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LadyCapybara · Today 01:25

@Wishesandhorses

It's always interesting how hard some posters will work to make this into another and more comfortable issue.

The hospital is tiny
Female doctors can't be guaranteed
It's unreasonable to want a female doctor.
Chaperones

I only added some information that wasn’t in the DM article. At no point did I say it was unreasonable to want a female doctor - just that in the ED, it may not be possible. And yes, chaperones are an option. Are facts a problem for you?

2021x · Today 02:08

viques · Yesterday 23:43

I think you are forgetting that Upton gave witness evidence during an employment tribunal. The evidence he gave in defence of his experience and practice as an emergency doctor made it abundantly clear that as far as he was concerned there was no need for him to declare to any female patient that he was a TIM, as far as he was concerned he was/is a biological female and should be respected as such without anyone questioning him.

The Daily Mail is not the source. The source is Uptons mouth.

Agreed.

But we are not talking about what he said.

We are talking about what the Daily Mail is allowed to report regarding a person's hospital visit in Australia, and where they might spin a narrative to sell a story.

Distractedbydogz · Today 03:22

I have worked in multiple EDs of multiple sizes in multiple parts of Australia. We CAN and DO accommodate requests for female Drs. It is very rare even in small departments that there is no female Dr on shift. The only time this might happen is a single dr on call at a 20 bed rural hospital. The dr involved in this case is required to be supervised (due to visa/being less than one yr in Aus) and would not be the single dr in a hospital.
We accommodate requests for female dr for various reasons including religion, trauma, mental health issues etc.
Additionally, I've noticed in recent years the tendancy is that in emergency departments vaginal examinations tend to be deferred to female doctors even if the patient hasn't asked.

Helleofabore · Today 06:01

2021x · Yesterday 23:13

My argument isn’t that he isn’t a complete shit. Any man that sees a female only sign on the door and thinks they are too special for it to apply to them is the exact reason we have single sex spaces.

My argument is that there isn’t enough evidence in this instance to demonstrate what the Daily Mail is saying happening because he was forcing his “care” on her.

They are shit stirring and if they get it wrong Dr Upton can point to it when he is being a complete shit and get away with it.

As an immigrant to NZ I can confirm the locals don’t give a flying fuck about you and see anyone as an interloper. He will have no support and he will be completely alone there. This bullshittery is only being accepted by the government elites not the general public. He will have a miserable time, then probably come over the NZ where it is a bit more chill and cause drama here as well.

I am sorry for your experience and if has been horrific. However, some of my closest friends in Australia moved there as adults and it is pretty clear that I and their other friends do indeed care about them. Some of my family are also immigrants from the UK living there also and it is fair to say that they are also cared for.

As an immigrant to the UK, I too have had very shitty experiences from British people. It is perhaps an experience of being an immigrant. However, I certainly don’t judge all Brits based on this.

You have made it clear that don’t believe the conclusion that the DM has drawn, and you obviously don’t believe that Rachel Wong will have checked her source before making a statement. Fair enough. Point taken.

Yet with this post, you have just made your own presumptions that are not even credible but are projections from your own personal experience.

LadyCapybara · Today 06:05

Distractedbydogz · Today 03:22

I have worked in multiple EDs of multiple sizes in multiple parts of Australia. We CAN and DO accommodate requests for female Drs. It is very rare even in small departments that there is no female Dr on shift. The only time this might happen is a single dr on call at a 20 bed rural hospital. The dr involved in this case is required to be supervised (due to visa/being less than one yr in Aus) and would not be the single dr in a hospital.
We accommodate requests for female dr for various reasons including religion, trauma, mental health issues etc.
Additionally, I've noticed in recent years the tendancy is that in emergency departments vaginal examinations tend to be deferred to female doctors even if the patient hasn't asked.

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though. In wards and outpatients, yes, but the wait to see a doctor - any doctor - in ED can be many, many hours dependent on the condition. Making particular conditions about the type of doctor you will see can only extend that time. I understand some women do have specific reasons, but that is where chaperones come in.

