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The Bluestocking Women's Pub: Where the Bluebird Sings to the Lemonade Springs

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AngleofRepose · 12/07/2026 21:31

Croeso/Welcome to the Bluestocking Women's Pub, with our lovely gerbil staff, the icy Mojito foot-bath for those of you fed up with the heat, a Quilting/Craft Nook, lots of yummy food and drink with zero calories, gluten, or allergens, the Gerbil World Cup, and a brand new magic pool that becomes a babbling brook whenever you want it to!

Come on in! All women welcome! (Men welcome at The Staunch Ally pub down the road aways)

(security provided by the capybaras, lovely folk, but try not to get in their way)

(oh, and don't mention triangles, please. Gubbins gets very overexcited)

(did we mention the Gerbil World Cup?)

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MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:11

PastaAllaNorma · 24/07/2026 20:29

DS2 is on ADHD meds - basically amphetamines.

He finds that one drink has the effect of about five so can't have any booze without being hammered, that he has no appetite whatsoever, struggles to sleep but his focus is great.

That is helpful and a warning, so I’ll abstain until the dose is right and go from there.

DeanElderberry · 24/07/2026 21:12

EmpressaurusKitty · 24/07/2026 20:58

That sounds lovely, Deano. Who is your local patron saint?

He's obscure and very local, so I'll leave him un-named. We're at the start of a couple of weeks of pilgrimages to wells and mountains, and picnics and horse races on beaches, in wha has been describes as 'the Festival of Lughnasa', late summer/early harvestide customs.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lughnasadh

MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:13

DSD has been turned down for PIP on every ground, even though she is a danger in the kitchen and can’t cook a simple meal.

I am so angry.

But also if the Walrus and I were dead she wouldn’t survive a year.

DeanElderberry · 24/07/2026 21:14

MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:13

DSD has been turned down for PIP on every ground, even though she is a danger in the kitchen and can’t cook a simple meal.

I am so angry.

But also if the Walrus and I were dead she wouldn’t survive a year.

So worrying. Can she appeal?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/07/2026 21:19

I am so sorry, @MyrtleLion - that is such a blow for you.

DauntlessDamson · 24/07/2026 21:20

FuzzyPuffling · 24/07/2026 20:05

As soon as you identify as 67 you get instant arthritis, muscle weakness, eyesight problems etc and society hates you and thinks you should pop off to Dignitas in the next half hour. You up for that?

And gastric problems and fallen arches!🙄

FuzzyPuffling · 24/07/2026 21:26

DauntlessDamson · 24/07/2026 21:20

And gastric problems and fallen arches!🙄

That too!

EmpressaurusKitty · 24/07/2026 21:27

MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:13

DSD has been turned down for PIP on every ground, even though she is a danger in the kitchen and can’t cook a simple meal.

I am so angry.

But also if the Walrus and I were dead she wouldn’t survive a year.

That’s outrageous, @MyrtleLion.

DauntlessDamson · 24/07/2026 21:31

MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:13

DSD has been turned down for PIP on every ground, even though she is a danger in the kitchen and can’t cook a simple meal.

I am so angry.

But also if the Walrus and I were dead she wouldn’t survive a year.

That must be so frustrating, Myrtle, especially as you have to jump through hoops just to apply!

MyrtleLion · 24/07/2026 21:36

The job centre said she should apply, and it took a long time to get her to do it. So it’s galling that they allocated her 0 points for everything. It’s like disabled people should get by on ready meals.

She can have a mandatory reassembly. We had the face to face interview on the 9 July and the nurse submitted his report that day. The letter was dated the 15 July which is about 3-4 working days turn around when they said 4-8 weeks.

I never believed the quota argument as an explanation for refusal, but we were all so shocked she wasn’t allocated any points at all. I wonder now if there is a quota.

Thehorticulturalhussie · 24/07/2026 21:43

AngleofRepose · 24/07/2026 17:03

I'm so sorry this is happening, Hussy. I remember the same with my grandmother, but she only reached 90. I was thousands of miles away as she was departing "this earthly realm" as she liked to call it (my mother's side of the family were Catholic, until my mother was not, which is another story entirely). So I talked to her on the phone as she was on her way out (my cousin held the phone to her ear), and I hope and pray that she heard me.

I'm sure your MIL knows you are there for her. I'm glad you are close (physically and emotionally).

Thank you Angle. We’re ok, she has 6 GC and 3.9 ggc ( next one due in September) and is much loved.

EdithStourton · 24/07/2026 21:45

DauntlessDamson · 24/07/2026 21:20

And gastric problems and fallen arches!🙄

DH is well off pension age and already has the fallen arches. And keeps moaning about his knees. But won't wear inserts in his everyday shoes. It's as if he thinks there is no connection.

My arches... so far so good. My father kept his into his 70s, so I live in hope.

But my eyesight is crap. I could have a very deluxe holiday on the ££££ I have shelled out on glasses and contacts over the years.

