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'Arm the Dolls'

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WrongKindOfFeminist · 05/07/2026 10:23

Pictured is Natacha Kennedy of Goldsmiths.

T shirt says 'Arm the Dolls'

'Arm the Dolls'
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WrongKindOfFeminist · 09/07/2026 22:54

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 21:05

Is sharing with a trans woman really that bad?

'Sharing'

A man using a women's space is not 'sharing'. As soon as a man enters a women's space it is mixed sex. It becomes a space where women's privacy, dignity, and safety are compromised.

Mixed sex spaces are more risky for women. We are entitled to privacy, dignity, and safety, and no we won't sacrifice our privacy, dignity, and safety because you think it's not 'that bad' if women are frightened, intimidated, threatened, triggered, uneasy, etc.

Men in men's spaces are evenly matched in terms of size, weight, muscle strength and likelihood of criminality. Even men who really don't want to use men's spaces are male and as a class, not at a disadvantage comparison to women. Males also don't have the risk of pregnancy that women have.

On this green earth how could anyone suggest a man who is of the sex class that is larger, stronger, commits 80% of violent crime and 99% of sex crime, should be put in with women, because he wants to be?

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FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/07/2026 23:02

Outside their own heads trans "women" have nothing more in common with women than any other man does. There is no more basis to include trans "women" in women's spaces than there is to include them in a collection of spoons, a list of famous hats or a donkey sanctuary.

The only way trans "woman" can be justified in women's spaces is if you (a) reduec "womanhood" to something social, visual or personality-based, meaning it's no longer relevant to the female half of humanity who basically don't get to matter enough to be named anymore (super sexist), or (b) understand a woman is adult human female which a trans "woman" is not, but decide those adult human females can just bloody well bunk up and let trans women in anyway because it's selfish for women to expect to matter as much as sad trans "women" (also super sexist.)

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:09

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 22:39

Sorry, I don’t respond to he.

I didn't say he in the question, I said you. As I was addressing you.

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 23:09

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:09

I didn't say he in the question, I said you. As I was addressing you.

What was the question?

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:13

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 23:09

What was the question?

Thanks. It was what is so bad about women having their own spaces away from men and transwomen.

This was after you'd asked what was so bad about sharing with transwomen and I answered.

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:14

It was a while ago, i had to go check the previous page as it's been busy!

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 23:32

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:13

Thanks. It was what is so bad about women having their own spaces away from men and transwomen.

This was after you'd asked what was so bad about sharing with transwomen and I answered.

I don’t have a good answer to that question. Anything I come up with is incredibly selfish and shortsighted on my part.

I don’t think the solution is forcing trans people to share with their birth sex, but I also don’t see how trans women can share with women when women should have single sex spaces.

murasaki · 09/07/2026 23:36

Thanks for answering. So your own spaces then. Will we see some campaigning for that? That's where you might get some supportive women, as long as the trans people did the donkey work first of course.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:30

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 18:40

Being trans isn’t a choice

The amount of men who transition during their 'mid life crisis' years and then pose in womens clothes erm, 'aroused' shows it is.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:33

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 19:37

You’re picking out the most extreme examples there, aren’t you? You know for 99% of trans people that just doesn’t apply.

They are not extreme. They are the norm. Genuine trans is extremely, extremely, extremely rare. 1% of them are genuine. And these are the ones also who say they have no problems at all in the mens and don't use womens spaces.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:36

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 19:57

Do you really think someone would choose go through transition if they didn’t have to?

Absolutely, as many detransitioners prove. And the overwhelming majority of trans is simply self-ID. Nothing done at all except pop on a dress. Taking hormones is the level highest the vast overwhelming majority do.

Helleofabore · 10/07/2026 04:36

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 21:21

Didn’t those polls show the exact opposite just a few years ago? It’s almost like a targeted campaign to remove trans rights has worked.

Or, how about what really happened? That instead of female people feeling that they had no alternative but to accept what we had been told was kind and inclusive by a group of authoritarians who wanted their demands fulfilled, we finally felt we had the freedom to tell the truth about our needs? That after years of being told that this was the only progressive solution and that we had to suck up any discomfort and any needs that we saw being ignored in the name of rights for others, we saw the result of court cases where some incredibly brave female people said ‘this is not progressive for women, we have needs too!’ and we understood the groups who had told us they were the kindest and most tolerant had completely disregarded the needs of female people in the focused prioritisation of male people.

Or maybe those being polled had had direct experience of male people in female single sex provisions over the intervening years and could answer from a position of experience now.

Either way, thanks for saying the quiet bit out loud.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:45

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 21:23

Decades of research across neurology, psychology, and endocrinology support the legitimacy of transgender identities. No research exists for other things you throw around as gotchas.

This is an absolute lie. There are zero reputable studies on neurology or endocrinology. Zero.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:49

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 21:55

The Cass Review did not conclude that transgender identities themselves are illegitimate. Instead, it argued for a holistic, psychologically-led approach to care for young people. In fact, Cass believed puberty blockers may be the right option for a subset of young people.

No, I’m not talking about MRI scans or ‘lady brains’. I’m talking about the fact gender dysphoria is a clinically observed and recognised condition. There is decades of research looking at transgender people and gender dysphoria, and treatments and outcomes.

People presented to doctors with distress about their sex. That doesn’t happen for age or race.

