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Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!

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ErrolTheDragon · 01/05/2026 08:48

Welcome to any women who want the company of women!

Thats it really….ok so this place is staffed by gerbils with the occasional quokka or capybara but it functions like a friendly pub where you don’t have to know what’s going on all the time.
The drinks don’t intoxicate and the food is delicious yet healthy so please do come in.

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Bergamotte · 10/05/2026 08:17

I love this! And they seem to have their equivalent of Colin the dachshund: all the human residents are female, but the resident cat is called Boy.

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
EdithStourton · 10/05/2026 09:05

That's epic. Various friends and I have commented over the years that we should move into the same retirement complex, but the possibility of co-housing like this never occurred to me.

AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 10:20

I've known about, and been interested in, these types of living arrangements for women only for quite a long time, and I think I did follow the progress of this community for a while when they were just getting going.

This type of living does appeal to me, now that I am on my own, especially with no family around. And I wouldn't be averse to moving into London, just concerned about how expensive it might be. It's the community I would want around me, and I've always managed to have that without special living arrangements (living in a small, community area in a big city, or now living in a village). I don't know that I would necessarily need a community just for women, but it does have a certain appeal (like the Bluestocking!)

I find that being involved in our church activities fills a gap sometimes. I'm not a regular church goer, and our church here is very "high church " which is really not my thing, although services here are not frequent, with very few attendees as it is in many villages now. It's mostly about getting involved in village life. There's a chapel in the nearest large town that I prefer. But it's impossible to get to from here, without driving, so I don't go every Sunday (like today). When I move house, one of the things I will be looking for is some kind of community feeling, and a chapel I can walk to or that has a Sunday bus!

MyrtleLion · 10/05/2026 10:23

Before Gosie heads to Romney Marsh, she wants to go slightly north towards East Anglia, maybe Norfolk but precision doesn't matter. @EdithStourton can be found there. It was Edith who first noticed that Gosie was in the south of France, way back when Gosie was in the south of France.

Aside from being friends, Edith sees a lot of tractors. So Gosie wants to check if the patterns she saw with Magpie are also true with Edith.

What's going on is much bigger than Gosie first thought.
That’s what’s going on.
The tractor pattern wasn’t local to Magpie’s area. Edith confirms it within about ten minutes of Gosie arriving.
Not through maps.
Through annoyance.

Edith Stourton lives in that broad East Anglian landscape where:

  • machinery is constant
  • everyone notices weather
  • and vehicles stand out only when they behave wrongly

And we know she has two gorgeous dogs.
Brains immediately likes Gosie, obviously. Calm, alert, faintly intellectual German Pointer energy.
Batshit crashes into a wheelbarrow, gets stuck under a chair for six seconds, then proudly retrieves a boot no one asked for.
Gosie likes them both instantly.

Edith listens to the Romney Marsh theory while making tea.
Then says:
“Oh. That explains Lola.”
Pause.
“Sorry—Lola explains your theory.”

Lola should not, under any reasonable agricultural framework, be operating a combine harvester.
Yet she is.
And not badly.
That’s the unsettling bit.

Edith explains:

  • Lola appears at odd farms at odd times
  • always during busy movement windows
  • always “helping out” when equipment or drivers are unexpectedly unavailable
  • never stays long enough for questions

People remember:

  • the tiny Jack Russell driving a combine
  • not the support vehicles moving alongside it

Classic distraction technique.

Gosie realises the adversary network has layers:
Layer 1 — attention
The absurdity:

  • Jack Russell in a combine
  • odd machinery movements
  • harmless local eccentricity

Layer 2 — concealed logistics
While everyone watches Lola:

  • containers move
  • trailers swap
  • loads transfer

Layer 3 — assembly
Romney Marsh.
That’s still the convergence point.

