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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
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teawamutu · 22/04/2026 10:26

I'd further add that efforts to start a bunfight and get this thread deleted should not be rewarded.

Mixed sex changing rooms in a Brighton secondary school - part 3 - we're really cooking now
ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:27

moto748e · 22/04/2026 10:24

No thread is safe, eh? Such a shame.

"No thread is safe, eh? Such a shame."

"Why can't be have threads where everyone nods along with the same ideology? Why do some edumacatid peeple has to go and spoil it by presenting opposing stances and then, when mindlessly attacked by us, refused to stand down?"

There, fixed your statement for you.

PsychoHotSauce · 22/04/2026 10:28

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:18

Are you absolutely sure about that? Please develop that point.

Is it compulsory to use the same sesquipedalian obfuscatory word-salad style of writing, or is that your own personal preference?

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 22/04/2026 10:28

As a side note, I've just realised that I've not heard the term pillock since I lived in Brighton.

@SingleSexSpacesInSchools as ever, I stand with you and your daughter.

Just because something is 'inclusive' doesnt mean that it is always better.

It would be inclusive to allow all animals from the rest of the world into the UK, without check or hindrance.

However, this really would risk rabies...

(Side note, there has not been an indigenous case of rabies in the UK since 1902)

Beowulfa · 22/04/2026 10:28

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:24

Well done for an impassioned response, but you're missing the crucial question; in the context of this thread, protect your child from what, precisely?

If the answer is, as we suspect, from dangers that you perceive to be present due to your own biases, then it might be time for a little self-reflection...

"Trans girls" are male; they have penis and testicles. And teenage levels of testosterone. This is why they don't get changed next to teenage girls.

Responsible adults know this. Adults who argue otherwise should have their hard drives checked.

Mmmnotsure · 22/04/2026 10:29

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/04/2026 09:20

No updates on the legal case just yet, few weeks to go I believe.

However my daughter and I are going somewhere brilliant and meeting important supportive people next week, I can't shed any details, yet again, sorry to tease, but I think it will be a valuable boost to my daughters confidence in all this (it's not wavering at all) and frankly makes me feel good as well :)

AND there is a care package of cards etc. arriving from the Solicitors as they have bundled it all together, very much looking forward to that, I will share pictures if appropriate

Not to mention another voucher which if my daughter can be organised enough, she might use and wear the clothes next week - huge thanks to the donor and EVERYONE who has, just blown away I really am.

I hope you and your daughter have a great time next week. I suspect it will be really good for her - there are some amazing, inspirational people involved in this area. Like the suffragettes, cometh the hour cometh the women.

Courage calls to courage.

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:30

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Cantunseeit · 22/04/2026 10:33

@ThePeachPombear the last two words of the article you quoted in bold are “without question”. These you’ve highlighted as particularly awful in some way

I am genuinely confused. Are you (singular with delusions of royalty perhaps or your group) saying that you think teaching children to accept anything without question is a good thing? My kids have recently left school but critical thinking was a skill they were measured on throughout primary school and hopefully it was encouraged at secondary too.

I am baffled that you think unquestioned adherence to other people’s opinions is good for children

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:35

Sorry, @SingleSexSpacesInSchools, I contributed to the derailment. Congratulations to you and your DD. You demonstrated bravery and steadfast persistence in the face of reality-denying, illegal and harmful practice by the school, which I hope gets held up as an example of What Not To Do in such organisations in the future.

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:37

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:35

Sorry, @SingleSexSpacesInSchools, I contributed to the derailment. Congratulations to you and your DD. You demonstrated bravery and steadfast persistence in the face of reality-denying, illegal and harmful practice by the school, which I hope gets held up as an example of What Not To Do in such organisations in the future.

None of the school's response has been, in your deluded mind, "reality-denying" or "harmful practice". It is precisely that mindset - and the tribalistic ideology that goes with it - that creates the very situations you wish to avoid.

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/04/2026 10:38

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 22/04/2026 10:28

As a side note, I've just realised that I've not heard the term pillock since I lived in Brighton.

@SingleSexSpacesInSchools as ever, I stand with you and your daughter.

Just because something is 'inclusive' doesnt mean that it is always better.

It would be inclusive to allow all animals from the rest of the world into the UK, without check or hindrance.

However, this really would risk rabies...

(Side note, there has not been an indigenous case of rabies in the UK since 1902)

I had no idea Pillock was such a local term I shall use it with more pride :)

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/04/2026 10:39

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:35

Sorry, @SingleSexSpacesInSchools, I contributed to the derailment. Congratulations to you and your DD. You demonstrated bravery and steadfast persistence in the face of reality-denying, illegal and harmful practice by the school, which I hope gets held up as an example of What Not To Do in such organisations in the future.

Thank you very much indeed.

And the great thing is I am really confident that this case will be a slam dunk, open and shut win.

#sadtimes Pom.

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PsychoHotSauce · 22/04/2026 10:40

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I am confused about the 'we' though. Is this a 'me, myself, and I' thing, or is it taking the efforts of multiple individuals to string these turgid and circular sentences together? Do you all hit post together, after a count of three or is that role determined by vote at committee level?

