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Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:28

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 19:24

For the last time.

you consent to being an organ donor when you do not opt out.

you consent to ALL VIABLE ORGANS being taken, or some of them, or none.

it’s not that hard to understand.

This isn't true. From the NHS website:
The NHS Organ Donor Register is a secure database that keeps a record of your organ donation decision.
This service lets you choose to donate all, some or none of the following organs and tissue:

  • Heart
  • Lungs
  • Kidneys
  • Liver
  • Corneas
  • Pancreas
  • Tissue
  • Small bowel
Interestingly it doesn't mention womb specifically but it's probably covered under tissue.
Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:29

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:28

This isn't true. From the NHS website:
The NHS Organ Donor Register is a secure database that keeps a record of your organ donation decision.
This service lets you choose to donate all, some or none of the following organs and tissue:

  • Heart
  • Lungs
  • Kidneys
  • Liver
  • Corneas
  • Pancreas
  • Tissue
  • Small bowel
Interestingly it doesn't mention womb specifically but it's probably covered under tissue.

Sorry. I've just realised you said this.

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:33

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 19:24

For the last time.

you consent to being an organ donor when you do not opt out.

you consent to ALL VIABLE ORGANS being taken, or some of them, or none.

it’s not that hard to understand.

Reproductive organs are not currently part of any NHS organ donation process.

Not opting out of tissues and organs not currently involved does not mean they can take anything they fancy. Such misinformation could cause more people to seek to opt out.

To donate for eg to medical research requires completely separate processes and paperwork.

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:36

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:33

Reproductive organs are not currently part of any NHS organ donation process.

Not opting out of tissues and organs not currently involved does not mean they can take anything they fancy. Such misinformation could cause more people to seek to opt out.

To donate for eg to medical research requires completely separate processes and paperwork.

So how did the womb come to be donated? It was in the UK.

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:42

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:36

So how did the womb come to be donated? It was in the UK.

Part of a separate research project run by the charity quoted (which the surgeons involved are chairs of)

Nothing to do with normal nhs organ donation processes

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:45

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:36

So how did the womb come to be donated? It was in the UK.

https://www.facebook.com/share/1HPymERTZV/

"Hi Victoria, thank you for your question. It’s incredibly generous of anyone to want to donate organs. Deceased uterus donation is currently not part of the Organ Donor Register or the Presumed Consent (Opt Out) law. This is a small research programme and it’s also very rare that people die in circumstances where they can donate. So, we don’t ask for people to agree to this type of donation in advance. But we’d ask anyone who wants to help others through organ donation to record their decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register, and they discuss their decision with their next of kin. JM"

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:45

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:42

Part of a separate research project run by the charity quoted (which the surgeons involved are chairs of)

Nothing to do with normal nhs organ donation processes

I am genuinely interested. How did the woman who was dead have her womb ethically - sorry, don't know the right word - harvested?

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:46

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:45

I am genuinely interested. How did the woman who was dead have her womb ethically - sorry, don't know the right word - harvested?

There are lots of similar queries on the NHS Organ Donation FB page.

They answer with variations of:

"Hi Victoria, thank you for your question. It’s incredibly generous of anyone to want to donate organs. Deceased uterus donation is currently not part of the Organ Donor Register or the Presumed Consent (Opt Out) law. This is a small research programme and it’s also very rare that people die in circumstances where they can donate. So, we don’t ask for people to agree to this type of donation in advance. But we’d ask anyone who wants to help others through organ donation to record their decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register, and they discuss their decision with their next of kin. JM"

EsperTillus · 24/02/2026 19:48

Mumofteentwins · 24/02/2026 18:54

What an awful post.

People used to call the first IVF baby the “Frankenbaby”. Vile.

Greenfingers37 · 24/02/2026 19:48

I felt very emotional watching this on the news today especially when the new mum said how grateful she was to the deceased donor and her family.
My nephew died very suddenly at 26 (accident) and donated his kidneys and liver. His parents were sent letters from the recipients expressing how much their lives had been changed for the better thanks to his donation. It was of some comfort to them. This is no different.
Life changing and in a good way.

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:48

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:46

There are lots of similar queries on the NHS Organ Donation FB page.

They answer with variations of:

"Hi Victoria, thank you for your question. It’s incredibly generous of anyone to want to donate organs. Deceased uterus donation is currently not part of the Organ Donor Register or the Presumed Consent (Opt Out) law. This is a small research programme and it’s also very rare that people die in circumstances where they can donate. So, we don’t ask for people to agree to this type of donation in advance. But we’d ask anyone who wants to help others through organ donation to record their decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register, and they discuss their decision with their next of kin. JM"

Thank you for sharing. It's not particularly clear under what circumstances a donation could take place. Would it be that she was an organ donor and her family agreed?

