F*****g Goverment! Im so upset - I dont know what to do

[MammyShirl]

I just called Inland Revenue and they said we are not entitled to any help with childcare so basically I can't afford to work and I cant afford to not work. I don?t understand this government, they don?t seem to want to help people who want to help themselves. They just waste money on no-hopers!

I might as well chuck my boyfriend out, leave my job and say I'm homeless to get any help, and on the way damage my leg so I can be registered disabled and get a free car - its sad but true!

So what's next for people who don?t get help with childcare - where do us people who want and need to work stand? Is there no government funded nurseries?

What are my options?

We earn what I consider low wages well under 30k, we are in a lot of debt and just about makes ends meet each month, we dont earn enough to pay our bills we just balance it. i work part time and we need the money. my mother looks fter my dd but is now finding it difficult so i need to get my dd into a nursery, ive been looking for a couple of weeks and yesterday, trailed arouns chiswick/acton from 10 - 5pm, i was so tired, they are so expensive and i really stupidly thought we would get some help with the costs - but no! nothing! so what do i do now, we cant live on my dh wages, we cant afford to pay the nursery costs as it costs two thirds of my monthly wage. i am desperate, what the f* is this goverment up to. when i lived in australua they really take care of you, their money is well spent and not wasted on no-hopers like it is here. im sorry but i cant express or say what i really want to say as i will come across arrogant and racist which im not im just saying what is true! the goverment needs to start taking care and putting people first who want to help themselves, they really do have their priorities wrong.

im so anrgy and i feel so low, my debts feel like a ton of bricks on my shoulders, i work hard and always have, i dont spend much, i dont have much. i pay rent, my bills and ive worked since 14, i see people from school living in nicely decorated houses, do they work? - no! they get all because they can, because they choose to cheat the system, but who is they clever one? not me the mug! i should learn a lesson from them that i cant fight this system i should just join it or suffer in silence as no-one wants to hear from me unless im disabled, homless, single or a refugee. sure they need help but what about all the falling people around them, soon we will be in the same boat as homeless people an dthen they will have to help me and it would cost alot more then it would if they just gave me some f help now so i can look afte rmy family.

i just want to screaaaaaaaaaaaaam!

sorry if i offend anyone but we should be allowed to say what we feel, i dont hate anyone just the goverment.

But, pollingfold, anyone you pay to look after a child has to be registered as a childminder.

Tissy - no you don't. If someone comes into your own home to do the childcare they don't have to be registered. But then you can't claim tax credit for them either.

One other option - have you thought of getting an au-pair? You need a spare room for them, but they are £50 per week for 25 hours work. Extremely cheap. And mostly positive - they are living in your house so get to know the kids really well, and I've found it a very positive and worthwhile experience. You do need that extra room though, and you need to remember that they are young girls (mostly between 18 and 22) who need lots of guidance, though usually they are used to and like children, otherwise they wouldn't bother to do it. Would you be able to do that?

hello meanbean

i live in a very small 2 bed flat, my dd is in our room now, we cant move her into the other room yest as it is filled with junk,records, pieces of hideous furniture (our flat is rented fully furnished with crap).

so there is no room plus i really dont like the idea of some young girl living with me and my already sex starved dh!!!! thats asking for trouble! our couch is just big enough for the two of us!

i think for now my mum will continue to look after her - although its getting harder for her... also i think i may lose my job soon, work is so quiet and i feel like im excluded fromthings so i have a feeling i may be asked to leave soon! i hope not, i think ill start looking now. dont fancy queing up for jobseekers allowance... although id probably be better off financially. silly really how this country works!

anyone got a job with a free creche, 4 months holiday a year, 6 job reviews per year, free lunches and a salary of 50k for two days a week... ahhhhhhhh if only!