This is it, really, isn’t it? My DH and I are rabid in our determination to protect our child and ensure at 21 (this week) she still doesn’t get access to surgery and hormones. Without our support for transitioning, our utter refusal to do anything but love her unconditionally as she physically is, she rails against us but will not actually go ahead with appointments at the Tavistock without us. This tells me that she is ambivalent, immature, scared and on some level knows the likelihood is that it won’t fix her. Even before the recent Finnish study.
We have had to make some decisions that she does not agree with in the hope that it keeps her alive and intact long enough to realise it is indepth psychiatric therapy she needs for her dysphoria and support for her very high needs as an AuDHDer with anxiety, depression and past/recurrent suicidal ideation etc. I am appalled that a person with an extensive psychiatric history can ever be considered for surgical intervention at all. And until this ideology is expunged from our schools and institutions, vulnerable young women like my child will continue to be exposed.
I cannot thank you and your daughter enough for what you are doing. It may prevent other families ending up on our journey, it may ensure that vulnerable YP like my child are never exposed, never at risk. It may ultimately save lives if cases like yours/hers ultimately lead to the dismantling of this movement and it’s influence on schools and the NHS.