Men at David Lloyd, moaning and whining because the spa is female only for 2 measly hours a week

[Lemieux7]

🙄 sorry about DM link - it’s the only one not behind a paywall. Men on the Facebook group are saying that women should join female only gyms.

https://www.dailymail.com/news/article-16211821/amp/David-Lloyd-sparks-equality-row-excluding-men.html

Women are not the ones overwhelmingly responsible for sex crimes. That’s just a fact.

You’re being disingenuous.

The internalised misogyny on this thread is a shame to see.

They didn’t know the women were asking for one. DL have not communicated this change to the membership we are all paying for. The first I knew about it was when I was at the spa with my boyfriend last week and I noticed a tiny sign in the spa. We pay for couples membership so we’ve now lost an evening, which is the time we normally go. Just because he was born with a penis.

I have emailed DL asking for further details. I am extremely perturbed that a modern health club is exercising blatant discrimination against 50% of its members in the year 2026. It’s frankly shocking, and women who support it are tacitly condoning this discrimination.

It isn't if there isn't the demand for it. Business are allowed to use a business case for not providing some single sex services/spaces.

If you want a mens only session then you have to ask for it and then maintain the demand.

"We've gone to the feminist board by mistake"

It really isn't. It's a legitimate means of achieving a legitimate aim.

The Chairperson and CEO at David Lloyd are men.
If you think they're discriminating against men (or are racist) perhaps take it up with them.

I don't think it's discrimination, businesses are allowed to offer since sex spaces/sessions, and we know there is a reason to do that for women.

It does however mean BF and you, as a couple, are not getting what you paid for. You can argue that, or take your business elsewhere.

So because you don’t like what some men are talking about, you think they should ALL lose access to the spa at peak times, one day a week. Is that correct? How about you just ignore what they’re talking about? Who cares? You can’t control what people talk about. That’s the sort of stuff some young lads might talk about in any environment. On the bus. In a shop. That’s life. Personally I can’t stand young girls squealing about things I consider to be rubbish but it’s just not important.

What is wrong with someone asking you on a date? I mean, it’s not exactly crime of the century, is it? Just say ‘no’ next time. It’s really quite simple.

How do you know the guys were ‘leering’ if you weren’t checking them out?

Those of you claiming discrimination - are you also annoyed that David Lloyd charges different members different amounts of money for the same service? Last year, a single person complained that they had put her membership up by £100 a month which is crazy - she went from paying £160 to £260 per month.

Businesses can do this sort of thing. Especially DL because they have a monopoly on the type of business model.

Nothing internalised about it. It’s upfront for everybody to see. Women shouldn’t have things they need if men don’t need them.

I love it at my David Lloyd's on a Thursday evening when they come around and tell the men it's time to get out. They are so fucking dominant in there - I would say the vibe is not dissimilar to when a stag do get on the train and you just feel your heart sink. Manspreading, phones being played out loud, loud conversations, hogging facilities. I actually haven't noticed particularly lecherous behaviour at mine, but ugh I just hate them in there.

I never would have thought I'd be such an advocate of the female only hours but god you should feel the vibe shift when they go.

I see the issues with equal access/getting what you pay for. So if we need to give the men 2 hours a week to stop the complaint then go for it I say!

The alternative would be for David Lloyd to properly enforce spa etiquette - no phones allowed, silence, time limit on using facilities, shower (with soap!) before going.

I'm a DL member and I love the women-only 2-hour slot. And not for cultural or religious reasons.

In that time, the spa is full of women talking to each other about how lovely it is and we all have a lovely time.

Any other time I go in, it's wall-to-wall hairy men taking up all the bloody room and hogging all the spaces.

Me neither! ;)

And the Member Experience and Membership Director is a woman. But I'm not sure what this has to do with anything?

I have already taken it up with the Board, but thanks for your advice anyway. Or was that a sly way of telling me not to post here if I don't share your views? 🤔

I'm arguing it. It's a matter of principle. It is completely wrong to be sexist, and sexism is what this is. Do you think it's ok to be racist if it's only for two hours, one day a week?

Argumentum ad hominem.

Yes, some men are hairy. Is that a crime? What would you have to say if a man posted here, complaining that there are too many women with big tits in the spa? You really don't seem to see the irony of what you are posting.

I doubt it. I go to a DL
club and everyone is perfectly fine. No leering in saunas or steam rooms and no comments. Occasionally people of both sexes will discuss their workouts with friends who are there with them, but that’s bad etiquette rather than anything more sinister.

Maybe it is focused on particular areas.

Oh you've convinced me. Those poor men. Being discriminated against all over the place 😩

What a bizarrely aggressive response!

It’s not that I don’t like what they are taking about, it is the fact that they would dominate a space for relaxation with their loud and obnoxious “banter”.

You don’t think it is inappropriate for a stranger to ask me out when I am simply trying to relax and am in an enclosed space with him while wearing a bikini? If you can’t see how disrespectful that is, then I am sorry for how low your standards are.

And you don’t need to “check someone out” to be able to see they are leering.

Feel free to frequent a different gym that doesn’t help women feel more comfortable using the spa for 2 hours a week. I left my gym in part because it did not have that option, and so I wasn’t able to use the spa. Welcome to the world - we can pick and choose according to our preferences.

Yep, I've gone in post work time and it's what I call testosterone hour, out come the bros, saunas packed and zero chance of getting in the hot tub (plus you wouldn't want to - some manky men come marching out of their mega long sauna session like the cock of the walk, and treat the tub as the place to wash off instead of the shower which is RIGHT NEXT TO THE SAUNA 🤢)

Our club is very family orientated and it does make me wonder how many of these blokes tell their wives they're busy late 'working' in the lounge so she has to sort out the kids, as come 5pm they all flock in there!