The Bluestocking - your local women's pub, warm, friendly, and not at all unusual in any way.

[MarieDeGournay]

Welcome to The Bluestocking, the welcome is warm, the conversation is wide-ranging, the food and drink are delicious but magically free from anything they need to be free from, and the bar staff are highly-trained, professional, efficient and very friendly gerbils.

Today i decided to follow in @Boiledbeetle footsteps. I don’t know why but winter makes me lazy.

So i am thinning down my knick-knack’s.

Done one trip to the charity shop and on the way back got a hair cut.

tomorrow we are going to see my nephew who is a tiny bit better

He is showing some emotional expression and is breathing by himself.

it is going to be a long haul.

My DH retired on Friday so a whole new world is ahead of us.

Just don’t flush at night, Boiley. I certainly wouldn’t.

I think a lot of it has to do with the language used. My relative does not like being called disabled, which he says sounds like an old wireless set with no plug. Instead, he refers to himself as "having a disability" i.e still in working order but with one or two of the stations being a bit dodgy.

@Swashbuckled I hear you on the treatment after bereavement. People do feel awkward and don't quite know what to say. My experience after my first husband died (25 years ago now) was that all was acceptable as long as I continued to be a grieving widow, but when I went on with my life and remarried, some really old friends either didn't want to know me at all or simply weren't interested in getting to know my second husband.

Glad to hear there’s some improvement @Hedgehogforshort

Do you have any plans for the retirement?

I must've bought houses from the same person. Radiator valve inside a stud wall and another one inside a cupboard.

I may have overdone the bonhomie there..
you've enough on your emotional plate without analysing why people are being like that towards you, it's pretty irrelevant really🙄

No plans as such am thinking about a holiday abroad if anyone can recommend something, looking at Gran Canaria in march.

we have a share in a canal boat so may by another

we also have grand hoglettes so we can help out more

I'm one of those people who is terrible for saying the wrong thing or an inappropriate thing in times of illness and loss.

I remember when my mum got brain cancer. Just after they'd drilled a hole in her head to try to remove the tumour just about every sentence out of my mouth contained "blah blah blah I needed that like a hole in the head". It was like some form of tourettes!

My brain is starting to overheat keeping track of all the topics - before I forget - Hedgey, good to hear your DN is showing some improvement, and good luck with DH's retirement - a big change for both of you, I hope you have some nice things planned.

And Myrtle - please accept a general for all the medical things and the broken sofa, I'm going to rest my brain and have some tea now

Thank you for all the s to my post about becoming disabled/friends.. it's all so different in the Bluey, as Swash said💙

That all seems positive.

Although wether you consider DH retiring a positive I'm sure only time will tell!

I loved being on the canals. One of the best holidays I've had included steering across the Pontcysyllte Aqueduct on the Llangollen canal. Not so easy jumping on and off the boats these days though and anything involving a windlass is a definite no-no.

Hope the signs of improvement in DN continue @Hedgehogforshort

Equally, I may have underdone it 🙂💙

I stay in Puerto Mogan for a week pretty much every year. It's lovely unless you want nightlife (we don't).

And so my journey to cleanliness and spartanism continues. I got rid of 147 pens today and 3 pencil cases.

My goodness i have stuck at following the trans women thread.

there is a startling conversation going on between two TIM one has peaked, and the other is peaking.

If they are to be believed.

I have done no such thing. This is not the place for a disagreement about another thread.

Go shout at me there.

That must have been very painful. @Britinme Other people's reactions and expectations can be hard to deal with.

Ed. for spelling

I’m not shouting at anyone. I don’t shout. Ever. At anyone. Here or in real life. That is unfair.

And I’m not the one who carried another thread here.

I am on the other thread @Taztoy. Have a hug of appreciation. Well, actually have an imaginary hug as the app doesn't support GIFs. But XXX anyway.

There's something in the MN water today. I've had my arse handed to me for suggesting that stealing tens of thousands of pounds from your employer is not a mistake, but a crime. With consequences for a lot of people!
Anyway, I keep smiling, because I can. 😁

Like the t-shirt, Boily! Do they make it in magpie size?

I like a chance to embrace my inner Ratty and mess about in boats. We’re fortunate that we’ve been able to coopt DD and her BF for a few holidays - she’s our designated jumper.