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TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:51

borntobequiet · 17/02/2026 11:48

Gosh, aren’t you the well-informed one.

Except, of course, you have absolutely no idea of what puberty is or what it does.

Edited

How would my comment show to mean that I have no idea what puberty is or what it does?

Shedmistress · 17/02/2026 11:53

Those who have been prescribed these drugs for precocious puberty have had them for very limited periods and have also suffered badly from the side effects as a result so absolutely they should be administered with extreme caution.

Not given away like sweeties for those with 'gender distress' whatever that is.

MarieDeGournay · 17/02/2026 11:59

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:48

I agree, the question should be asked and I don't think every child that goes through precocious puberty is Cis.

I have another question to pose though, are you against gender affirming care for everyone or just young people?

I have another question to pose though, are you against gender affirming care for everyone or just young people?

As somebody who was 'born standin' up and talkin' back' against gender stereotypes, and have been gender non-conforming all my life - absolutely, I'm against affirming gender stereotypes!

To hell with the sugar and spice/rats and snails binary, children deserve to be whatever kind of little boy they want to be, and any kind of little girl they want to be, without being told they are in the wrong body or they have to change sex to be their 'true selves'.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 17/02/2026 12:00

CassOle · 17/02/2026 11:33

It is unbelievable.

See also the stupid 'they are given to Cis children and not Trans children' argument. Has anyone actually done any research on the gender identity of children with precocious puberty?

I know it's all bollocks, but if the question hasn't been asked, how can the gender identity believers assert in good faith that every child with precocious puberty is 'cis'?

Oh, that's right - it's all bad faith lies and obfuscation.

Agree.

You might just as well - and much more accurately - posit 'should we give serious drugs to children with serious medical issues and not to physically healthy children?'

CassOle · 17/02/2026 12:01

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:48

I agree, the question should be asked and I don't think every child that goes through precocious puberty is Cis.

I have another question to pose though, are you against gender affirming care for everyone or just young people?

I think that, as a rule, radical surgery is not helpful on a healthy body. Phalloplasty and Vignoplasty are radical and brutal surgeries with high complication rates. I have said it before - no one's mental health is improved by incontinence, strictures, necrosis or fistulas.

I think we need to value healthy bodies more as a society.

We need to understand that vulnerable people with trans identities (including detransitioners) are the biggest victims of the last few years of 'affirmative care' with no proper safeguarding.

Children cannot concent to the Dutch Protocol IMO.

Adults (from their own posts) are not given the truth regarding expectations and medical complications. These surgeries should be rare and very well safeguarded IMO.

I don't want to see another Griffin/Gruffin.

gruit · 17/02/2026 12:02

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:48

I agree, the question should be asked and I don't think every child that goes through precocious puberty is Cis.

I have another question to pose though, are you against gender affirming care for everyone or just young people?

define “gender affirming care” and explain why a child might need it.
I’ll wait.

MarieDeGournay · 17/02/2026 12:05

gruit · 17/02/2026 12:02

define “gender affirming care” and explain why a child might need it.
I’ll wait.

I'm waiting too, there are so many things I'd like Tired to clarify - I think we're going to need more🍿

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:14

CassOle · 17/02/2026 11:35

Have you read 'Time to Think' by Hannah Barnes?

I have not, but will research into it and have a read, I'm open to discussion. So far what I'm seeing though is that same old story of, "we tried speaking with trans people but got closed down or no one wanted to speak with us, but the other side were more than willing to speak". Sometimes, on both sides of the argument, there seems to be a direct opposition to the other side's views and I feel this is something we should get better at.

OldCrone · 17/02/2026 12:19

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:50

And you've just answered in favour of PBs for those with gender dysphoria as well as those with precocious puberty - "despite the side effects, there is a balance between the medical need to delay puberty and the potential side effects."

Why do you think there is a medical need for these drugs for a child with gender dysphoria? What is the desired outcome?

SidewaysOtter · 17/02/2026 12:23

I don't think every child that goes through precocious puberty is Cis

What has being 'cis' or 'trans' got to do with precocious puberty? It's something that happens to some children and has got nothing to do with gender identity.

lifeturnsonadime · 17/02/2026 12:23

If a child is distressed about their gender, then they should receive counselling. Part of which should ensure that they are not distressed because they mistakenly believe that stereotypes are relevant to a person's sex.