Before anyone says “you’re dismissing women’s experiences in hospitals”, no. I’ve had terrible experiences in NSW hospitals specifically due to being the only woman on a ward of men (more than once - that was John Hunter) and sleeping in a dayroom due to fear of the man in the bed opposite me. Both of these were relatively recent. NSW Health does have work to do in that particular space.

Helleofabore · Today 06:08

Distractedbydogz · Today 03:22

I have worked in multiple EDs of multiple sizes in multiple parts of Australia. We CAN and DO accommodate requests for female Drs. It is very rare even in small departments that there is no female Dr on shift. The only time this might happen is a single dr on call at a 20 bed rural hospital. The dr involved in this case is required to be supervised (due to visa/being less than one yr in Aus) and would not be the single dr in a hospital.
We accommodate requests for female dr for various reasons including religion, trauma, mental health issues etc.
Additionally, I've noticed in recent years the tendancy is that in emergency departments vaginal examinations tend to be deferred to female doctors even if the patient hasn't asked.

Thank you. That is good to know.

Do you happen to know what the current policy is if a female patient asks for a female health care professional and there is a male health care professional there who has claimed to be female on shift, does the policy state he should be able to present himself as a female option ?

I know one state in particular must have that policy from my friend’s experience, which was not ED but was for an intimate examination none the less.

nicepotoftea · Today 06:09

LadyCapybara · Today 06:05

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though. In wards and outpatients, yes, but the wait to see a doctor - any doctor - in ED can be many, many hours dependent on the condition. Making particular conditions about the type of doctor you will see can only extend that time. I understand some women do have specific reasons, but that is where chaperones come in.

Before anyone says “you’re dismissing women’s experiences in hospitals”, no. I’ve had terrible experiences in NSW hospitals specifically due to being the only woman on a ward of men (more than once - that was John Hunter) and sleeping in a dayroom due to fear of the man in the bed opposite me. Both of these were relatively recent. NSW Health does have work to do in that particular space.

But presumably a patient has the right to refuse treatment and must give informed consent to treatment?

Helleofabore · Today 06:16

Chaperone’s really are not the magic answer here.

Chaperones are only to remove the potential of physical abuse and verbal abuse. Chaperones do not help where a female person will be concerned for other reasons, including the reaction to any male person physically touching or even just seeing them in a state of undress.

Just one example among many, even things like having an internal ultrasound is made painful when it is being done by a male vs a female practitioner. And that is just the physical impact.

If anything chaperones also are likely there to prevent complaints of abuse. I particularly remember a doctor I went to for a skin check in Australia was only two years after charged and conviction for sexual assaulting his female patients. My GP here has a policy that he has to have a female chaperone when he does a skin check and I don’t believe it is for only for patient’s comfort.

Helleofabore · Today 06:17

Helleofabore · Today 06:01

I am sorry for your experience and if has been horrific. However, some of my closest friends in Australia moved there as adults and it is pretty clear that I and their other friends do indeed care about them. Some of my family are also immigrants from the UK living there also and it is fair to say that they are also cared for.

As an immigrant to the UK, I too have had very shitty experiences from British people. It is perhaps an experience of being an immigrant. However, I certainly don’t judge all Brits based on this.

You have made it clear that don’t believe the conclusion that the DM has drawn, and you obviously don’t believe that Rachel Wong will have checked her source before making a statement. Fair enough. Point taken.

Yet with this post, you have just made your own presumptions that are not even credible but are projections from your own personal experience.

Sorry for the typos

NotBadConsidering · Today 06:22

LadyCapybara · Today 06:05

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though. In wards and outpatients, yes, but the wait to see a doctor - any doctor - in ED can be many, many hours dependent on the condition. Making particular conditions about the type of doctor you will see can only extend that time. I understand some women do have specific reasons, but that is where chaperones come in.

