Got to say watching this from the sidelines, there's a very definite set of double standards at play. And also a lot of quite detailed knowledge about the incumbent ideas of "trans" children from someone who initially didn't seem.to know much about it. Hmmmm.
It's also very noticeable how the conversation has been kept incredibly trammelled into the subjective experience of these so called "trans" children.
They "might" feel a certain way so we must treat them as if this is a known fact.
Whether what they feel has anything to do with the actual lived reality of the opposite sex is irrelevant but nevertheless we must treat them as if we believe it does and therefore the appropriate treatment is medical intervention to disrupt the natural development of their actual sex body, leading almost inevitably to further medicalisation in an attempt to visually mimic the opposite sex.
Whether what they feel has anything to do with the actual lived reality of the opposite sex is irrelevant and need not be examined but nevertheless the depth of their distress requires that we must treat them as if we believe it does and therefore the inclusion of people of one sex in the social category of the other must be acceptable as a necessary provision to relieve their subjective distress.
While the objective reality that they are not of that sex and that whatever they feel has in reality no especial commonality with the opposite sex is being paid lip service to, the impact of society appearing to condone the belief that what makes one a man or a woman is what is in ones head rather than ones body, and of the impact on women of opening up supposedly woman-only resources or legal identities to the opppsite sex is firmly out of bounds for discussion.
The experiences and statistics about detransitioners are out of date so should be ignored, but we must nevertheless proceed with damaging treatments based on anecdotal evidence that those who want them believe they will reduce distress.
What does it all add up to? While focusing on anything other than the distress of the trans person "isn't what we are talking about", the case is nevertheless being built for doing things that have far wider impacts than just the trans person. Women who try to engage are finding their focus tramelled into only one small area, and this creates the impression that this small focus is the core, most significant or only relevant concern of those women rather than being the only area in which they believe their points have any hope of being heard. So they keep trying to frame the bigger picture within the very small area of allowed topics, and as a result even their own expression of the bigger picture gets smaller and smaller, and the real spread of consequences is accidentally edited out in the hope o getting any recognition of bigger consequences at all.
It's fascinating to watch. I wonder if it's being done consciously or simply the consequence of having an incredibly narrow minded, individual focus view of trans issues rather than a societal or feminist one.
As I said in an earlier post on this thread, it's not that I haven't thought about the whys and whats and hows of trans identities' cause and development, it's that after homestly engaging with this type of thread many times trying to get a poster to place their passionate support of trans people in the wider social context and consider its impact on others as well, I realised it was really just a distraction technique.
Because whatever the reason a trans person feels as they do, the answer to supporting their distress is never to accept, or even pretend to accept, bending everyone else's sense of self and how one relates to ones own sex and the sex of others tp accomodate a distorted body image or projected ideas of what feelings belong in what body.