Then Brains does something useful.
Batshit does something catastrophic.
Brains retrieves a discarded tarp from near Edith’s sheds because she noticed it was out of place.
Batshit has the energy of a creature who has never once completed the task she started but has nevertheless altered the course of events repeatedly.
She charges after a pheasant, crashes through stacked equipment, and accidentally reveals a concealed crate hidden behind diesel drums.
Inside:

  • packing straw
  • fragments of sealing wax
  • and a scrap of cloth marked with the same multilingual annotation style Gosie saw in Oxford

The network has already been here.
Very recently.

Edith goes quiet.
Not frightened.
Offended.
Someone used her land as a transfer point.

And now Gosie knows:

  • the logistics web is much wider than expected
  • East Anglia is an active corridor
  • Lola the combine-driving Jack Russell is part distraction, part courier support

Also:
Batshit may accidentally be one of the most effective counter-intelligence assets in Britain.

Honestly, Gosie probably trusts Batshit more at this point because no adversary can reliably predict what Batshit will do next. Including Batshit.

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 10:29

Morning, everyone, and especially thank you, Marie, for sending the Sleep and Dream Gerbils.

I definitely did have one very vivid dream, no doubt inspired by our discussions of yachts and sailing of all sorts - somehow, one of my best friends, who actually lives in Singapore, ended up moving herself, her husband, and three children (who were suddenly small again??) to a small, flat, marshy area on the east coast of England (with loads of sailing vessels) and I spent the entire dream trying to get to her house by train, eventually ending up in Weymouth, late at night, feeling very confused!

As for sleep, well that is still eluding me. I suppose I must on some level be rather stressed about moving house, or stressed about never finding somewhere suitable to move to. I suppose I shall get there eventually 😟

Bar gerbils, coffee and a croissant please.

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 10/05/2026 10:39

@MyrtleLion ' Also: Batshit may accidentally be one of the most effective counter-intelligence assets in Britain.'

Love it! Go get 'em Batshit!

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 10/05/2026 10:42

What a lovely article and such a great initiative. If I didn't have family nearby, I would be quite happy with this sort of set-up. Smile

AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 10:46

MyrtleLion · 10/05/2026 10:23

Before Gosie heads to Romney Marsh, she wants to go slightly north towards East Anglia, maybe Norfolk but precision doesn't matter. @EdithStourton can be found there. It was Edith who first noticed that Gosie was in the south of France, way back when Gosie was in the south of France.

Aside from being friends, Edith sees a lot of tractors. So Gosie wants to check if the patterns she saw with Magpie are also true with Edith.

What's going on is much bigger than Gosie first thought.
That’s what’s going on.
The tractor pattern wasn’t local to Magpie’s area. Edith confirms it within about ten minutes of Gosie arriving.
Not through maps.
Through annoyance.

Edith Stourton lives in that broad East Anglian landscape where:

  • machinery is constant
  • everyone notices weather
  • and vehicles stand out only when they behave wrongly

And we know she has two gorgeous dogs.
Brains immediately likes Gosie, obviously. Calm, alert, faintly intellectual German Pointer energy.
Batshit crashes into a wheelbarrow, gets stuck under a chair for six seconds, then proudly retrieves a boot no one asked for.
Gosie likes them both instantly.

Edith listens to the Romney Marsh theory while making tea.
Then says:
“Oh. That explains Lola.”
Pause.
“Sorry—Lola explains your theory.”

Lola should not, under any reasonable agricultural framework, be operating a combine harvester.
Yet she is.
And not badly.
That’s the unsettling bit.

Edith explains:

  • Lola appears at odd farms at odd times
  • always during busy movement windows
  • always “helping out” when equipment or drivers are unexpectedly unavailable
  • never stays long enough for questions

People remember:

  • the tiny Jack Russell driving a combine
  • not the support vehicles moving alongside it

Classic distraction technique.

Gosie realises the adversary network has layers:
Layer 1 — attention
The absurdity:

  • Jack Russell in a combine
  • odd machinery movements
  • harmless local eccentricity

Layer 2 — concealed logistics
While everyone watches Lola:

  • containers move
  • trailers swap
  • loads transfer

Layer 3 — assembly
Romney Marsh.
That’s still the convergence point.