Before anyone says “you’re dismissing women’s experiences in hospitals”, no. I’ve had terrible experiences in NSW hospitals specifically due to being the only woman on a ward of men (more than once - that was John Hunter) and sleeping in a dayroom due to fear of the man in the bed opposite me. Both of these were relatively recent. NSW Health does have work to do in that particular space.

I have worked in multiple EDs of multiple sizes in multiple parts of Australia. We CAN and DO accommodate requests for female Drs

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though.

😵‍💫

Helleofabore · Today 06:29

LadyCapybara · Today 06:05

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though. In wards and outpatients, yes, but the wait to see a doctor - any doctor - in ED can be many, many hours dependent on the condition. Making particular conditions about the type of doctor you will see can only extend that time. I understand some women do have specific reasons, but that is where chaperones come in.

Before anyone says “you’re dismissing women’s experiences in hospitals”, no. I’ve had terrible experiences in NSW hospitals specifically due to being the only woman on a ward of men (more than once - that was John Hunter) and sleeping in a dayroom due to fear of the man in the bed opposite me. Both of these were relatively recent. NSW Health does have work to do in that particular space.

I am sorry to hear about your mixed sex room experiences. I completely understand. It was one of my biggest regrets that I couldn’t assist my own mother who had dementia and was put in a mixed sex room in an Australian hospital. As she was a domestic violence survivor, that was a traumatising experience for her and we felt powerless to help her. The additional stress was clearly evident.

The mixed sex hospital room really needs to stop.

pearpudding · Today 06:35

LadyCapybara · Yesterday 11:20

I was doing no such thing.

I live in the area. My grandmother died in that hospital. I’m well aware of its size. The ED often struggles with long wait times.

Just because I said female doctors can’t be requested in the ED doesn’t mean OH SHIT BAD FAITH. Stop attacking me please.

It's not just Port Macquarie Base Hospital that 'often struggles with long wait times'. I would say that most hospitals do. Some more than 'often; - more like always struggle with long wait times.

Even whopping great big tertiary hospitals like Westmead, RNS, PoW and John Hunter!

Helleofabore · Today 06:43

pearpudding · Today 06:35

It's not just Port Macquarie Base Hospital that 'often struggles with long wait times'. I would say that most hospitals do. Some more than 'often; - more like always struggle with long wait times.

Even whopping great big tertiary hospitals like Westmead, RNS, PoW and John Hunter!

And in London ED’s too.

LadyCapybara · Today 07:11

pearpudding · Today 06:35

It's not just Port Macquarie Base Hospital that 'often struggles with long wait times'. I would say that most hospitals do. Some more than 'often; - more like always struggle with long wait times.

Even whopping great big tertiary hospitals like Westmead, RNS, PoW and John Hunter!

Absolutely agree.

LadyCapybara · Today 07:15

NotBadConsidering · Today 06:22

I have worked in multiple EDs of multiple sizes in multiple parts of Australia. We CAN and DO accommodate requests for female Drs

I’m not sure how this works in an ED environment, though.

😵‍💫

Yes? I’m not sure how in works in reality when there are few doctors rostered and patients that have been waiting for (in some cases) 10 hours or more to be be seen.

NotBadConsidering · Today 07:19

LadyCapybara · Today 07:15

Yes? I’m not sure how in works in reality when there are few doctors rostered and patients that have been waiting for (in some cases) 10 hours or more to be be seen.

Someone who has done it, worked in those places and low workforce environments has told you it is completely workable. Just accept it wasn’t a factor in this case and move on.

LadyCapybara · Today 07:26

nicepotoftea · Today 06:09

But presumably a patient has the right to refuse treatment and must give informed consent to treatment?

Of course. But we’re talking about the ED here. Refusing treatment is delaying treatment - that’s just the way it is.

Port Macquarie is 3 1/2 hours away from the John Hunter Hospital. That is the choice a patient would likely make if they didn’t want to go to Port Macquarie. Many more complex cases are sent there in any case - I used to receive a regular treatment monthly at John Hunter, and people would drive from Port Macquarie every month for similar. If you’re bitten by a shark in the Port, you’re not treated at the local hospital, but at John Hunter.

