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RedToothBrush · 15/01/2026 00:44

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:08

It's in the report: "No adam's apple, no adam's apple".

I wasn't meaning it to be answered. It was a rhetorical question.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:56

Citrusbergamia · 14/01/2026 08:56

It's absolutely sickening.

But. This is the risk (potential outcome) when TRA's ABSOLUTELY INSIST that a women who believes she is a man and a man who believes he is a woman are placed in the sex spaces of their ideology and not placed in sex spaces based on their biological sex.

And this will continue ad infinitum whilst all the TRA's and their supporters insist that a man can be a woman and woman can be a man. It won't ever change until this ideology is called out for what it is.

I feel so sorry for that poor woman who was raped. The safe guarding appears to have been non existent and the fact that whom ever it was who sanctioned her being placed with biological men, could be thinking one of three things:

a) clearly believes that a woman can be a man and a man can be a woman or was completely sucked into her belief. A TRA or a supporter of.

b) 'yep, place her with the men...this'll teach her to think she can change sex...'.

c) 'fine, [sigh] if you think you're a bloke,...put her in with the men'...

Whichever one it is, it's utterly appalling as safe guarding has completely gone out of the window in all 3 scenarios.

You missed the fourth, and IMO most likely, scenario:
d) "I can see she's a woman, but she says she's a man, and if I go against the policy and she complains, I'll get disciplined and fired".

Aka people weighing up the risk to their jobs from safeguarding her versus the risk to her from not safeguarding her, and choosing their jobs because a clear conscience doesn't pay the rent.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:57

RedToothBrush · 15/01/2026 00:44

I wasn't meaning it to be answered. It was a rhetorical question.

Ah, as in the sarcastic form of "transactivists keep saying that people can't tell, but they can".

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 01:11

AnSolas · 14/01/2026 13:24

You claim to not know NHS policy on gender and sex?

Yet to have managed to make up a whole theory about how management have hired a trained psychiatric medic to work on the Psychiatric Ward who set out to have female patient raped by men on the male ward.

Wow just wow.

Before your theory runs wild you could try checking what the policy was for that hospital. And FYI unit staff dont write policy so the ethical ownership of how she ended up on a male ward with no extra safeguarding lies with each and every member of the senior management and the board.

Do we know which trust? Because Mumsnetters did an EDI audit of every NHS trust recently...

WearyAuldWumman · 15/01/2026 01:28

Datun · 14/01/2026 22:59

It's the wording, in that case. It would've been preferable if they said when it is unavoidable due to medical needs.

Edited

Agreed.

I recall that when my husband had his triple bypass, both Intensive Care and the High Dependency Unit were mixed sex.

ProfessorBinturong · 15/01/2026 01:40

Intensive care, and I think HDU, is except from the single sex ward regulations because patients aren't mobile or using loos and showers, because staffing ratios are much higher so they're never unobserved, and because both the staff and equipment are too specialist to make it feasible to double up.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 02:05

There's suddenly been an uptick in unfamilar usernames using transactivist posting styles in FWR, either posting JAQ-off threads or posting in existing threads about relatively trivial matters, like pronouns at work or butch-looking women being challenged in the loos.

I wonder what they are trying to distract us from?

I wonder which thread they are trying to push down the Active list and off FWR's first page?

@OverlyFragrant May I suggest that you ask MNHQ to change the thread title to something like "Trans-identifying woman raped on men's psych ward" so that it's obvious what it's about?

silverwrath · 15/01/2026 02:20

As far as I'm aware there are still mixed psychiatric wards.

I've always thought this was dangerous for female patients.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 02:27

silverwrath · 15/01/2026 02:20

As far as I'm aware there are still mixed psychiatric wards.

I've always thought this was dangerous for female patients.

Yes, it is.

I'd also expect a mixed-sex ward to be designed differently from a single sex ward, for example by have separate male and female sleeping areas with the staff desks between the two.

This was supposed to be a male-only ward.

WearyAuldWumman · 15/01/2026 03:05

ProfessorBinturong · 15/01/2026 01:40

Intensive care, and I think HDU, is except from the single sex ward regulations because patients aren't mobile or using loos and showers, because staffing ratios are much higher so they're never unobserved, and because both the staff and equipment are too specialist to make it feasible to double up.

Yes, that's what I thought - the patients in there were unable to move around and there were stringent controls on visitors.

AzureStaffy · 15/01/2026 05:50

Psychiatry has not somehow got caught up in the transgender politics - it is, and has always been, a huge part in creating the whole issue. It is psychiatrists who assess people and make the decision to refer them on for surgery. It is psychiatry that tells men they're really women and women they're really men. NHS psychiatry has huge power in this. Imagine - an NHS psychiatrist telling an adolescent who feels they're uncomfortable with their sexuality and/or their body, that this is real when it's the very definition of a delusion.

Detentions are easily enacted and have been rising for years. The staff are obsessed with dangerousness. I was detained after being beaten up and my mother said I'd threatened my brother with a knife. These unsubstantiated allegations are accepted without evidence routinely.

Psychiatric wards have always been dangerous places and sexual assaults are common. There has even been gang rape. Sky News and the Independent did some excellent investigation of this a couple of years ago. Sometimes staff are the perpetrators. The female deputy warden of a psychiatric hostel I was in was abusing some of the under age residents and an RMN was raping a girl in a psychiatric hospital. In both places, girls were selling sex on the street. This was all done openly. So whilst these alleged rapes of a woman on a men's ward is dreadful, it's not surprising to some of us.

AzureStaffy · 15/01/2026 06:07

IrnBruAndDietCoke · 13/01/2026 23:31

No, women don’t rape women in the UK. The literal definition of it in UK law is penetration with a penis. It is not possible for a real woman to be a rapist in the UK.