Then Brains does something useful.
Batshit does something catastrophic.
Brains retrieves a discarded tarp from near Edith’s sheds because she noticed it was out of place.
Batshit has the energy of a creature who has never once completed the task she started but has nevertheless altered the course of events repeatedly.
She charges after a pheasant, crashes through stacked equipment, and accidentally reveals a concealed crate hidden behind diesel drums.
Inside:

  • packing straw
  • fragments of sealing wax
  • and a scrap of cloth marked with the same multilingual annotation style Gosie saw in Oxford

The network has already been here.
Very recently.

Edith goes quiet.
Not frightened.
Offended.
Someone used her land as a transfer point.

And now Gosie knows:

  • the logistics web is much wider than expected
  • East Anglia is an active corridor
  • Lola the combine-driving Jack Russell is part distraction, part courier support

Also:
Batshit may accidentally be one of the most effective counter-intelligence assets in Britain.

Honestly, Gosie probably trusts Batshit more at this point because no adversary can reliably predict what Batshit will do next. Including Batshit.

Edited

Coffee. Data. Sarcasm.

I want that mug!

This story had taken an "interesting " turn: a Jack Russell driving a harvester, and Brains and Batshit looking like Weimeraners! And Batshit being useful...!

Gerbils, more coffee, please, I think I'm going to need it.

Magpiecomplex · 10/05/2026 10:57

I want a Coffee Data Sarcasm mug too!

MyrtleLion · 10/05/2026 11:03

Magpiecomplex · 10/05/2026 10:57

I want a Coffee Data Sarcasm mug too!

You can make them yourself. I made one for the Walrus saying Coffee Football WiFi.

I'll find the link.

https://amzn.eu/d/0cvMEIKb

MarieDeGournay · 10/05/2026 12:33

Just when you thought Myrtle's Gosie stories couldn't get any better - BATSHIT!

The wonderful Batshit and Brains appear, and take their place seamlessly in the narrative. It's as if they have been there, centred and patient [well, Batshit a bit less so...] waiting for the action to come, inevitably, to them, to absorb their contrasting energies and reveal - not create - their role Gosie's quest..

Not being a coffee drinker, I'll pass on the 'Coffee. Data. Sarcasm' mug, but I'd love a DRIVE FAST. LOOK CUTE bumper sticker😎

EdithStourton · 10/05/2026 12:48

Myrtle, I am still wiping away the tears of laughter. The dogs' expressions are bang on (my coat and scarf are not far off, either).

Batshit hasn't really noticed anything untoward, but Brains has promised Gosie to keep a close (but in no way obvious) eye on Lola.

And it's true, you never know with Batshit. She rarely has the faintest clue what is going on, and has no idea what she'll do next.

MarieDeGournay · 10/05/2026 12:53

A wonderful idea!
I've been looking into community living developments for older people, as I know that being completely on my own, as I am now, will not be sustainable forever, and it would be good to make a decision for myself while I still canConfused

I doubt that there are enough women who are willing and able to set up an all women environment within the relatively small population of Ireland [although it has doubled since I was a child!]

There are a only couple of retirement communities here, but I expect that more will come onstream as the ratio of older people increases.

The ads show trim, happy older women wearing brightly coloured leggings and fleeces and trim, happy, tastefully barbered and clothed older men walking happily down paths without a care in the world, at least one of them throwing their head back and laughing youthfully - you know the schtick😁

Statistically, they are likely to be mostly women only, but not intentionally so.
I think I'd have to make do with that.

Magpiecomplex · 10/05/2026 13:08

I'm on the fence about the women only community. I've tried single sex living (women's college) and didn't much enjoy it, but that was a loooong time ago and we were all young. I like having men around, although they can't half be high maintenance sometimes. As Marie says, it's something that's likely to happen as we age anyway, so I doubt I'll get much say in the matter!

