Hey all,
Just wanted to canvass opinions on this - please be kind to me.
A work colleague is having a 'do' to celebrate a milestone birthday. She has invited virtually everybody we work with - except me and a few other people. I have had some issues with this woman - she was my mentor when I first started and this seemed to make her feel she could boss me about even when I was long past my probationary period. Things came to head this spring when I complained to our line manager about her constantly nagging me, even to the point of following me to the toilet (to check that I was going to the toilet and not skiving!). Our line manager had a word with her and she backed right off, with the result that I was much happier to work with her. I really felt things between us were resolved and I never disliked her as a person anyway - she is really good at the job (a caring role) and I understand why she was picked to mentor me.
So I was really upset to find out that I haven't been invited to her party, especially as virtually the whole of the rest of the department has - it is not like she has only invited people she is particularly friendly with. Other members of staff have had similar 'dos' and just put a notice up in the staff room, inviting anybody who wants to go. One of my other colleagues reckons this colleague hasn't done this because she doesn't want people allied with our department, who we hardly work with, turning up. But am I alone in thinking that if you're having a party it's only fair to either invite all your work colleagues or invite none?
It is a fancy dress party - everybody else is busy planning their costumes, whilst I sit there feeling like a total muppet.