LadyCapybara · Today 07:27

NotBadConsidering · Today 07:19

Someone who has done it, worked in those places and low workforce environments has told you it is completely workable. Just accept it wasn’t a factor in this case and move on.

I’m allowed to ask for further information. They said they worked there, but not in what capacity, note.

alteredimage · Today 07:31

As an immigrant to NZ I can confirm the locals don’t give a flying fuck about you and see anyone as an interloper. He will have no support and he will be completely alone there.

This.

My daughter left for Australia about the same time as Theo/Beth/Lis. NHS workforce planning is so poor that half her year group were left without jobs after finishing their Foundation training. She already knew 14 others from the UK working in the same hospital before she arrived.

She has been lucky, being employed in a rotational position in her preferred speciality in a large hospital group in a major city. It is the first time they had employed non-Australians, and her lovely mentor is helping her navigate a career path despite the restrictions that flow from her lack of Resident status. She also has the advantage of having worked in a particularly stretched bit of the NHS where you don't survive unless you are able to work closely with the nursing team and other HCPs, leading to her being invited along for social events with a mixed group of Aussie and British nurses. Apparently a rare honour for a newly-arrived Brit doctor.

That said it is not that easy. The working culture different to the UK, somehow more individual and more ambitious. Her social life mainly involves young Brits and Irish enjoying what they see as a working holiday, with people constantly arriving and leaving. The climate is different, and though she is enjoying the outdoor life, she is missing the cultural depth of the UK. Working conditions are better, but different, with less autonomy, (her experience was of an NHS stretched to breaking point, so too much autonomy), and generous time off after a run of shifts.

Theo/Beth/Lis' experience is more typical in terms of jobs young British doctors are normally recruited to. A&E with its tough shift patterns, and somewhere remote. Australia is huge, and even places that look nearby on the map involve hours of driving.

The DM article suggests Theo/Beth/Lis's wife has gone with him. I assume that they will not keen to get involved in the burgeoning local LGBQT+++ scene that the DM describes. Do they have a job? Port Macquarie has a population of about 50,000. Smaller than Bridgend, Weymouth or Kircaldy. The climate is described a humid sub-tropical, described as being one of the best rated climates in Australia, but still challenging if you are from Fife. Many hospital colleagues will be civil and professional but keep their distance. In part because they will have seen too many Brits on short term contracts to want to reach out, but also because of the history. Whilst the brutal shift patterns will not be conducive to taking part in sports or other regular community activities.

I do not envy his wife.

Imdunfer · Today 07:32

2021x · Yesterday 20:56

From statements made by Dr Az Hakim AGP is incredibly rare compared to transvestism- and has been overblown in its threat to women. They get off as seeing themselves as a woman but don’t in general use other women to do that.

The real perpetrators of aggression towards women are cross-dressers who have a history of abuse from a dominant female care giver. Some of this is sexualised some of it isn’t. It’s a way of them possessing the caregiver and this spills over into dominating and invading women’s spaces.

My suggestion is the removal of
self-ID will identify these perpetrators as they won’t be able to get a GRC. Their aggression to women will be identified in the assessment process and they will be sent to private clubs to deal with their drama. In theory GRCs will be defunct soon anyway because the only reason people wanted them was to erase the face they are male and Sex Matters is pushing back against that.

This is a many headed snake and we have to be strategic. Self ID supports the idea that being trans is a health and normal state of being, which is a the heart of this debate. If that is idea and actions removed then all the other issue become much more manageable.

I understand your point but I don't share your faith in the assessment process.

Imdunfer · Today 07:39

2021x · Today 02:08

Agreed.

But we are not talking about what he said.

We are talking about what the Daily Mail is allowed to report regarding a person's hospital visit in Australia, and where they might spin a narrative to sell a story.