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:56

Lovelyview · 24/02/2026 19:48

Thank you for sharing. It's not particularly clear under what circumstances a donation could take place. Would it be that she was an organ donor and her family agreed?

I'm guessing they are being deliberately vague to protect confidentiality. Another post explains she/her family had given consent for other organs in the time honoured way and I am guessing the research team then made their approach and they agreed. The organs would all have been taken in the same op I guess.

Similar to other research recruitment really. But possibly a lot more high stakes.

SomethingFun · 24/02/2026 20:03

Well there’s posters falling over themselves to donate their wombs on this thread so perhaps poor women with no choices in other countries won’t be expected to give theirs up.

ParmaVioletTea · 24/02/2026 20:06

Yes @IwantToRetire I felt uneasy hearing about tis this morning. Someone had to die for this child to be born. And I gather that the "womb transplant" is not like any other transplant where the organ becomes a permanent part of the recipient's body. I gather that a transplanted womb has to be removed after the birth.

I really really hope the news doesn't fuel the mentally iil portion of trans-identfied men who now think they can become pregnant. Apart from being hugely disrespectful to the dead donor, a man's body has none of the physiological systems to support a uterus and a pregnancy.

But when were trans-idntified men ever respectful of biology or women ?

ParmaVioletTea · 24/02/2026 20:10

What you have written is in fact what Shulamith Firestone an early radical feminist thought would / should be the future to allow women to not be tied to their reproductive function.

And Aldous Huxley's Brave New World showed the other dystopian side of that ...

OtterlyAstounding · 24/02/2026 20:11

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 19:23

Yes I think if you’re willing to deny people the chance of a healthy life based on some weird misconception that you need your organs once you die, you’re selfish. I’ve never actually heard a good argument for opting out.

There are many good arguments against, I'm sure. One being that some women wouldn't want their organs to go to trans identified men for gender reassignment purposes, others not wanting their uterus used again, and others that, given the number of sexual abusers etc undiscovered in society, they'd rather not risk donating a kidney to a paedophile.

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 20:16

SatinPajamas · 24/02/2026 14:41

Ah the old "Don't have fertility treatment adopt!" trope 🙄

Funny how no one ever admonishes fertile women for wanting their own children when there are so many just waiting to adopt isn't it? No one ever berates pregnant women for making more kids when there are so many unloved ones do they!?

Lol, seriously, a trope?? You made the argument that a womb transplant is akin to a lung or kidney transplant. But no one "needs" a womb transplant in order to start a family. Hell no one is going to die if they don't start a family. I feel for women who have fertility issues but a womb transplant is not a need it is a voluntary procedure. Alternatives are not just adoption literally you can go without having children, many people do. You can throw yourself into programs working with kids. You can forge relationships with neices/nephews. There are any, many alternatives if you can't have a child of your own. But no one will die w/o a womb transplant and comparing it to real life saving procedures is just, a false comparison.

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 20:17

nicepotoftea · 24/02/2026 15:08

I'm confused by your response.

I think it has already been explained on this thread that adoption and fostering are not 'alternatives', and most regular posters are aware of the reasons for this.

What's so confusing about my response?

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 20:23

whatsgoingoninmybrain · 24/02/2026 19:28

The donor is dead before going into surgery.

They are brain stem dead yes. But their heart is beating. That's how donation of major organs works. They are not legally dead.

They are alive in ITU prior to going to theatre. Their heart is beating, their skin is warm, they have colour.

They die in theatre when their organs are removed and placed in ice to be couriered to the waiting recipients.

It is an enormously complicated procedure and process. The number of possible donors will always be small because the way in which you die is unusual- it will often be from an accident or sometimes a spontaneous brain haemorrhage.

Post death donation is limited to some tissues, and bone I think. But major organs require a blood supply and very minimal time without circulation. For this reason the donor cannot be dead before the recipient is already in theatre and the cavity is ready to receive the new organ.

Describing anyone who has reticence or unease about any of this as selfish is unbelievably wrong.

Families of donors go through huge amounts to enable donation. They should be praised. But those who can't should not be in anyway criticised.

