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The Bluestocking: All You Need to Know About Risk Assessments, Jazz Hands, Battenberg and Sourdough (But Were Afraid to Ask) - and gerbils. Lots and lots of gerbils.

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MyrtleLion · 11/11/2025 23:23

Welcome to The Bluestocking, the perfectly overblown, gloriously chaotic all-women’s pub where you can have a bit of a lie down if you need it.

Expect serious debates on musicals, cake and knitting, and whimsical musings on women’s rights and why the world’s on fire (again), all under the calm supervision of our support staff: gerbils, capybaras, and the occasional quokka on secondment.

The alcohol won’t get you drunk, the pastries won’t make you fat, but the conversation will digress, and that’s the point.

Remember to namechange before posting if you’re sometimes someone else.

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ErrolTheDragon · 23/11/2025 16:26

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 15:52

Oh my goodness I feel I need to make an apology. I wrote this in my last post:
"the fenlanders what collected reeds"

I am so sorry. I do genuinely know that it should be who, not what. I don't know what came over me.

I’m tempted to be naughty with that last sentence but shall resist.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/11/2025 16:29

Yesterday walking by the canal a hymn line came to mind ‘the rushes by the water we gather every day’ - quietly evocative of a bygone custom, would this have been for strewing the floor or what?

EdithStourton · 23/11/2025 16:38

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 16:25

I'm a bit all over the shop.
DH's wonderful best friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly this weekend. He was far too young.
I'll be back when I've recovered my equilibrium.

Oh Fuzzy, I'm so sorry. The unexpected deaths if the apparently fit and well are always blindside you.

We will be thinking of you and your DH.

MarieDeGournay · 23/11/2025 16:52

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 16:25

I'm a bit all over the shop.
DH's wonderful best friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly this weekend. He was far too young.
I'll be back when I've recovered my equilibrium.

Very very sorry to hear about your loss, Fuzzy, you and DH must be in shock at suddenly losing someone who was obviously dear to both of youFlowers

NotAtMyAge · 23/11/2025 17:04

FarriersGirl · 23/11/2025 14:52

Lincoln Cathedral is well worth a visit, one of the UK's finest IMO and visible from far away. The castle is also of interest and as PP said holds one of the 4 copies of the Magna Carta.

Our middle grandson (the one who is doggedly job-hunting) was at university in Lincoln, where the cathedral is host to graduation ceremonies and other major university gatherings. I couldn't go, but watched the livestream of his graduation last year. Such a magnificent building.

NotAtMyAge · 23/11/2025 17:15

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 16:25

I'm a bit all over the shop.
DH's wonderful best friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly this weekend. He was far too young.
I'll be back when I've recovered my equilibrium.

Oh, Fuzzy, I'm so sorry for you and especially for your DH who must feel utterly shocked and bereft. My DH's best friend of many years was killed in a road accident and it knocked DH for six for a while. Deepest sympathy.

ifIwerenotanandroid · 23/11/2025 17:16

Much love to @FuzzyPuffling & her DH . 💙

ifIwerenotanandroid · 23/11/2025 17:20

ErrolTheDragon · 23/11/2025 15:49

Father (or is it Mother?) christmouse?

Well, this being the Bluestocking I'd guess it's a heavily disguised Mother Whiskermas - but you'd have to ask the gerbils. They plough their own furrow.

SionnachRuadh · 23/11/2025 17:26

I'm so sorry @FuzzyPuffling. Take care 💙

ifIwerenotanandroid · 23/11/2025 17:42

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 15:52

Oh my goodness I feel I need to make an apology. I wrote this in my last post:
"the fenlanders what collected reeds"

I am so sorry. I do genuinely know that it should be who, not what. I don't know what came over me.

I was judgey, but kindly. As in, hmm, I don't know her as well as I thought - but each to their own.

Thank you for restoring normality.

ErrolTheDragon · 23/11/2025 17:47

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 16:25

I'm a bit all over the shop.
DH's wonderful best friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly this weekend. He was far too young.
I'll be back when I've recovered my equilibrium.

We’re here when you need us 💐

Swashbuckled · 23/11/2025 17:55

So sorry, Fuzzy 💙❤️

DeanElderberry · 23/11/2025 18:40

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 16:25

I'm a bit all over the shop.
DH's wonderful best friend died very suddenly and unexpectedly this weekend. He was far too young.
I'll be back when I've recovered my equilibrium.

I'm very sorry for your trouble Fuzzy. Sympathy to both of you.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 23/11/2025 19:54

Much love and sympathy from me too, @FuzzyPuffling.

FuzzyPuffling · 23/11/2025 20:02

Thank you all x

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 22:31

ErrolTheDragon · 23/11/2025 16:29

Yesterday walking by the canal a hymn line came to mind ‘the rushes by the water we gather every day’ - quietly evocative of a bygone custom, would this have been for strewing the floor or what?

I think thatching for rooves, fuel, bedding, animal feed perhaps?

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 22:32

ifIwerenotanandroid · 23/11/2025 17:42

I was judgey, but kindly. As in, hmm, I don't know her as well as I thought - but each to their own.

Thank you for restoring normality.

So glad we can draw a line under this now and put it behind us.

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 22:32

So sorry for your loss @FuzzyPuffling

ifIwerenotanandroid · 23/11/2025 23:53

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 22:32

So glad we can draw a line under this now and put it behind us.

It never happened.

knittedsloth · 24/11/2025 01:13

MarieDeGournay · 23/11/2025 10:30

Thinking of Ely Cathedral standing out in the middle of the flat flat surroundings reminds me of Jacques Brel's song about his native Belguim, Le Plat Pays:

Avec des cathédrales pour uniques montagnes
'with cathedrals as its only mountains'

I've found it in youtube with words -the meaning is not always clear cos it's poetry innit?
but there are English translations, of varying quality🙄available online

And here's a live version - charismatic or wha'?

I hear mutterings from Pedantry Corner that the Ardennes aren't flat, but Brel wasn't from that part of Belgium, and as I said before, it's poetry innit? 😏

Zut alors!

ze Belgian Leonard Cohen.

Magnifique.

knittedsloth · 24/11/2025 01:58

Going back a few pages, I wanted to add a couple of mishearings -
some kind of works do a few years ago, a confident woman was being mentioned and apparently what was said was "she's notionally king of Ireland" (actually "she's no shrinking violet").

A rather weedy boyfriend of a friend of mine said his favourite tune when he was younger had a chorus that went "he's a nine stone Cowboy"

Long past bedtime. Luckily I had a couple of naps earlier.

knittedsloth · 24/11/2025 02:00

Hugs to fuzzy. So sad 💙

EdithStourton · 24/11/2025 09:14

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 22:31

I think thatching for rooves, fuel, bedding, animal feed perhaps?

Rushes were dipped in tallow to make (very inadequate) candles, so maybe it was that.
I'm not sure they were used for feed - cattle tend to graze around both reeds and sedge.

ChristmasStars · 24/11/2025 10:20

Yes I think you're right about feed @EdithStourton
It was a big industry for the fenlanders but I guess for house materials mostly. I guess in those days Wicken Fen to Cambridge was a long trek for market days!

MyrtleLion · 24/11/2025 11:05

ChristmasStars · 23/11/2025 15:52

Oh my goodness I feel I need to make an apology. I wrote this in my last post:
"the fenlanders what collected reeds"

I am so sorry. I do genuinely know that it should be who, not what. I don't know what came over me.

An East Anglian accent?

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