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‘Woman’ missing in Southampton

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HannahinHampshire · 14/10/2026 00:34

Now I hope that this person is found safe and well - but this is not a woman! Why is Samantha being described as a woman? This helps no one, neither the person who is missing nor those searching for him.
https://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/26633982.urgent-search-missing-woman-last-seen-southampton/

Urgent police search for missing woman last seen in Southampton

Officers are appealing for help to find a missing 38-year-old woman who was last seen in Southampton.

https://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/26633982.urgent-search-missing-woman-last-seen-southampton/

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2021x · 20/10/2026 08:53

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:51

well let’s hear what you think about feminism then. Do YOU think defending someone making jokes about tuberous breasts and testicles on a thread about a missing trans women is a feminist act?

Do you think it is useful that the person in the photographs is being identified as as a woman? What is wrong with the person in the photographs being identified as a transwoman instead?

BackToLurk · 20/10/2026 08:54

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Because of two deleted comments or because people are questioning the wisdom of calling a very obvious (even to the TRAs) male person a woman?

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:54

They were more than distasteful. What are you even arguing with me about if you DONT approve of what was said by @Alucard55?

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:56

2021x · 20/10/2026 08:53

Do you think it is useful that the person in the photographs is being identified as as a woman? What is wrong with the person in the photographs being identified as a transwoman instead?

Trans woman. It’s an adjective.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/10/2026 08:56

I’ll post this again…

‘Woman’ missing in Southampton
Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 08:57

BezMark · 20/10/2026 08:15

https://www.dailyecho.co.uk/news/26644736.police-issue-appeal-search-missing-woman/

Still missing as of Friday. Samantha must be considered quite a vulnerable individual to have the police involved.

Bumping

Bitsostuff · 20/10/2026 08:57

Dandeloosha · 14/10/2026 08:06

The problem with labelling Samantha a woman is that people will be looking for a woman when Samantha is clearly not one. It’s misleading and unhelpful. Agree that 38 is an unlikely too.

How does one look for "a woman" ? The streets are full of women. The public keep an eye out based on the photos that are released - anyone seeing this photo will know they are looking for a TiM

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 08:57

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:56

Trans woman. It’s an adjective.

It isn’t. A type of man, not a type of woman.

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:57

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2021x · 20/10/2026 08:58

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:56

Trans woman. It’s an adjective.

I disagree.

Do you think that it is useful for the general public to describe the photograph as a woman in order to find them?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 08:58

Ghoul has a nice Halloween feel, better than idiot and bigot.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/10/2026 08:59

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:54

They were more than distasteful. What are you even arguing with me about if you DONT approve of what was said by @Alucard55?

It’s a pity you don’t put this much wild energy into posts of women being harmed by men. Tumbleweed. But a poster making a distasteful joke about a confused man sends you spiralling into rants and demand people answer to you?

It’s not even 9am. Have a coffee (and maybe some cake and rethink your priorities and what you’re trying to achieve here).

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:01

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 08:58

Ghoul has a nice Halloween feel, better than idiot and bigot.

I also called you a danger to women, which I believe to be true (based on you replying ‘it’s not all about you’ in a conversation you started about rape, where I disclosed I am a rape survivor).

BackToLurk · 20/10/2026 09:04

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 08:54

They were more than distasteful. What are you even arguing with me about if you DONT approve of what was said by @Alucard55?

I’m not a fan of people who make stuff up and then can’t just admit when they get something wrong. I think it says something about their character, as you asked.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 09:05

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:01

I also called you a danger to women, which I believe to be true (based on you replying ‘it’s not all about you’ in a conversation you started about rape, where I disclosed I am a rape survivor).

Edited

Don’t misrepresent that conversation please. I’m also a rape survivor and I merely pointed out, in response to you bringing up your experience, that you don’t get to decide for other survivors what their boundaries are allowed to be around men.

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:05

Would anyone like to jump in and defend @Ereshkigalangcleg ’s right as a feminist to say ‘stop making it all about you’ to rape survivors? She’d have your back if you wanted to make body shaming comments about a missing person, come on!

drspouse · 20/10/2026 09:07

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:01

I also called you a danger to women, which I believe to be true (based on you replying ‘it’s not all about you’ in a conversation you started about rape, where I disclosed I am a rape survivor).

Edited

Look who's weaponising their trauma now!
Would you be happy for Samantha to be in your counselling group? Would this still apply if Samantha was there for kicks?

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:07

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 09:05

Don’t misrepresent that conversation please. I’m also a rape survivor and I merely pointed out, in response to you bringing up your experience, that you don’t get to decide for other survivors what their boundaries are allowed to be around men.

It was screenshots you were asking for wasn’t it?

‘Woman’ missing in Southampton
Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 09:07

Also, how does this disagreement on what boundaries women are allowed to have make me “a danger to women”, exactly?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 20/10/2026 09:09

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:07

It was screenshots you were asking for wasn’t it?

No one, survivor or not, gets to decide for me whether I should be ok with a fucking man in my rape counselling session or female only space.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/10/2026 09:11

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:07

It was screenshots you were asking for wasn’t it?

Fail to see what’s wrong with what Eresh said. You
aren’t the arbiter of survivors or who they should and shouldn’t accept in their spaces, you said ‘you don’t speak for me’. Well you don’t speak for others too, so yeah, not everything is about you. 🤷‍♀️

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:11

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/10/2026 09:11

Fail to see what’s wrong with what Eresh said. You
aren’t the arbiter of survivors or who they should and shouldn’t accept in their spaces, you said ‘you don’t speak for me’. Well you don’t speak for others too, so yeah, not everything is about you. 🤷‍♀️

you fail to see great deal

GreyskySexRealistsky · 20/10/2026 09:12

@Canadanian Kindly, why did you dredge all this up again? It's as if you're looking for an argument. The two offensive comments were made way back on page 4. They were deleted and that should have been the end of it.

The priority is to find the missing person. The description is part of that, it's a valid concern.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 20/10/2026 09:12

Canadanian · 20/10/2026 09:11

you fail to see great deal

Is that supposed to be ironic?!

Meadowfinch · 20/10/2026 09:14

GreyskySexRealistsky · 14/10/2026 08:02

There was a case mentioned on here a while back where the description was "person"... so police were advising the public to look out for "a person". It was so vague and unhelpful!
Seriously, what's the priority here?

Asking the public to look out for a transwoman.

If I saw a 6' man in a dress, I wouldn't think of a missing woman. Accuracy is important if they want to get any useful information.