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:42

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WeMeetInFairIthilien · 22/04/2026 10:42

Also @SingleSexSpacesInSchools your situation and legal steps were the means of peaking my MIL.

She worked in education, mostly in an all girls school and retired 10 years ago, so was generally of the 'be kind' view. Guardian reader and BBC watcher.

I was discussing your case with her in the Easter break, and witnessed her real life moment of WTF.

Thank you

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:42

PsychoHotSauce · 22/04/2026 10:40

I am confused about the 'we' though. Is this a 'me, myself, and I' thing, or is it taking the efforts of multiple individuals to string these turgid and circular sentences together? Do you all hit post together, after a count of three or is that role determined by vote at committee level?

There’s a very familiar tone to some recent posts, reminding me strongly of baking equipment. Perhaps it’s a trans pastry-makers’ collective.

BeKindWisely · 22/04/2026 10:44

Catiette · 22/04/2026 09:53

"rabid anti-trans ideological stance"
"hateful rantings"

If this is what you say about a group of parents who believe in single-sex spaces for their children, what language do you use to describe the minority of people out there who truly wish trans people actual, physical harm? I mean the genuine bigots who would swearily abuse trans people in person, and commit acts of violence against them? The ones who argue they should be forbidden any kind of recognition or support?

Because if you use those words for people using the word "boy" as the only way to emphasise that trans girls bodies are different to those of their daughters (which they are, of course, or why would they be trans girls?)...

...You've nothing left for the others. Nothing left to describe the kind of attitudes the Jews faced in Nazi Germany, or Uighur Muslims encounter in China, or the thinking that led to the brutal murder of 8000 men and boys in the Bosnian genocide. Don't these groups deserve the language necessary to describe the horrors they've faced? The above suggests that even "boy" is forbidden them by your standards, or at best reduced to meaning something different to how they would use it. Would you call surviving Bosniaks bigotted simply for using a word lets them verbalise their own understanding of what happened back then?

Hyperbole like yours is both ridiculous and dangerous.

Please don't degrade our language in this way.

It leave people unable to recognise or describe actual prejudice in its very worst forms.

👏Thank you for saying this, and so well.

It needs to be said every time this hyperbole is presented. As it often is, particularly by those who talk of words as violence and yet don't see the contradiction.

DontStopMe · 22/04/2026 10:46

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:22

Collective term?

A parcel of pillocks?
A plethora of pillocks?
A plentitude of pillocks?

Or, sadly non-alliterative, a rabidity of pillocks?

A pomposity of pillocks?

SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 22/04/2026 10:46

borntobequiet · 22/04/2026 10:22

Collective term?

A parcel of pillocks?
A plethora of pillocks?
A plentitude of pillocks?

Or, sadly non-alliterative, a rabidity of pillocks?

A delusion of pillocks?

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/04/2026 10:47

WeMeetInFairIthilien · 22/04/2026 10:42

Also @SingleSexSpacesInSchools your situation and legal steps were the means of peaking my MIL.

She worked in education, mostly in an all girls school and retired 10 years ago, so was generally of the 'be kind' view. Guardian reader and BBC watcher.

I was discussing your case with her in the Easter break, and witnessed her real life moment of WTF.

Thank you

Ooo even better - I have long thought that the only thing holding the ideology together was that StoneWall managed to get "No Debate" in - but that of course backfired like a dam holding things back until it got too large and then the damn collapses, flooding the world with people saying "hang on a second..." I hope your MIL keeps watching.

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lcakethereforeIam · 22/04/2026 10:47

It's a beautiful spring day OP. I hope you get a chance to enjoy it, which is exactly what I'm going to do. I'm sure as delightful pursuits go teasing anyone is a weird thing to have in the top ten never mind at no.1.

SlackJawedDisbeliefXY · 22/04/2026 10:57

In answer, of course children should not be taught not to question anything;

I feel there are not enough nots in that sentence

In answer, of course children should not not be taught not not to question anything;

There fixed it

ThePeachPombear · 22/04/2026 10:58

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EyesOpening · 22/04/2026 10:59

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 22/04/2026 09:20

No updates on the legal case just yet, few weeks to go I believe.

However my daughter and I are going somewhere brilliant and meeting important supportive people next week, I can't shed any details, yet again, sorry to tease, but I think it will be a valuable boost to my daughters confidence in all this (it's not wavering at all) and frankly makes me feel good as well :)

AND there is a care package of cards etc. arriving from the Solicitors as they have bundled it all together, very much looking forward to that, I will share pictures if appropriate

Not to mention another voucher which if my daughter can be organised enough, she might use and wear the clothes next week - huge thanks to the donor and EVERYONE who has, just blown away I really am.

I hope you and your very brave & courageous daughter have the best time. I hope it and the care package she receives, makes her feel the support of the many, many people who are on her side and it gives her the strength to face the tough times ahead of her.

Catiette · 22/04/2026 11:00

EyesOpening · 22/04/2026 10:59

I hope you and your very brave & courageous daughter have the best time. I hope it and the care package she receives, makes her feel the support of the many, many people who are on her side and it gives her the strength to face the tough times ahead of her.

Beautifully put, and seconded!