Are equality laws clear on sex and gender expression at work? Kids Toy Shop AGP

[MyShyCat]

So yesterday I was in a local branch of a well known National Toy Superstore.

I needed to Click and Collect a large lego item for my daughters Birthday. I needed to be in and out as I was rushing to get back to set up for her party so i was already a little stressed thinking about getting stuck behind a long queue of people collecting random items and not being able to find their Order Number etc etc.

In the end, there was no queue and I was able to collect my item in record time.

However, I wasn't expecting to be served by a 6ft male member of staff with a receding hair-line called "Boudica" who had clearly "brought all of himself" to work that day. I wasn't prepared for the enourmous fake latex breasts that he was clearly wearing under his corporate uniform.

Problem is, what do I do? The teacher in me sees this as a safe-guarding issue (especially in a kids toy shop!) I don't believe for one minute that anyone has consented to be part of this mans fantasy.

Do equality laws actually permit this type of behaviour (even in a kids toy shop?) or am I just a big transphobe?

Do equality laws actually permit this type of behaviour (even in a kids toy shop?)

Maybe ask yourself whether a woman with enormous fake breasts would be so triggering for the answer.

Trust your gut OP. Ignore the posters that try and justify a bloke wearing fake tits in a toy shop. But any complaint you potentially would make would be ignored.

He must have been hot, wearing latex next to the skin on a day like this. Shows a certain level of… commitment… I suppose.

It’s a shitty retail job. He’s surrounded all day by over-stimulated kids and their often-harassed and usually grumpy parents. Maybe his comedy breasts are what he needs to hold it together through 6-8 hours of that, earning just over minimum wage?

@MyShyCat Of course it is inappropriate, just as if a woman wore a large strap on fake penis to work. I would write a letter to the toy shop HQ to complain.

See also https://www.andrewdoyle.org/p/why-is-an-oxford-lecturer-allowed

What are they going to say? We fully support the rights of our employees to wear comically large fake boobs and any customer who objects is unwelcome in our stores?

I can see why you are concerned about a fetishistic exhibitionist trying to involve bystanders in his fetish who has chosen to do so in an environment attractive to young children. But any attempt to safeguard the children will result in cries of bigot.

So what?

Dont be so ridiculous. A woman having large breasts is not the same as a transvestite man bringing his fetish to work in a toy shop.

Assuming this is true, it sounds inappropriate and creepy, and is giving transsexuals a bad reputation. If it would be inappropriate for a biological woman to wear, it’s not appropriate for that person, especially around children.

But how do you know whether it's a fetish or not? Seems that you are making the false assumption that trans expression = fetish.

Is it a 'fetish' for butch women to express 'man face'?

What's inconsistent & frankly sexist about gender critical views is they assert expressing gender non conformity is perfectly acceptable within one's sex so trans identities are illegitimate ….except when it comes to men.

Probably….no doubt the reply would involve hand wringing and bollocks about the most marginalised minority.

FFS …..I’ve seen it all. Comparing short hair, jeans and t-shirts with fake plastic tits.

Huge fake breasts is not trans expression

edit: the name alone is a huge red flag

A woman with enormous fake breasts would beva red flag, too.

Every woman I know with naturally huge breasts hates them. Several have had reductions.

if he were wearing normal sized fakes I could see it as a part of a genuine struggle with gender identity. But huge falsies? Fetish

Seriously, when have you ever seen or heard of a woman wearing 'enormous fake breasts'? Yes, women get surgical breast enlargements, but it is not a 'red flag' and is in no way equivalent to a biological male wearing enormous fake plastic boobs as a sexual fetish.

Lots of women get 'huge' implants as an expression of their feminine inclinations. No different.

edit: the name alone is a huge red flag

As in a play on Emily In Paris? You may need to step away from the keyboard for a break.

No. She's just concerned that a kid's toy shop employee is displaying his sexual fetish at work. Where there are children.

Not your name. The name of the shop worker in the original post.

There is a significant difference between implants and removable fake breasts. Do you really think a biological woman would wear fake breasts to work?

Lots of butch women sneak a rolled sock in their undies. Ever seen the movie 'Big Boys Don't Cry' thats a true story?

There's this thing called 'chicken fillets' also know as 'false advertising' many women are fond of.

In any case, implants are 'fake'.

Big Boys Don’t Cry or Boys Don’t Cry?

BTW, butch women are not transmen and don’t tend to want to pretend they have a dick.

Again though, the mental gymnastics on display (on a parenting site no less) to justify why there’s nothing out of the ordinary for a bloke to wear fake plastic tits at work in a children’s toy shop is a sight to behold.

Sorry, Boys don't Cry. And lots of lesbians use strap on dildos so don't pretend this is a male centric thing.

What's creepy is the assumption that children will view such an image as sexual when the truth is they might just find it 'weird' just like aunty jane is for wearing a three piece suit & tie to work 'like daddy'.

And if they do find it weird how hard is to to explain that people like animals differ? That diversity is part of nature? Parents modelling sexualising the world with their 'fetishist' policing is part of the reason children are sexualised too early.

Yes, some women may use padding or other aids, but most aren’t aiming for enormous breasts like the ‘trans woman’ shop worker.

Why would that person need boobs that big? What’s wrong with a bit of modesty and not shocking people?