh yes it's because.....

It means 'do what ever you want, doesnt bother me'.

Maybe he doesn't remember you... He's had a form of amnesia or perhaps severe face blindness! Try wearing a name tag.

Either you ask him if everything's ok, or you just leave him to get on with being a knob.

No, he knows me very well, we have worked continuously but more loosely together for years. It's his freezing out attitude which is strange.

I know how his mind works.. If I ask him if everything is ok he will translate that into I have a problem with him for no reason.

Well, let him get on with it. There seems little we can do to help.

He sounds bonkers. You're better off with him not talking to you.

I think he has a problem with mt...I just don't know what it is. It is partly undermining me so I think he is being competitive.

I think he wants me off the team.

Well if you're not prepared to ask someone you know well and were friendly with what's up, you really need to just ignore it. How is him ignoring you undermining you exactly? Surely it just makes him look rude and unpleasant?

I agree, he must look like a total knob.

We don't know that he looks like a total knob. Just that he is keeping himself to himself. Which isn't actually a crime.

True. I'm getting carried away.

Well in my book blanking/ignoring someone you know well and were previously friendly with makes you look rude and unpleasant, but that's just my opinion.

Well in my book blanking/ignoring someone you know well and were previously friendly with makes you look rude and unpleasant, but that's just my opinion.

Alternatively, there may well be good reason, or he is just keeping himself to himself. If the OP won't actually ask him, there seems little one can actually do. There are no laws that say you have to be pleasant to everyone. Perhaps he is jealous that she left and decided to come back? Perhaps he lost his gran the week before she came back? Who knows...

Maybe he wants her to ask him what's wrong because he's smitten.

Then that is game playing! And not something to get involved with. The OP isn't going to ask him so her options are somewhat limited.

Maybe he fancies you and now you are with someone

Maybe his girlfriend thinks he fancies you and has asked him not to speak to you

Maybe he's been recruited by MI5 and is an undercover agent who can't get too close to anyone.

Just treat him professionally not as if you are friends and try to forget it.

I know how his mind works.. If I ask him if everything is ok he will translate that into I have a problem with him for no reason.

But you do have a problem with him. You are here asking about it

Ignoring/blanking someone does make you look like a knob