KnottyAuty · 24/02/2026 20:26

Friendlygingercat · 24/02/2026 01:14

As a cure for the falling birthrate one day we will have the science to enable babies to be born and nurtured in a lab. This will enable non-fertile women to have children. It will spare those who wish it the pain and horror of childbirth. Individual women will no longer have to incapacitate themselves and go about like a beached whale for nine months more children might be born. A couple will deposit their seed at the birthing center and go back 9 months later to collect their child. Just like picking up the shopping from Asda.

Edited

What a terrifying thought. If the child didn’t work out would they simply compost the leftovers like an uneaten ready meal? This really goes to the heart of being human and brain development. Messing with this is likely to reduce IQ at an even faster rate than it’s currently declining.

Being pregnant physically changes the mother’s brain to run the “operating system” which grows the baby. It creates a semi permanent change in the neural connections which sets the scene for bonding. It’s part of the reason why mums are less likely to abandon a child than dads. Then theres the ear development in the baby with the sensory input which programmes the baby’s brain.

If you’re made in a “lab bag” where’s the connection? Won’t lab babies turn out like those poor Romanian orphans from the 1980-90s? Humans need contact to learn how to function and that starts from conception.

(I know it’s not everyone’s experience but I found childbirth to be hard work but ok/good. Im not negating anyone’s negative experiences but women do need to hear some positive stories to know it can be a good thing)

OtterlyAstounding · 24/02/2026 20:28

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 19:45

https://www.facebook.com/share/1HPymERTZV/

"Hi Victoria, thank you for your question. It’s incredibly generous of anyone to want to donate organs. Deceased uterus donation is currently not part of the Organ Donor Register or the Presumed Consent (Opt Out) law. This is a small research programme and it’s also very rare that people die in circumstances where they can donate. So, we don’t ask for people to agree to this type of donation in advance. But we’d ask anyone who wants to help others through organ donation to record their decision on the NHS Organ Donor Register, and they discuss their decision with their next of kin. JM"

So what I understand from this, is that the dead woman did not know ahead of her death that her uterus might be harvested, and didn't even know that was an organ that could potentially be taken? So she couldn't consent to that, specifically.

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 20:29

OtterlyAstounding · 24/02/2026 20:28

So what I understand from this, is that the dead woman did not know ahead of her death that her uterus might be harvested, and didn't even know that was an organ that could potentially be taken? So she couldn't consent to that, specifically.

I concur

WarrenTofficier · 24/02/2026 20:30

ThatZanyFatball · 24/02/2026 20:16

Lol, seriously, a trope?? You made the argument that a womb transplant is akin to a lung or kidney transplant. But no one "needs" a womb transplant in order to start a family. Hell no one is going to die if they don't start a family. I feel for women who have fertility issues but a womb transplant is not a need it is a voluntary procedure. Alternatives are not just adoption literally you can go without having children, many people do. You can throw yourself into programs working with kids. You can forge relationships with neices/nephews. There are any, many alternatives if you can't have a child of your own. But no one will die w/o a womb transplant and comparing it to real life saving procedures is just, a false comparison.

Edited

Most of the children available for adoption in the 21st century aren't best served by inexperienced parents seeking a 'next best thing' to being able to conceive. They are rarely babies and often have complex needs the most suitable families for them aren't green as the grass first time parents.

whoTFismadelaine · 24/02/2026 20:33

OtterlyAstounding · 24/02/2026 20:11

There are many good arguments against, I'm sure. One being that some women wouldn't want their organs to go to trans identified men for gender reassignment purposes, others not wanting their uterus used again, and others that, given the number of sexual abusers etc undiscovered in society, they'd rather not risk donating a kidney to a paedophile.

I also don't want my womb to be used to bring a baby into the world who might have the same genetic issues as it's parents (and need the same donor surgery as them or have the burden of considering it) if they haven't had IVF screening. We have enough children with life limiting issues, genetic problems and traumatic circumstances without deliberately bringing more into the world to make their parents feel better.

FakeTwix · 24/02/2026 20:34

The situations in which you can be a beating heart donor (required for many/most organ donation) are few and far between and basically are always unforeseen. Big car accident, brain haemorrhage, fall from height etc. (I have known of very sad cases where people planning to take their own life also make their wishes to be donors known and if they die in some ways that can happen.)

Terminal illnesses that would give you time to discuss and prepare to be a donor nearly always rule out your eligibility to donate.

So the final say and decision making will always be from your close family in discussion with the medical team. Not you. Because you will be in a situation where there is no hope of improvement or recovery. And where your survival is only temporary and dependent on life support.