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Trans people are more obsessed with JK Rowling then they think she is with them

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BlueSkiesAndSunshiiine · 29/03/2026 17:40

It's strange, isn't it? They really can't keep her name out of their mouths. Very baffling.

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CassOle · 31/03/2026 01:27

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 01:11

Well it’s also group with lived social experiences of male violence, who frequently fear it as much as women do. There are a few bad apples like in every group yes. but I feel by focusing on them jk is isolating a lot of people who would be very sympathetic to her cause.
ill check the book rec thank you! I’m very interested in power and how perceptions are more important than the truth when it comes to influence.

I disagree with you. But I suspect that we will have to agree to disagree on this.

'Live not by lies' is only a short essay; however, Solzhenitsyn did also write 'The Gulag Archipelago', which is probably his most well-known work.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:29

SockPlant · 30/03/2026 16:30

Why should she? Do you?

Very good question. Most of these people obsessed with whataboutery who want Rolling to discuss anything, anything but this issue that desperately needs a spokesperson, never do so themselves. They don't care about the issues they raised. Their sole goal is to stop Rowling from talking about the one issue they are desperate to quash discussion. It's so disingenuous.

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 01:30

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:21

So anything, anything BUT speak on this era's most important issue? It's desperate whataboutery. Speak on this, speak on that. But NEVER speak on the one issue I don't want you to speak on. Sorry but it's obvious that you're desperate to silence her on this issue, you're really transparent. This is that one issue (and all the other issues have spokespeople 24/7) that desperately calls for a spokesperson. Yet you are desperate to starve the topic of oxygen and debate. At least be honest about your motives and objectives.

I’m really sorry I can’t take you seriously.
jkr doesn’t hate trans people. She’s never said that. She’s got carried away beefing with people who did vile things to her and no one remembers her original child and women safeguarding points, which were extremely important and needed to be said.
i think there are better ways to get people onside than beefing with tras for 5-6 years until moderate people are too frightened to go near the subject, yes. If that’s silencing her or redirecting her you tell me

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:35

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 16:33

I try but I don’t have her platform. I repost Epstein voices all the time. I advocate to people I know. I work in this area and so much work is needed but people don’t have her platform or litigation fund to say what needs to be said.
she doesn’t have to. I’m just saying what I wish she would do and why she annoys me. She baits them, they use it to gain more attention for a cause that deflects from the real issue and makes her look worse. I don’t think it’s funny or clever to go after a minority group when there’s the majority group that need people like her going after them more.
but that’s my opinion. You don’t have to agree with me

This is victim-blaming. They bait her. Not the other way around. They tweet her abuse, and she has the right to call them out. If they left her alone she would have nothing to say. You're basically saying she should sit there and take the abuse, death threats and rape threats. You're basically attacking the victim who punched his bully back, after the bully punched them first.

Males are NOT a 'minority' group. They are 50% of the population, and are the oppressor sex class. Putting 1% of males in a dress instead of a suit and tie doesn't make those males a vulnerable minority. This is insulting.

Trans people are more obsessed with JK Rowling then they think she is with them
ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:37

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 16:38

I’d like her to talk about lots of things instead of doing controversial stuff she knows pisses lots of people off. I just think she’s better than that. Like I respect her like I said and I think on the whole she’s wonderful but she annoys me.

Womens rights have always pissed people off. Imagine where we'd be if the suffragettes gave up.

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 01:37

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:35

This is victim-blaming. They bait her. Not the other way around. They tweet her abuse, and she has the right to call them out. If they left her alone she would have nothing to say. You're basically saying she should sit there and take the abuse, death threats and rape threats. You're basically attacking the victim who punched his bully back, after the bully punched them first.

Males are NOT a 'minority' group. They are 50% of the population, and are the oppressor sex class. Putting 1% of males in a dress instead of a suit and tie doesn't make those males a vulnerable minority. This is insulting.

lol omg I’m really not. Jk is intelligent and has other options (including criminal charges) instead of social media shade.
please can you learn what these terms mean before you throw them around on Mumsnet. I just can’t seriously engage with you otherwise

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 01:37

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:37

Womens rights have always pissed people off. Imagine where we'd be if the suffragettes gave up.

Can you just do one long respisne instead of these mini replies I can’t keep track of?

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:40

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 16:40

Called herself a terf. Why even engage with that language? Why even give them an excuse?

