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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Transitioning or therapy as the treatment for gender dysphoria

181 replies

FairHippopotama · 22/08/2026 13:52

Most trans rights activists will tell you that all who claim to have gender dysphoria are valid in their feelings and the best treatment for gender dysphoria is always transitioning--both socially (e.g. pronouns, clothing) and medically (e.g. hormone therapy, mastectomy). These transitions should be accepted by society.

As far as I can tell, the typical gender-critical view is that while gender dysphoria may be a genuine condition, in all cases therapy or some such is a much preferred treatment to transitioning. Accepting transitioning is seen as requiring society to affirm certain falsehoods and harming women's interests. Am I right about this though? What are your thoughts?

Personally, I think the truth is slightly more moderate: gender dysphoria is a real condition, but should only be treated with transitioning in some cases--transitions which society should accept (but not be forced to do so). It depends on whether the cause is neurological and unchangeable (a sort of brain-body mismatch) or social and able to be treated with therapy (in my opinion).

Apologies if this is worded poorly and doesn't make sense.

OP posts:
Tottenhamhotflushes · 23/08/2026 08:54

Cantunseeit · 23/08/2026 08:36

Readers note

The claim was made up thread that satisfaction rates are extremely high for gender related surgery. The academic studies are incomplete in this area but for several reasons it is supposed that the regret rate is much higher than previously claimed. Reasons include

  • the oft quoted 1% rate comes from a study that predates the explosion in youth referrals
  • studies such as there are tend to be based on a self reported satisfaction from patients soon after surgery Ie no long term follow up undertaken
  • a very high proportion of detransitioners do not report their detransition to the gender clinics that treated them

You can read more here https://genspect.substack.com/p/going-forward-and-turning-back-transition?r=1one23&utm_medium=ios

Logic fail.
Detransitioners who permanently detransition do it for a reason..they are not trans so their 'dissatisfaction' doesn't count.

Cantunseeit · 23/08/2026 08:56

Tottenhamhotflushes · 23/08/2026 08:54

Logic fail.
Detransitioners who permanently detransition do it for a reason..they are not trans so their 'dissatisfaction' doesn't count.

Jesus. I think I’ll just leave that comment to stand

ETA stand without further comment I mean. Obviously I have no power over whether it stands or is deleted.

I simply meant it’s more powerful of an example of the lack of care for people suffering with gender dysphoria by itself. It doesn’t need further comment to point that out. It could be seen from space

roseyposey · 23/08/2026 08:57

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 08:51

That can happen as adults, but I know of children at Junior school ( ages 7-11) who have been told by other children that only boys wear trousers and only girls do dancing. It sounds ridiculous, but these ideas persist amongst children. Is that bullying? Is it enough to make a child question their gender/sex?

Where are you based? Religious community? Never heard that nonsense in the UK in all my several decades.

Tottenhamhotflushes · 23/08/2026 08:57

Pingponghavoc · 23/08/2026 08:39

You said originally "that a culture assigns to biological sex categories"

Now you are saying its up to an individual?

How can a culture assign these categories when either sex, of any or no gender perform the same behaviour? There's no pattern for sociologist to study.

Culture assigns gender by translating biological sex into social roles, rules, and expectations. Societies use birth markers, behaviour codes, rituals, and language to teach people how to act like a specific gender which is a separate issue to gender self identification.

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:01

roseyposey · 23/08/2026 08:57

Where are you based? Religious community? Never heard that nonsense in the UK in all my several decades.

Exactly

some posters just make shit up

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:02

roseyposey · 23/08/2026 08:57

Where are you based? Religious community? Never heard that nonsense in the UK in all my several decades.

Cornwall, normal community. Nasty girls said it to another girl. Mean girls use all weapons at their disposal. It happened and I don't care if you don't believe me.

6ate9 · 23/08/2026 09:03

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 08:51

That can happen as adults, but I know of children at Junior school ( ages 7-11) who have been told by other children that only boys wear trousers and only girls do dancing. It sounds ridiculous, but these ideas persist amongst children. Is that bullying? Is it enough to make a child question their gender/sex?

In which decade and country did you grow up? Girls have been wearing trousers for a long time without it being an issue.

roseyposey · 23/08/2026 09:04

I’m sorry to hear that but also sorry you feel it necessary to call young girls nasty and mean. More negative stereotypes…

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:05

6ate9 · 23/08/2026 09:03

In which decade and country did you grow up? Girls have been wearing trousers for a long time without it being an issue.

I know that, you know that, but it was said to my friend's daughter at junior school. She's now 14.

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:07

roseyposey · 23/08/2026 09:04

I’m sorry to hear that but also sorry you feel it necessary to call young girls nasty and mean. More negative stereotypes…

The same girls are still the same at 14. Is that old enough to be or not be mean girls? Even the teachers have spoken to them about their behaviour. It doesn't change.

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:09

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:02

Cornwall, normal community. Nasty girls said it to another girl. Mean girls use all weapons at their disposal. It happened and I don't care if you don't believe me.

A “nasty” girl presumably said to your daughter than “only boys wear trousers”????

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:10

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:02

Cornwall, normal community. Nasty girls said it to another girl. Mean girls use all weapons at their disposal. It happened and I don't care if you don't believe me.