What they should not be led to believe is that a lifetime of drugs will assist them in any way.

PrettyDamnCosmic · 17/02/2026 12:23

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:34

Do you truly think that when they're prescribed for young people who are going through gender dysphoria that they're only used for the duration that they're needed? For example, if a young person starts a puberty blocker at 12 years old it might be between 2-6 years for the duration of the puberty blocker...wouldn't you say that's exactly the same for a 6-8 year old going through precocious puberty?

No. A 6-8 year old going through precocious puberty will be put on PBs for 1-3 years not six years.

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:24

MarieDeGournay · 17/02/2026 11:59

I have another question to pose though, are you against gender affirming care for everyone or just young people?

As somebody who was 'born standin' up and talkin' back' against gender stereotypes, and have been gender non-conforming all my life - absolutely, I'm against affirming gender stereotypes!

To hell with the sugar and spice/rats and snails binary, children deserve to be whatever kind of little boy they want to be, and any kind of little girl they want to be, without being told they are in the wrong body or they have to change sex to be their 'true selves'.

I never said that anyone is telling children they have to change sex or that they're born in the wrong body, and also, bravo for being gender non-conforming, I'm so glad you've been able to present as your true self. I am also not forcing anyone to conform to a specific gender and I'm happy to let people live as they wish.

What I am also saying though is that if someone feels they do not align to the sex assigned at birth or their gender identity is different to the stereotypical societal norms they should be afforded the same care as those who have affirming care in the same gender they were born with or identify with.

Every case of gender affirming care is different from those who have procedures done to enhance their current gender to those that have procedures to alter or change their gender (and all forms of care in between including psychological care).

If you're against gender affirming care for trans people, then you should be against it for cis people.

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 17/02/2026 12:25

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:14

I have not, but will research into it and have a read, I'm open to discussion. So far what I'm seeing though is that same old story of, "we tried speaking with trans people but got closed down or no one wanted to speak with us, but the other side were more than willing to speak". Sometimes, on both sides of the argument, there seems to be a direct opposition to the other side's views and I feel this is something we should get better at.

Please do research. The women on this board are unbelievably well-informed and in many cases well-educated about this issue. They are not speaking out of their metaphorical bums - they speak from a place of knowledge.

As to the question “why is it ok to give puberty blockers to cis children but not trans-identifying children?” perhaps you could do the following mental exercise: ask yourself, why is it ok to give weight-loss drugs to overweight adults, but not to teenagers with anorexia? They are the same drug, both groups want them, why would you gatekeep with one group and not another?

Beowulfa · 17/02/2026 12:27

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:14

I have not, but will research into it and have a read, I'm open to discussion. So far what I'm seeing though is that same old story of, "we tried speaking with trans people but got closed down or no one wanted to speak with us, but the other side were more than willing to speak". Sometimes, on both sides of the argument, there seems to be a direct opposition to the other side's views and I feel this is something we should get better at.

This isn't about speaking to willing or unwilling people; it's about the clinical evidence base for the use of GnRH analogues which are serious drugs with serious side effects.

Gender-confused children deserve evidence-based healthcare and best clinical practice; the Cass report showed that this branch of medicine is shockingly poor in this regard.

Webberley was a GP, not a paediatrician or endicrinologist, so she was entering charlatan territory by monetising an area in which she has no specialist background.

SidewaysOtter · 17/02/2026 12:27

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 11:50

And you've just answered in favour of PBs for those with gender dysphoria as well as those with precocious puberty - "despite the side effects, there is a balance between the medical need to delay puberty and the potential side effects."

You are assuming that 'gender dysphoria' is as serious a condition as precocious puberty. Given that most children seem to grow out of it, go on to be 'just' gay and/or have other comorbidities such as mental health problems/neurodivergence/other reasons to try and identify out of their biological sex/gender stereotypes, I think most people would say that giving drugs with the potential for very serious side effects to children displaying signs of 'gender dysphoria' is wildly disproportionate to the point of medical malpractice.