I don't agree with ourselves using the terf label (though I call myself merf - male exclusionary, that's more accurate). Though some feminists have adopted the reclaimed the label to remove the slurs and pain, much like African Americans have with the n word.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:42

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 16:51

Look I love jk. You need to be cool with offending people to be an activist. But she’s pissing off the wrong people. Go and troll Putin. That I would watch

No, she is pissing off the right people, the people who badly need to be pissed off.

The world has more than enough people going on about Epstein, child abuse, Putin, whatever whataboutery you want to throw in because you just don't want this topic discussed by anyone.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:44

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 16:54

Can I just not expect her to be the bigger person and use her platform for other things?

Why the f should women always be the 'bigger person'? Why?

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:50

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 17:49

She’s a public figure who has a huge following and impact. I can say what I don’t like about her behaviour and what I wish she’d do instead because of the impact i think it has. I’m not policing you. I don’t think she’s reading this but if she is, it’s coming from a place of love. The difference between me and you is I’m the one being attacked for actually just discussing why this is still going on after so long when it could have died a quiet death years ago?

The issue of the conflict between womens rights and trans rights is very much a live issue and will remain so for a long time, with our without JK Rowling adding
anything.

How would it have "died a quiet death years ago"? There is still FWS vs Scotland, Sandie Peggie, etc etc. Now the IOC. Sports. Without Rowling this issue is not ever going away any time soon.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:51

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 17:54

Can I just be clear my actual postition is:

The word “TERF” originated in a hostile context and is now deeply controversial. JKR choosing to publicly embrace it was, in my view, an unwise strategic decision — not because her views are wrong, but because it’s a word that generates instant conflict and derails everything else. She has an enormous platform and could use it for countless things. Watching paint dry would be more productive than wading into that particular semantic swamp. If she were my friend I’d tell her that with love.

Please tell me how I’m tone policing?

Please tell me how I’m tone policing?

You want JK to sit there, take their attacks and death and rape threats, and not defend herself.

Even more than that, you don't want her to talk about the topic, at...all.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 01:57

WaffleParty · 30/03/2026 18:18

It is offensive. Transwomen are not biologically the same as CIS women, but they deserve respect and it damages nobody to refer to them as she/her. They do not deserve to be ridiculed by being called a man in a dress.

There are cases of men calling themselves trans and committing crimes against women. These men should be subject to the full force of the law and should, of course, go to a men’s prison. Using the existence of these men to cast shade on transgender women is very much not ok.

I believe that the language used by JKR and her deliberate misgendering “allow” other women to express anti- trans views and create a climate in which it is even more difficult to be trans.

No, you are the one being offensive trying to gaslit an oppressed sex to allow our oppressors to appropriate our oppression. An oppressor deserves zero respect. It damages and HARMS women by demanding we mis-sex men. It causes IMMENSE damage and harm. When you ask the oppressed to mis-sex our oppressor to cosplay, you cause immense damage and harm. You've never truly, deeply and genuinely thought about this, have you? Defending men's demands appears to be your default setting. I suggest you read Pronouns are Rohypnol • Fair Play For Women to understand the harm and damage you are causing.

The point is, a male putting on a dress does not change Male Pattern behaviour. You want to think a male's WORD should be taken. Yeah well us women all know all too well from civilisation how 'wise' it is to take men at their word.

Pronouns are Rohypnol • Fair Play For Women

There’s a lot of chat around about pronouns right now. Specifically, ‘preferred’ pronouns. By which is usually meant, the pronouns a person would prefer.

https://fairplayforwomen.com/pronouns/

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:07

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 21:40

They fall under the umbrella of lgbtqia, which is a minority group.

Yet for a supposed minority group, they have managed in less than 10 to 15 years, get society reorganised, the definition of women changed/removed, men in womens prisons, change rooms and rape crisis centres and battered womens shelters - and nailed rats to the door of battered womens shelters who wouldn't comply and had their funding cut off and the shelter closed, women called menstruators, bleeders, cervix havers, birthing person and 'front hole person' (true, from a 'health' organisation in Canada), managed to get children removed from their parents if their parents won't agree to trans them, girls as young as 13 and 14 having double mastectomies, infiltrated the highest echelons in government, health and education.

Not even gay men had this power, they had to struggle for many decades to get anywhere.

The enormous speed that trans have infiltrated and upturned every single section of society, and it's tenacles reach into every single section and area of society - shows and proves this is a group of ENORMOUS power, privilege and protection. They are the highest of sacred castes. And they could not do it even it weren't driven by the patriarchy.

There is no group at the highest level of the totem pole, no group more celebrated, more powerful, more privileged, more protected, than trans. They are the most powerful of sacred castes. So lets cut this 'minority', 'marginalised' bs. They are THE single most powerful - and successful - lobby group in history!

