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The kind of “girl” that a boy who identifies as a girl thinks he is

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MyAmpleSheep · 18/10/2026 14:49

How do people who celebrate the transitioning of five year old children know that the kind of girl a boy who identities as a “girl” identifies as is the same kind of girl that a girl who identifies as a “girl” is?

Other than than from what he sees girls doing, how can a boy “know” what being a girl is, to be sure he is one?

is it posited that there is an innate sense of boy:girl that exists outside of the experience of seeing and being the presence of others?

If a child was “raised by wolves”, could they be trans? If that child had a male body and reached the age of 20 never having seen or met or known of the existence of women is it possible for them to grow up with dysphoria? When eventually discovering the other sex would they suddenly recognize “they had been born in the wrong body”?

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OldCrone · 19/10/2026 08:37

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 08:27

I was laughing because it was just so predictable.

We can't ask the person we are talking about what they think of their own childhood, life, identity.... because their brain was damaged by puberty blockers ofc!

Even though this person is a perfectly ordinary, articulate adult, living an ordinary life with no evidence of brain damage.

Nobody said he had brain damage. He may or may not have suffered a drop in IQ because he didn't go through puberty.

But as others have explained, it's very difficult or even impossible for someone who's suffered abuse from their parents as a child to view that objectively, particularly if, as in this case, the abuse has had lifelong irreversible effects on their body and hence on their life in general.

ArabellaScott · 19/10/2026 08:39

Nor can we know how the child might have been had they had parents who were unconcerned about their 'gendered' behaviour. A father who played with his son and included dolls in that play, allowed his son to explore whatever toys and clothes he wanted, and was not concerned by the thought his son may be gay.

Childhood is so deeply informative and impactful, and a child who experiences ACTS is likely to be affected by them for the rest of their life.

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 08:41

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 08:31

A paper about one of the earlier experiments on children with these drugs noted that many of them showed a drop in IQ. I'll see if I can find it (unless someone else has the link to hand and posts it first).

Giving puberty blocking drugs to children with precocious puberty is not without negative and sometimes irreversible side effects, as the Lupron court case in the US shows. But there are several differences here. The children take them for a very short period of time and natural puberty takes place when they're stopped. They are also prescribed for an actual diagnosed physical health condition, not for a mental health condition which can't be diagnosed and possibly doesn't even exist.

A paper about one of the earlier experiments on children with these drugs noted that many of them showed a drop in IQ. I'll see if I can find it (unless someone else has the link to hand and posts it first

At a period of follow up after endogenous puberty restarted? I'd certainly be very interested in seeing that paper if so.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 08:48

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 08:41

A paper about one of the earlier experiments on children with these drugs noted that many of them showed a drop in IQ. I'll see if I can find it (unless someone else has the link to hand and posts it first

At a period of follow up after endogenous puberty restarted? I'd certainly be very interested in seeing that paper if so.

No. Most or all of the children in these experiments never went through puberty. Although the parents and children are sometimes told that it's to "buy time" so that they can decide if they want to continue in their trans identification, all the evidence indicates that they are locked into a pathway leading to opposite sex hormones, so they never go through puberty.

The brain development which normally happens during puberty therefore never happens.

Lhori · 19/10/2026 08:54

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 18/10/2026 18:36

My son was 4 when he knew he was a boy. He confided in a friend.

We didn't even have broadband at the time (mostly because I didn't realise how to use it, but still😁) and was only watching CBeebies and a few other TV shows. I really don't think he learned about being trans from watching Harry Hill sing about Amanda Lamb.

He was raised by a feminist who was a bit dismayed to have to learn about trad 'girly' things in her 30s. When he went to Covent Garden for a ballet audition, I paid a hairdresser to put his hair in a bun. Eventually, his long-haired dad learned to plait, braid, so buns etc but I never did. He was a child who loved pink, dresses, sparkles, unicorns and JoJo Bows, alongside other friends who had no such interest.

I had him wearing his brothers' cast-offs til he was about ten, when my (utterly delighted, because she raised me) mum told me I had to come to terms with him being a 'girly girl'. I loved him but was so, so bad at that aspect - left it to his aunt, gran etc.

He tells me that knowing he was a boy didn't affect or influence what he liked to dress in - and it still doesn't.

By 13-14 he was the sole trans boy in his school. He left as the sole trans boy.

Trans people are born, not made. Clothes do not make them trans, nor does the internet or 'social contagion'. He is simply trans, no one else caught it (!) from him, no one told him what he knew at the age of four.