So in Cornwall… girls don’t wear trousers?

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 23/08/2026 09:10

MrsOvertonsWindow · 23/08/2026 08:30

Kudos to the OP. This is the first new to Mumsnet poster in a while who's arrived promoting the idea of men in women' spaces (er, well, some of them based on some undefinable notions) who's so far nor descended into the usual "sorry you're unable to understand /comprehend my intellectually superior word salad posts".

That's quite an achievement given the track record for new posters. 😁

And of course has enabled some genuinely powerful and intelligent responses.

Not so new to Mumsnet as it turns out. The OP previously engaged in FWR four months ago by starting a similar thread. In that thread they mention having trans identifying sister (FtM).

www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5513985-do-you-feel-that-gender-identity-exists-and-is-innate

6ate9 · 23/08/2026 09:14

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:10

So in Cornwall… girls don’t wear trousers?

Girls have been wearing school trousers for years!

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:17

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:10

So in Cornwall… girls don’t wear trousers?

Yes, of course they do. And other girls did and do. This was said to one specific girl out of unkindness. Since young girls can't be mean.

backformoreofthesame · 23/08/2026 09:17

It does seem as though people live in different social groups some of which may be very tolerant of variety and others which are very intolerant

I have seen both but if you haven’t you could be forgiven for thinking all is good in the garden ( and especially the school playground ) . it’s naive

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:19

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:17

Yes, of course they do. And other girls did and do. This was said to one specific girl out of unkindness. Since young girls can't be mean.

But all the other kids, boys and girls, would have been “huh? I wear jeans” or “well my sister wears jeans!”

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:20

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:17

Yes, of course they do. And other girls did and do. This was said to one specific girl out of unkindness. Since young girls can't be mean.

This girl sounds less mean and more living in cloud cuckoo land

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:21

backformoreofthesame · 23/08/2026 09:17

It does seem as though people live in different social groups some of which may be very tolerant of variety and others which are very intolerant

I have seen both but if you haven’t you could be forgiven for thinking all is good in the garden ( and especially the school playground ) . it’s naive

Can you clarify what made you snap out of thinking you were a boy??

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:21

Imagine that said to the wrong girl. A girl who already doesn't fit in with the other girls, who is struggling. Not hard to see a seed of doubt being sown, is it?

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:26

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:21

Imagine that said to the wrong girl. A girl who already doesn't fit in with the other girls, who is struggling. Not hard to see a seed of doubt being sown, is it?

What planet are you on?

6ate9 · 23/08/2026 09:27

Thatcannotberight · 23/08/2026 09:21

Imagine that said to the wrong girl. A girl who already doesn't fit in with the other girls, who is struggling. Not hard to see a seed of doubt being sown, is it?

This girl would have been surrounded by other girls and women wearing trousers. Baby girls wear trousers!

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:29

6ate9 · 23/08/2026 09:27

This girl would have been surrounded by other girls and women wearing trousers. Baby girls wear trousers!

I know. This is only realistic if… say…. 1950s

likelysuspect · 23/08/2026 09:32

Shortshriftandlethal · 22/08/2026 14:21

Concepts of 'gender dysphoria' are a relatively recently invented framework with which to view and then label an individual's feelings of distress and discomfort about themselves and their place in the world. 'Transitioning' is also part of this ideological construction and is presented as the solution to 'gender dysphoria'.

Concepts of 'Gender' - as distinct to 'Sex' - are social/cultural in origin and many people would suggest that 'gender' is just a synonym for personality or character ( regardless of whether an individual is broadly gender conforming or non conforming).

Gender ideology posits that if one does not conform to the gender roles or characteristics of one's sex then it is posssible that one has a neurological mis-match between mind and body - resulting in 'gender dysphoria' , and that one's inner soul could somehow be more typical of the opposite sex, and that transitioning to that sex ( not possible), or to that set of stereotypes/presentations could be a solution to one's dysphoric feelings.

This is all predicated on nothing but thin air and post modernistic ideas about the self that have arisen out of 'Queer Theory'. If one wants to present in ways considered typical of the opposite sex then go ahead ( adhering to the the same sorts of social limits that we must all adhere to around occasion and appropriateness) if that makes you feel better and more comfortable in yourself, but it is a naive and false expectation that the world must validate your feelings and change its normal sets of rules and boundaries to accommodate them. The world does not revolve around an individual's feelings.

Edited

This, this this this this. And this.

It is a MH condition in the same way as any body dysmorphia. In fact this is about the body, it is body dysmorphia. The use of the term gender dysphoria has been made up to match the theory which as you say is predicated on thin air.

We dont treat anorexics by agreeing with them that they're fat and need weight loss surgery.

Onbuy · 23/08/2026 09:35

likelysuspect · 23/08/2026 09:32

This, this this this this. And this.

It is a MH condition in the same way as any body dysmorphia. In fact this is about the body, it is body dysmorphia. The use of the term gender dysphoria has been made up to match the theory which as you say is predicated on thin air.

We dont treat anorexics by agreeing with them that they're fat and need weight loss surgery.

Sometimes a mental health condition

other times… attention seeking; bored; too much time on SM