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:11

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 21:46

I just think strategically it wasn’t the best option. I think it’s deflecting from her real point - violence against women and girls is still widespread. Anyone who speaks out is labelled a ‘witch’ or ‘crazy’ and they’re silenced. Why is she not fighting this? Why aggressive TRAs who wouldn’t even get noticed without the piggyback of her success?

Aggressive TRAs march through London, Scotland, etc with signs saying death to terfs, decapitate terfs, the only good terf is a dead terf, while pulling out their penises and urinating - literally - urinating on feminist statues in public.

You think they are not going to be noticed if Rowling's name isn't attached? Aggressive TRAs are in-your-face live on tv in rallies. Even if Rowling was a TRA and not on our side, we'd still notice the violent TRAs.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:15

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 22:03

events and communities would disagree with you. Are you a member of this community? How can you say it’s not a group? They have interests, gay pride, communities, their own flags. They tend to stick together. Not all. But it’s commonly and widely accepted to everyone. I’m not arguing semantics with you. Trans people face discrimination. Anyone else who’s faced it feels uneasy targeting them instead of engaging with Jk. So her point gets lost. I don’t think it’s strategic

Nope, the LGB want a divorce and it's now with many groups, officially the LGB now. Nothing else.

Trans people face discrimination.

If you mean positive discrimination, yes. Trans are the crem de la crem (sp?). They are the highest point of the totem pole. The sacred caste which is the most powerful, privileged and protected. Even the 'cis' man is way below them.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:18

butterfly231 · 30/03/2026 22:05

I’ve never met Dave.
but I know a Lily. Lily just wants to have long hair, go about her business quietly, piss in peace and make friends with similar interests. Lily looks for the rainbow flag as a sign of acceptance when she uses toilets.
lily is more common than Dave. Most people know a lily. They don’t know a Dave. That’s why this is controversial

Sorry, but Lily is a predator and no different than Dave. Any male in a female only single sex space knows he is not welcome there. He knows he doesn't belong there. He knows he is violating boundaries. He knows that. He knows it. Yet he puts his self-serving wishes above the needs and rights of those vulnerable and marginalised (for real) females. There is no difference in action and motivation between Dave and Lily.

Trans people are more obsessed with JK Rowling then they think she is with them
ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:26

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ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:32

TransParentlyAnnoyed · 31/03/2026 00:00

Indeed.

Strange that a woman who

  • posts obsessively about them
  • funds anti-trans campaigns
  • objects when they have jobs
  • mocks their appearance
  • inspires the bullying & sexual violence trans children suffer in schools
  • left a generation of her own young trans fans feeling utterly betrayed
  • ridicules asexual & non-binary people
  • and gives respectability to a culture of violent trans hate while embracing misogynistic men like Trump & Graham Linehan just because they too hate trans people

should even cross their minds.

The fact you think womens rights campaigns are 'anti-trans' tells us you ADMIT that being pro-trans is anti-women. Feminists fund womens rights campaigns. That is not a surprise to anyone with room IQ. You are saying a lot when you admit that women having sex based rights is anti-male/anti-trans.

Get back to us when feminists give males and trans identified males rape threats and death threats and threaten to stab, punch and decapitate them and urinate all over feminist statues. Because the violence is all one way, and you know it.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:33

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ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:35

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 00:08

a very small minority. It’s like using terrorists to make Islamaphobic comments. That’s why people find this so controversial and difficult

Per capita, it's a large amount. Women are more safer with 'cis' men than they are with transwomen, sadly. That is what the data clearly proves.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:39

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ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:40

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 31/03/2026 00:15

Well it’s due to the tiny number of terrorists we all have to go through stringent airport security measures. Same applies for the need for single sex spaces.

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ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:41

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 00:19

Ok so for me
Mean - kind of unwilling to use it
deliberately pissing off people who also face male violence and would totally believe her? Not the smartest move Jo, no.
but that’s just me

There is no evidence whatsoever they face male violence. The evidence shows they are more likely to dish out violence, than receive any back.

ThatBlackCat · 31/03/2026 02:42

butterfly231 · 31/03/2026 00:23

No absolutely not. But if she’d been a bit more like ‘I want stringent checks like an airport to protect vulnerable women’ instead of beefing with tras on her social media i think people would have been screaming her name in support.

It takes two to beef. Why don't you go and lecture and scold those that hunt out JK and attack her and start the beef, in the first place. Oh, never mind. We know why.

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