Right, the things I would have said last night, had I not been knackered after being out most of the evening.
Swashy, grief and bereavement are strange things. Until you've been through it, it's so hard to know what to say, and even then, words can sound clichéd and hollow. My only real experience was my DM's death when I was in my mid-20s, and I found that I swung between wanting people NOT to ask me how I was in case I burst into tears and wanting to scream at them as they toddled obliviously about their lives, 'Don't you remember that my mum has just bloody DIED?' That said, I did appreciate the ones who asked if I was okay, but had the tact to move swiftly on if I didn't want to dwell. But the death of a parent is something we expect to happen eventually. The loss of a child must be incomparably worse, especially in the modern world where to have endured it puts you in a tiny minority, with very few people around who can honestly say, 'I know how it feels'. But somehow you have to come back from it and carry on. It must be so very hard. We're all here for you, and desperately trying not to be tactless (though my own capacity for foot-in-mouth is pretty high).
Myrtle, it's become increasingly clear that you have masses to deal with around your health, and also that you care deeply for your DSD. I genuinely respect your ability to just keep going, tackling each hurdle as it comes, clambering over it, picking yourself up and aiming at the next one.
Everyone dealing with pain, ill-health an infirmity: it's a bit crap, really. It's part of being alive that we have to expect and work out how to deal with. I have some joint/muscular issues, but so long as I do daily physio, I can do pretty much what I want, which leaves me very grateful. I know I'll struggle to accept increasing limitations as I age - I'm no gym-bunny but I'm pretty active - so observing other people handle aging with grace leaves me respectful of their capacity to do so.
That got a bit long, and is a bit heavy for this hour of the morning.
Sadly no Batshit tomfoolery yet today to lighten the mood.