MarieDeGournay · 10/05/2026 14:37

Like many of us, Rosy has been out enjoying the countryside in spring..

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
FuzzyPuffling · 10/05/2026 15:39

Looking good, Rosy.

Magpiecomplex · 10/05/2026 15:57

Do you think I could outsource my marking to Giant Wombat? I've got one set finished today but I have another set waiting for me and there will be another set after that. And then there's the stragglers to consider.
Alternatively, if any of the gerbils are at a loose end, I'm sure they could do it. It's not like my students ever actually read their feedback anyway (and then whinge in surveys about not getting feedback).

MarieDeGournay · 10/05/2026 16:02

Hold the front page! I have something to say about a cat! which is unusual for me as I'm not a cat person.

A MAINE COON visited my garden!

I've seen something big and fluffy in the distance before, but this time it was lying in the garden where one of Sionnach's cousins usually snoozes, in a perfect 'lion couchant' position.

Light grey back, very white very fluffy tail, grey and white face and eyes, very pointy tufts at the top of the ears - I'll try and get a photo if it comes back and poses cooperatively!

I expected it to run away as I walked down the garden, but it barely graced me with a glance and stayed there as I clattered about with wheelie bins and rakes and the likes - not a stir, until it decided it would leave in its own timeSmile

So I spent ages online trying to ID it and it's definitely a Maine Coon. Not a lot of them around, I had never even seen a photo of one, and this is a beautiful animal, so I feel very lucky it visited me🐱

edited for over-excited typingGrin

EmpressaurusKitty · 10/05/2026 16:17

I know a full Maine Coon, who is absolutely gorgeous, and pet sit for a very charming boy who is thought to be half Maine Coon. I think it’s unusual for them to be outdoor cats though, I wonder if it got out by accident?

Kitty is feeling a bit left out & thinks that if Brains & Batshit are involved she’d like to be too. She has a skateboard, a camel & a UFO and when someone on one of the Excellent Cat threads needed a bit of help, she summoned a monster from outer space using her ouija board.

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 10/05/2026 16:27

I'm not a cat person as I am mildly allergic and generally avoid them, but one of my relatives had a beautiful Maine Coon a few years back. He must have known I was sensitive to him as he always made a bee-line for me when I visited. Since I wanted to see my relatives, I had to remember to take an antihistamine before I went.😁

AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 16:34

MyrtleLion · 10/05/2026 11:03

You can make them yourself. I made one for the Walrus saying Coffee Football WiFi.

I'll find the link.

https://amzn.eu/d/0cvMEIKb

Thanks, Myrtle, however I gave up my Amazon account after Covid, because it was too easy to buy stuff! I did find a website called Tshirt Studio, which seems to have good Trustpilot reviews. I have designed a mug, but not bought it yet.

ps. need to change the font on the front to match the Bluestocking font

I really don't need a new mug...

Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
Bluestocking Women’s Pub - it’s Maytime!
AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 16:36

EmpressaurusKitty · 10/05/2026 16:17

I know a full Maine Coon, who is absolutely gorgeous, and pet sit for a very charming boy who is thought to be half Maine Coon. I think it’s unusual for them to be outdoor cats though, I wonder if it got out by accident?

Kitty is feeling a bit left out & thinks that if Brains & Batshit are involved she’d like to be too. She has a skateboard, a camel & a UFO and when someone on one of the Excellent Cat threads needed a bit of help, she summoned a monster from outer space using her ouija board.

Kitty us just so multitalented, isn't she?!! 💚

AuntieMsDamsonCrumble · 10/05/2026 16:37

The gerbils are very keen to help out, Magpie. You just enjoy your hot chocolate 😁

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AngleofRepose · 10/05/2026 16:37

Marie, am very envious of your Maine Coon! 😮

ps looking forward to a photo, hopefully

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