Not raised by wolves, but by a feminist who had no idea about being trans til he came out to me. He'd known all his life - because it was who he was.

It's not about a feeling, or clothes, or cosplay. It's a deep-rooted knowledge of who you are.

Trans girls are the same. And dear god is that a difficult life at school - trans boys have it marginally easier, in my experience - especially at secondary, when the horrific bullying all trans kids experience becomes sexual harassment and assault.

No child would be trans unless it meant everything to them.

They're a tiny minority. If you want to understand, read their own words.

You sound like you rejected feminine things in your life and respect male things. My mother was like that. She would definitely deny it, but it was drip fed through out my childhood. Little comments throughout my childhood suggested that she thought women were fat, had to endure periods, had to go through the pain of childbirth, were not respected etc. When I was about 9, my friend told me in graphic detail about a rape of a girl that she had read about. It horrified me. As a result of all sorts of influences as well as these, I wanted to be a boy and I was especially miserable during puberty. By my early 20s, I felt very differently and very much wanted to be a woman.

I'm not saying this is how your child feels but no child grows up in a vacuum.

BackToLurk · 19/10/2026 08:59

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 08:41

A paper about one of the earlier experiments on children with these drugs noted that many of them showed a drop in IQ. I'll see if I can find it (unless someone else has the link to hand and posts it first

At a period of follow up after endogenous puberty restarted? I'd certainly be very interested in seeing that paper if so.

Why would a study on children who restarted endogenous puberty be relevant to Jackie Green?

Helleofabore · 19/10/2026 09:00

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 08:22

Thank god for the pathways trial eh? Then maybe people will stop quoting animal studies the majority of which were conducted on one particular flock (of around 20?) sheep 😂.

Of course puberty blockers are used to treat other medical conditions and all the evidence suggest that any temporary effects are reversible after either stopping and allowing endogenous puberty to proceed or introducing FMH, but people don't like to mention that of course.

Please stop spreading misinformation.

For other treatment uses, puberty blockers for children are used for as short a period of time as possible and are used when there is no other alternative.

And for precocious puberty, the female child’s puberty resumes as the body intended. Female puberty continues.

There is observational evidence from doctors treating children with these drugs for gender identity purposes that have supported the animal test.

It is also hypocritical that you dismiss and laugh at neuroscientists expert opinion on one aspect where there is some evidence to support the claim, while being very confident that neuroscience will find a connection with all people who have transgender identities in the future and have claimed that this future finding should determine how children are treated in the present.

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:06

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 08:48

No. Most or all of the children in these experiments never went through puberty. Although the parents and children are sometimes told that it's to "buy time" so that they can decide if they want to continue in their trans identification, all the evidence indicates that they are locked into a pathway leading to opposite sex hormones, so they never go through puberty.

The brain development which normally happens during puberty therefore never happens.

Ah so they started on FMH then? In such cases, the evidence as it is, suggests there are no long term harmful effects . So please do share any papers that demonstrate otherwise

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:07

Helleofabore · 19/10/2026 09:00

Please stop spreading misinformation.

For other treatment uses, puberty blockers for children are used for as short a period of time as possible and are used when there is no other alternative.

And for precocious puberty, the female child’s puberty resumes as the body intended. Female puberty continues.

There is observational evidence from doctors treating children with these drugs for gender identity purposes that have supported the animal test.

It is also hypocritical that you dismiss and laugh at neuroscientists expert opinion on one aspect where there is some evidence to support the claim, while being very confident that neuroscience will find a connection with all people who have transgender identities in the future and have claimed that this future finding should determine how children are treated in the present.

For other treatment uses, puberty blockers for children are used for as short a period of time as possible and are used when there is no other alternative

yes. Exactly as they should be for children with gender dysphoria.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:08

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:06

Ah so they started on FMH then? In such cases, the evidence as it is, suggests there are no long term harmful effects . So please do share any papers that demonstrate otherwise

What is FMH?

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:09

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:07

For other treatment uses, puberty blockers for children are used for as short a period of time as possible and are used when there is no other alternative

yes. Exactly as they should be for children with gender dysphoria.

Why? How do they help the child?

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:09

Imdunfer · 19/10/2026 08:25

The pathways trial is the most unethical piece of medicine I've come across in my entire lifetime.

So it's unethical to provide medical interventions to children with gender incongruence, because we don't have enough evidence. And it's unethical to gather the evidence.

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:10

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:08

What is FMH?