I’m talking about the fact gender dysphoria is a clinically observed and recognised condition.

Not neurologically or endocrinologically. You lied there.

There is decades of research looking at transgender people and gender dysphoria, and treatments and outcomes.

And all legitimate research shows that a) most children grow out of it, b) 'affirming' it does not produce good outcomes and c) most trans suicides are post-surgery.

Helleofabore · 10/07/2026 04:51

“a targeted campaign to remove trans rights has worked”.

There we have it.

Not only is this a great example of the manipulation we have been pointing to, it is a great example of the authoritarian. / totalitarian aspect as well.

It is also a beacon pointing out the direct conflict between the rights of female people and the demands from male people with transgender identities.

Rights really are pie, it seems. Despite being told there was no conflict and that rights are not pie and the constant denial of the conflict we kept pointing out. Scratch the surface of kindess and tolerance and we are told that campaigning for the needs of female people has removed trans rights.

Yet, people with transgender identities have equal rights compared to others. What has been described as being ‘removed’ has been the denial or reversal of the additional privileges that had been demanded and granted by some organisations.

People with transgender identities still have the same rights as other people.

Helleofabore · 10/07/2026 04:53

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:45

This is an absolute lie. There are zero reputable studies on neurology or endocrinology. Zero.

We are still waiting for those links for that decades of research.

If I remember correctly a different username just last week made the same declaration and also didn’t post any links.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:57

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 22:37

Yes exactly. And the help for that situation is medical transition.

Except as shown, that doesn't help. Medical transition does not help. Intensive psychiatric therapy in a facility would help.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 04:58

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 23:15

Gender dysphoria is the medical condition, and hormones and surgery is the treatment

No, it really is not the treatment. Not at all.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 05:01

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 23:21

Who told you it’s not required to take hormones or have surgery? Distress is a core part of the diagnosis for treatment from the NHS and regulated private providers. No surgeon is doing gender-affirming surgery without psychological sign-off confirming distress and gender dysphoria.

The fact that less than 8% have any surgery is proof it is not required. For the overwhelming majority, it's an chosen 'identity'. Many trans have even said they do not have dysphoria.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 05:09

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 08/07/2026 23:35

And no one has ever been able to explain to me why womanface is okay, indeed, stunning and brave, but blackface is wrong.
Because anyone with two brain cells to rub together can see they are obviously very different.

No, anyone with two brain cells to rub together can see that they are exactly the same thing! And you know it. And it's up to the victim in each of those to determine how they feel, not you, a male. And not a white person.

And, in addition, it is no different from transracialism ie Rachel Dolezal identifying as an African American. You have no comeback for that, do you. Both cases (males identifying as women, white people identifying as a person of colour) are the privileged/oppressor group trying to identify into another group's oppression.

'Arm the Dolls'
Helleofabore · 10/07/2026 05:17

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 21:39

It’s actually the opposite. Most mentions in the press were negative.

The press have completely manufactured this debate.

Accurate reporting of court case outcomes, the crimes committed by male people where media refused to use demanded female language, and articles reporting and discussing policy changes that centred female people’s needs is now being framed as ‘negative media for transgender people’?

Thank you for the heads up that this previous tactic is back again. It is remarkable, isn’t it, that the public relations exercise that was flooding the media with stories that focused on one group of people so that that group was overrepresented in all media, including tv shows, has back fired. Because people are human and eventually resent the fuck out of feeling manipulated by media.

Whether it is news, movies, social media, the backlash comes eventually when people feel that they have been manipulated and that they are being told to support subjective beliefs that are not based on material reality instead of being told about the material reality around them.

If reporting on court cases and policy change discussions and outcomes is now being classified as ‘negative’ media for male people with transgender identities instead of as positive moments for female people, that is more saying the quiet bits out loud.

If the manipulative and false labelling or categorising women’s and girl’s rights campaigners as ‘anti-trans’ in media, including nationally owned media agencies, has also artificially increased the number of ‘negative’ mentions of trans people, well, that gets ignored doesn’t it? That women’s and girl’s rights campaigners are labelled as ‘anti-trans’ means an increase in negative media mentions is guaranteed.

This thread has been a great insight into tactics.

callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 05:21

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callmeLoretta1 · 10/07/2026 05:30

DumbfoundedAndUnhappy · 09/07/2026 11:46

To claim that a person undergoing years of painful medical treatment and social struggle just to live in peace is doing so to 'mock' you is an astonishing level of narcissism. Women’s dignity is not so fragile that it is degraded by the existence of transgender people managing a medical condition.

Almost none of them actually have any surgery. Taking hormones is not painful. Putting on a dress is not painful. Self-ID is painless. In fact, it takes an extraordinary level of narcissism to not consider how the recipient feels, and think that your 'intent' is all that matters.

Helleofabore · 10/07/2026 05:32

Reader’s note: here is an example of the manipulation that was pointed out earlier.

”Sorry, I don’t respond to he.”

This is an example of emotional coercion tactics. The denial of contact because the other person chose to use accurate language that was based on material reality instead of complying to a language demand based on someone’s subjective belief that is not based on material reality.

What has also been shown here too, is the dishonesty in claims that some male posters make that they do not control the language used by others in their life when they also claim all the people in their life just treat them as female without any direction or cues from them.

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