Thehorticulturalhussie · 24/07/2026 21:46

DeanElderberry · 24/07/2026 20:50

It's the day of our local 'pattern' (patron saint's pilgrimage) so about 70 or 80 of us gathered for prayers etc and circuits of the holy well. We were invited to pray for people who needed it, so I thought of Marie (having had a mild and minor brush with fibromyalgia years ago), Mr Hussy's mother, and Hedgie's nephew. And all the rest of you. Including the shrinking ones.

It was lovely, under a circle of trees - ash, holly, hawthorn, with the vegetation fresher than most of the countryside because the water was still bubbling out of the spring wells as it has done for a millennium or more, and the scent of hay drifting in from the orchard field next door

I didn't get a picture, but here's last year's

gah, apologies for the duplication

Edited

Oh thank you. We don’t have a faith but Mr Hussy’s mother most definitely does so that’s very welcome.

EdithStourton · 24/07/2026 21:52

Myrtle, that is crap about the PIP.

From what I can tell, the system lacks all transparency. Nobody seems to understand how the hell it works.

I'm so sorry. I know how much effort you put into it.

Edited for typical Edith typo 🙄

EdithStourton · 24/07/2026 21:55

Gerbils, the bot choclate bowser, please. I'm off the booze this evening.

The great outdoors smells of harvest dust. I quite like it.

AngleofRepose · 24/07/2026 22:05

Gerbils, I'll have an Oban, single, neat, please. Just been reading online about the wildfires in Spain. One very large one very close to Madrid, it looks like. Horrendous.

Very sorry about the PIP, Myrtle. That's really surprising that she had no points at all!

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Chickadeeinme · 25/07/2026 03:14

Thank you for the prayers @DeanElderberry - I’m not religious but I think good wishes cast into the ether are always a good thing.

The system is really tightening up on PIP. My DS1 had it for a while but I guess they thought his autism had got better and cancelled it. However it’s true to say that for the last year since he’s been in his current job he’s been ok without it and I haven’t had to supplement him. Your DSD sounds less capable though.

DeanElderberry · 25/07/2026 07:46

Good Morning.

My other excitement yesterday before holy well calm was going to the cash machine and realising I couldn't find my card (got money out with my other card, phew), rummaged though my shopping bags, no luck. Did my Lidl shopping, went home, looked round the kitchen, nada.

Checked (there is something to this phone banking nonsense after all) and saw that it hadn't been used since I went to Aldi on Thursday.

Drove back to Aldi and asked - and YES! I'd left it in the machine. I usually use cash for various reasons and have got out of the routine.

I increasingly prefer Aldi for most stuff and for the absence of attempts to make me use tracking apps, but Lidl do better cat litter.

So relieved not to have to deal with the card cancellation crap.

HAGADAPA

FuzzyPuffling · 25/07/2026 07:58

Deano, that requires a "phew" reaction. Glad you got your card back.

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/07/2026 08:18

What a relief Deano.

I’m visiting my dad in Essex today & I’m having a Weatherspoons breakfast before getting the train. Plenty of time for a second coffee.

AngleofRepose · 25/07/2026 09:25

Morning, all!

Thank goodness about your card, Deano! I've done similar a couple of times, and each time I've been amazed that I've gotten it back.

Much cooler this morning, almost chilly, and I think it's supposed to reach only 24C today. Remember when that was an extraordinary temperature for July?? 😮

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AsWithGlad · 25/07/2026 12:12

The two weather forecasts I’ve just looked at predict 24°C or 28°C here, but it feels very hot already.

I work in Celsius/Centigrade because that’s all we seem to be offered nowadays, but I’ve just tried converting to Fahrenheit. 28°C is 82.4°F.
Anything over 80°F used to make headlines, if I remember my childhood correctly.

Chickadeeinme · 25/07/2026 12:22

DH told me that two sets of degrees C were easily reversible to get F. 28C is 82F and 04C is 40F. I was getting used to C before I came to the USA in 2002, but sadly I’ve lost the intrinsic feel for what a temperature number in C means as they only use F over here. I’ve more or less kept the concept of grams and litres and centimetres but the need to use them is quite rare, and American pints and gallons are not the same as Imperial pints and gallons so that’s been a learning curve too.

EmpressaurusKitty · 25/07/2026 12:23

AngleofRepose · 25/07/2026 09:25

Morning, all!

Thank goodness about your card, Deano! I've done similar a couple of times, and each time I've been amazed that I've gotten it back.

Much cooler this morning, almost chilly, and I think it's supposed to reach only 24C today. Remember when that was an extraordinary temperature for July?? 😮

When I was a teenager 18C was hot!

DeanElderberry · 25/07/2026 12:25

Chickadeeinme · 25/07/2026 12:22

DH told me that two sets of degrees C were easily reversible to get F. 28C is 82F and 04C is 40F. I was getting used to C before I came to the USA in 2002, but sadly I’ve lost the intrinsic feel for what a temperature number in C means as they only use F over here. I’ve more or less kept the concept of grams and litres and centimetres but the need to use them is quite rare, and American pints and gallons are not the same as Imperial pints and gallons so that’s been a learning curve too.

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