Feminising and masculinising hormones.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:11

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:06

Ah so they started on FMH then? In such cases, the evidence as it is, suggests there are no long term harmful effects . So please do share any papers that demonstrate otherwise

What evidence? Please do share the papers that show this.

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:13

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:09

Why? How do they help the child?

By temporarily stopping the effects of puberty, which may be causing acute distress to a child with gender dysphoria, to give them more time to consider their options before either starting treatments with potentially more permanent effects, or stopping the medication and allowing endogenous puberty to continue as normal.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:13

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:10

Feminising and masculinising hormones.

Opposite sex hormones following puberty blockers during adolescence means that the child never goes through puberty.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:16

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:09

So it's unethical to provide medical interventions to children with gender incongruence, because we don't have enough evidence. And it's unethical to gather the evidence.

Gender incongruence is a mental health condition which should be treated in the same way as other mental health conditions. Not by sterilising children and stunting their normal development.

Yes. The whole thing is unethical.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:17

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:13

By temporarily stopping the effects of puberty, which may be causing acute distress to a child with gender dysphoria, to give them more time to consider their options before either starting treatments with potentially more permanent effects, or stopping the medication and allowing endogenous puberty to continue as normal.

But we know it locks them into a pathway.

Puberty is the cure for gender dysphoria in children in the great majority of cases.

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:19

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:13

By temporarily stopping the effects of puberty, which may be causing acute distress to a child with gender dysphoria, to give them more time to consider their options before either starting treatments with potentially more permanent effects, or stopping the medication and allowing endogenous puberty to continue as normal.

These are arguments from 10 years ago. We now know this isn't true.

brownbootsandhats · 19/10/2026 09:20

As far as I can tell

there are clearly worries about bone health with long term usage - no clinic offers such treatment without having yearly bone density tests.

Extreme long term use hasn’t really happened because they are really only meant for precocious puberty- so 5 years or so - and their widespread use in the transgender community is relatively be w

the fascinating part is how suicide ideation is highest amongst people who know puberty blockers are possible but can’t access them

its not being transgender that leads to increased suicidal thoughts - various studies have shown that once conditions such as autism are accounted for transgender people don’t have high rates of suicide ideation - it now seems this must be tempered with “provided they get their preferred treatment “

if puberty blockers didn’t exist and were not widely known about this would not happen

the industry has created a suicide ideation problem

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:21

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:13

Opposite sex hormones following puberty blockers during adolescence means that the child never goes through puberty.

Yes I'm familiar with your "- words mean the very narrow thing I insist they mean" games.

I'm not going to get side tracked into a linguistic debate about what can be properly called "puberty". The question is- what are the effects if a child takes PBs for a short time then progresses to FMH.

Shortshriftandlethal · 19/10/2026 09:22

Lacksie · 18/10/2026 16:36

There's no evidence whatsoever that gender incongruence has anything to do with conscious reasoning- either about sex stereotypes or anything else.

No, of course it is not conscious or reasoned. It emerges out of an emotional response and a felt lack of comfort with what is being picked up around social expectations that are based on dress codes, behaviour codes, or activity preferences - that tend to be 'assigned' or associated with the sexes.

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:23

OldCrone · 19/10/2026 09:19

These are arguments from 10 years ago. We now know this isn't true.

I'm not making an argument, I'm describing what PBs are used for.
I understand you don't agree with these medical interventions, as you believe that gender incongruence can be resolved through psychological therapy.

Shortshriftandlethal · 19/10/2026 09:26

Lacksie · 18/10/2026 16:31

So have you or have you not accepted the first step- that it is entirely plausible that a persons neurocognitive awareness/ experience of their sex, could be incongruent with their anatomy?

If so , then we can move on to address the misunderstandings about how we respond to this (eg the idea that "affirming" someone's experience of gender is the same as a clinician pretending someone has a rubber limb)...

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How does a toddler have a'neuro-cognitive' awareness of their sex? Can you describe this process? What does it look like? Can you illustrate with an example.

And how might this manifest in any other way than via a response to what others are conveying to them about what is expected of them - in more or less subtle ways - and a rejection of that/ a feeling of those expectations not fitting or feeling comfortable?

Lacksie · 19/10/2026 09:29

Shortshriftandlethal · 19/10/2026 09:26

How does a toddler have a'neuro-cognitive' awareness of their sex? Can you describe this process? What does it look like? Can you illustrate with an example.

And how might this manifest in any other way than via a response to what others are conveying to them about what is expected of them - in more or less subtle ways - and a rejection of that/ a feeling of those expectations not fitting or feeling comfortable?

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