If my coworkers genuinely feel forced to lie simply to interact with me, how am I meant to believe they have my best interests at heart? It’s simply a direct attack on my legitimacy and my ability to set the terms on how people interact with me......
The obvious difficulty shown here...
How does he have the best interests of his coworkers at heart when he forces them into a position of feeling compelled to lie because of him? How do they set terms on how people interact with them?
Of course he's showing that he doesn't, and that setting terms isn't something his coworkers get to do as he does. It would suggest that in his way of thinking, they have a duty and responsibility to provide for him but that he has no equal responsibility in turn. He would seem to have confused coworkers somewhat with therapeutic carers.
when I present my authentic self, they view it as a deception to access women’s spaces
His authentic self is a man who identifies as a woman, and that is protected in law, with additional provisions now clearly required in law. He is not able to see or understand that the resistance from groups such as SEEN is that he would like to be seen as a woman and permitted into women's spaces, and he is not able to see or understand (if my coworkers genuinely feel forced to lie) or accept that there is an impact on women that requires defense against what he would like - the provided labour of being validated in the way he wishes, while women vanish away their own competing needs to meet his. It seems unlikely that he will be able to process or understand any explanations of this, and will regard any defense of women's needs and equality in the workplace to his as just more evidence of them harming him.
In which case, this kind of workplace is never going to work for him, no matter what anyone does. Saying to him that other people have rights too just won't click when he sees them as there to protect and serve his best interests, and to maintain his tight rules of safety and stability without any intruding needs or personhood of their own. It's the saddest situation I've yet seen in court in all this mess.