I think two factors are relevant here@ThatFairy.
One, that respect goes both ways.
Respect entails regard for the wishes, feelings and rights of others. If you’ve read all the posts on this thread, women have pointed out that their feelings and experiences, intimately connected to the female anatomy that shapes and influences those experience, are not being respected by this poster.
This is in contrast to other trans identifying posters who engage in discussions on these threads and who are able to acknowledge that surgery and medication does not mean that they have become the opposite sex. Only that they are more comfortable living as though they were the opposite sex. You’ll find those posters have been engaged with respectfully.
Two, that what you’re reading is female frustration and anger, not being ’mean’.
These feelings arise from the many repeated attempts by trans identifying men (and some women but interestingly not any trans identifying women afaik) who come on these threads to chastise, to berate, dismiss, belittle and demean women’s concerns. They come to appropriate the language that women use to express their experiences of femaleness and sexism and to insist everyone on these threads must be compelled to agree. Or we’re ‘mean’.
After years of these experiences, being told to ‘bekind’ wears thin.