Edited

You're right of course that a woman can't legally be a rapist but a woman can still be prosecuted and convicted of rape if she helps an offender. From the CPS website:

"Legally, a person without a penis cannot commit rape, but a female may be guilty of rape if they assist a male perpetrator in an attack."

These prosecutions of women for rape are very rare. I recall a woman convicted of rape because she acted as look-out for men who raped a woman on a canal towpath.

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 06:56

There are lots of questions on Reddit from younger transgender people who are expecting to be an inpatient on a mental health unit, asking if they will be put on the ward aligned with their chosen gender, rather than their sex. The whole experience is fraught with anxiety, the dysphoria is the main concern, not bodily safety, or the dignity of other patients.
Considering the amount transphobic events are clung on to and endlessly referenced, you’d think the rape of a trans person would be a crime to be widely condemned and deplored. It’s radio silence in trans land. Probably because it’s a woman getting raped and that’s a reasonable cost of business to them.

This is another example where tip toeing around a polite social nicety of going along with someone’s delusion is not kind, it’s dangerous.

FarriersGirl · 15/01/2026 07:33

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 01:11

Do we know which trust? Because Mumsnetters did an EDI audit of every NHS trust recently...

It is South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust. It was audited by us and is typical of mental health trusts - see my earlier post.

ArabellaScott · 15/01/2026 07:56

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 06:56

There are lots of questions on Reddit from younger transgender people who are expecting to be an inpatient on a mental health unit, asking if they will be put on the ward aligned with their chosen gender, rather than their sex. The whole experience is fraught with anxiety, the dysphoria is the main concern, not bodily safety, or the dignity of other patients.
Considering the amount transphobic events are clung on to and endlessly referenced, you’d think the rape of a trans person would be a crime to be widely condemned and deplored. It’s radio silence in trans land. Probably because it’s a woman getting raped and that’s a reasonable cost of business to them.

This is another example where tip toeing around a polite social nicety of going along with someone’s delusion is not kind, it’s dangerous.

Heartbreaking. These kids need help. And actually enraging, because the NHS have created this stupid ass situation where they endanger vulnerable people.

ArabellaScott · 15/01/2026 08:08

Shedmistress · 14/01/2026 19:46

That we know of so far...

There was at one point a female in men's prison in Scotland. Unless it was a typo, which is possible.

In case anyone forgot Scotland is mad.

MeltedSunshine · 15/01/2026 08:14

ArabellaScott · 15/01/2026 07:56

Heartbreaking. These kids need help. And actually enraging, because the NHS have created this stupid ass situation where they endanger vulnerable people.

The biggest danger here being the NHS affirmation of delusions and ignoring the mental health elephant in the room.

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 08:22

Also, playing devils advocate, these are men with mental health issues on lots and lots of drugs. Putting a vulnerable woman in with them is like leaving a bottle of whiskey on the table. These aren’t nice men, I’m not excusing them, but the reason they are sectioned is because they are not safe outside in the world but they also need protecting from their own worst impulses. That’s why the drugs cupboard has a lock on it.

MeltedSunshine · 15/01/2026 08:50

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 08:22

Also, playing devils advocate, these are men with mental health issues on lots and lots of drugs. Putting a vulnerable woman in with them is like leaving a bottle of whiskey on the table. These aren’t nice men, I’m not excusing them, but the reason they are sectioned is because they are not safe outside in the world but they also need protecting from their own worst impulses. That’s why the drugs cupboard has a lock on it.

They are mentally ill men.

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 09:07

MeltedSunshine · 15/01/2026 08:50

They are mentally ill men.

Yes. They are. Both men and mentally ill.

MeltedSunshine · 15/01/2026 09:15

Coatsoff42 · 15/01/2026 09:07

Yes. They are. Both men and mentally ill.

They are sectioned because they are ill. Are you saying ill people are not nice? Some might be lovely but their illness means they want to kill themselves..

Ihatetomatoes · 15/01/2026 09:43

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:56

You missed the fourth, and IMO most likely, scenario:
d) "I can see she's a woman, but she says she's a man, and if I go against the policy and she complains, I'll get disciplined and fired".

Aka people weighing up the risk to their jobs from safeguarding her versus the risk to her from not safeguarding her, and choosing their jobs because a clear conscience doesn't pay the rent.

I think the 4th reason applies often. Be kind, treat them as they say they are or face transphobia accusations

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/01/2026 09:44

I really hope the NHS is prosecuted for this, and individual senior staff members lose their jobs. Until this happens, nothing will change.

As PP have said, we only know about this because of the court case. There will be so many more women abused in this way, I am sure (some posters giving examples upthread).

All the NHS policies pretty much saying men's feelings come first, no matter how creepy or criminal, this is how it ends. And the fact is we don't know how many rapes there are as a result of these polices because we know they're covering it up.

whatwouldafeministdo · 15/01/2026 09:46

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 15/01/2026 00:56

You missed the fourth, and IMO most likely, scenario:
d) "I can see she's a woman, but she says she's a man, and if I go against the policy and she complains, I'll get disciplined and fired".

Aka people weighing up the risk to their jobs from safeguarding her versus the risk to her from not safeguarding her, and choosing their jobs because a clear conscience doesn't pay the rent.

The NHS policies make this the most likely IMO. They deliberately set up situations where safeguarding comes last.

MeltedSunshine · 15/01/2026 09:58

Ihatetomatoes · 15/01/2026 09:43

I think the 4th reason applies often. Be kind, treat them as they say they are or face transphobia accusations

Not be kind (it is not kind to put a woman in a secure male psychiatric ward), you mean be submissive and do what they say.

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