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:27

PrettyDamnCosmic · 17/02/2026 12:23

No. A 6-8 year old going through precocious puberty will be put on PBs for 1-3 years not six years.

If a person begins puberty at the age of 12 then a 6 year old will be on PBs for 6 years

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:28

SidewaysOtter · 17/02/2026 12:27

You are assuming that 'gender dysphoria' is as serious a condition as precocious puberty. Given that most children seem to grow out of it, go on to be 'just' gay and/or have other comorbidities such as mental health problems/neurodivergence/other reasons to try and identify out of their biological sex/gender stereotypes, I think most people would say that giving drugs with the potential for very serious side effects to children displaying signs of 'gender dysphoria' is wildly disproportionate to the point of medical malpractice.

Sideways, where is the data that most grow out of it?

SidewaysOtter · 17/02/2026 12:30

What I am also saying though is that if someone feels they do not align to the sex assigned at birth or their gender identity is different to the stereotypical societal norms they should be afforded the same care as those who have affirming care in the same gender they were born with or identify with.

Sex is not 'assigned' at birth, it is observed.

And anyone who feels they don't match stereotypical gender norms needs to be helped to understand that they don't need to. We need to remove the gender stereotypes not medicate kids into compliance with them.

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:30

TwoLoonsAndASprout · 17/02/2026 12:25

Please do research. The women on this board are unbelievably well-informed and in many cases well-educated about this issue. They are not speaking out of their metaphorical bums - they speak from a place of knowledge.

As to the question “why is it ok to give puberty blockers to cis children but not trans-identifying children?” perhaps you could do the following mental exercise: ask yourself, why is it ok to give weight-loss drugs to overweight adults, but not to teenagers with anorexia? They are the same drug, both groups want them, why would you gatekeep with one group and not another?

Your mental exercise does not pose a similar way of thinking at all and shows a complete lack of empathy for all sides of both

Beowulfa · 17/02/2026 12:30

Medication for precocious puberty is not "gender affirming care" FFS.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 17/02/2026 12:32

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:24

I never said that anyone is telling children they have to change sex or that they're born in the wrong body, and also, bravo for being gender non-conforming, I'm so glad you've been able to present as your true self. I am also not forcing anyone to conform to a specific gender and I'm happy to let people live as they wish.

What I am also saying though is that if someone feels they do not align to the sex assigned at birth or their gender identity is different to the stereotypical societal norms they should be afforded the same care as those who have affirming care in the same gender they were born with or identify with.

Every case of gender affirming care is different from those who have procedures done to enhance their current gender to those that have procedures to alter or change their gender (and all forms of care in between including psychological care).

If you're against gender affirming care for trans people, then you should be against it for cis people.

And here's the swerve from discussing children to adult demands. It happens every time and demonstrates how transactivists repeatedly use children to achieve their own niche demands.

Pretending children are mini adults is bloody dangerous and it needs to stop.

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:33

SidewaysOtter · 17/02/2026 12:30

What I am also saying though is that if someone feels they do not align to the sex assigned at birth or their gender identity is different to the stereotypical societal norms they should be afforded the same care as those who have affirming care in the same gender they were born with or identify with.

Sex is not 'assigned' at birth, it is observed.

And anyone who feels they don't match stereotypical gender norms needs to be helped to understand that they don't need to. We need to remove the gender stereotypes not medicate kids into compliance with them.

I agree we need to remove gender stereotypes, but until that day, they are there and they affect everyone. Also, I think you misinterpret that PBs are used as a way for children to medically comply with them. It is called care for a reason

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:33

MrsOvertonsWindow · 17/02/2026 12:32

And here's the swerve from discussing children to adult demands. It happens every time and demonstrates how transactivists repeatedly use children to achieve their own niche demands.

Pretending children are mini adults is bloody dangerous and it needs to stop.

Pot, kettle and black come to mind here

TiredoftheRhetoric · 17/02/2026 12:34

MrsOvertonsWindow · 17/02/2026 12:32

And here's the swerve from discussing children to adult demands. It happens every time and demonstrates how transactivists repeatedly use children to achieve their own niche demands.

Pretending children are mini adults is bloody dangerous and it needs to stop.

I also never said anything in my statement about adults specifically, I said 'people'