It's enough of a problem for me that a female doctor was requested and a male doctor was sent. A male doctor who previously stated in court under oath that he would do exactly that. Those are facts, if the rest is Mail hyperbole it doesn't really change anything.

SirChenjins · Today 08:39

2021x · Today 02:08

Agreed.

But we are not talking about what he said.

We are talking about what the Daily Mail is allowed to report regarding a person's hospital visit in Australia, and where they might spin a narrative to sell a story.

There is no spin in the way you're claiming. You said in an earlier post that the DM said this was happening because he was forcing his care on her. They didn't.

SirChenjins · Today 08:51

alteredimage · Today 07:31

As an immigrant to NZ I can confirm the locals don’t give a flying fuck about you and see anyone as an interloper. He will have no support and he will be completely alone there.

This.

My daughter left for Australia about the same time as Theo/Beth/Lis. NHS workforce planning is so poor that half her year group were left without jobs after finishing their Foundation training. She already knew 14 others from the UK working in the same hospital before she arrived.

She has been lucky, being employed in a rotational position in her preferred speciality in a large hospital group in a major city. It is the first time they had employed non-Australians, and her lovely mentor is helping her navigate a career path despite the restrictions that flow from her lack of Resident status. She also has the advantage of having worked in a particularly stretched bit of the NHS where you don't survive unless you are able to work closely with the nursing team and other HCPs, leading to her being invited along for social events with a mixed group of Aussie and British nurses. Apparently a rare honour for a newly-arrived Brit doctor.

That said it is not that easy. The working culture different to the UK, somehow more individual and more ambitious. Her social life mainly involves young Brits and Irish enjoying what they see as a working holiday, with people constantly arriving and leaving. The climate is different, and though she is enjoying the outdoor life, she is missing the cultural depth of the UK. Working conditions are better, but different, with less autonomy, (her experience was of an NHS stretched to breaking point, so too much autonomy), and generous time off after a run of shifts.

Theo/Beth/Lis' experience is more typical in terms of jobs young British doctors are normally recruited to. A&E with its tough shift patterns, and somewhere remote. Australia is huge, and even places that look nearby on the map involve hours of driving.

The DM article suggests Theo/Beth/Lis's wife has gone with him. I assume that they will not keen to get involved in the burgeoning local LGBQT+++ scene that the DM describes. Do they have a job? Port Macquarie has a population of about 50,000. Smaller than Bridgend, Weymouth or Kircaldy. The climate is described a humid sub-tropical, described as being one of the best rated climates in Australia, but still challenging if you are from Fife. Many hospital colleagues will be civil and professional but keep their distance. In part because they will have seen too many Brits on short term contracts to want to reach out, but also because of the history. Whilst the brutal shift patterns will not be conducive to taking part in sports or other regular community activities.

I do not envy his wife.

Papers are reporting Upton is a keen hockey player and referees at matches for the Port Macquarie Hastings Hockey Association (and gets paid accordingly).

NearHit · Today 09:11

Newname26 · Yesterday 21:01

Which is totally gaslighted and lying to women.

I'd much rather have an actual man than a trans anything.

Indeed, and it’s often been said that women would rather use male toilets, at least there’s no men in there trying to transgress women’s boundaries over toilets at least.
It’s the worst type of men that do this.

alteredimage · Today 09:14

SirChenjins · Today 08:51

Papers are reporting Upton is a keen hockey player and referees at matches for the Port Macquarie Hastings Hockey Association (and gets paid accordingly).

That as may be, but A&E departments need 24/7 cover and rotas will be all over the place: nights, longs, weekends. Taking on paid refereeing shifts when you are free, makes sense. But near impossible to commit to regular team training and matches.

Anyway its not Theo/Beth/Lis I am thinking about. Life can't be a bunch of roses for his wife. Theo/Beth/Lis may be out there in a skort refereeing the girls and enjoying a "brave and stunning" reputation in the local LGBQT+++ community, but his wife is also having to build a new life for herself a long way from home.