What gets me is there is no acknowledgement of the shame we feel when our menstrual blood is in spate, or even when it’s not.
It’s not a mere practical concern as this J seems to think.
On an average cycle having periods is normal but we feel so ashamed even when not flooding we keep it hidden, a secret, like we are doing something wrong.
We ALL know that shame, even women who don’t flood.
I have been in horrendous period related incidents from my early teens to menopause, from extreme pain, to passing glutinous clots to flooding. I went to see a GP about it once in my teens and all he did was prescribe painkillers. I kept all of it hidden out of shame.
Diagnosed with fibroid the size of a football in forties and uterus removed.
Yet when it was raised as an issue in thia ET I felt Shane and wished they’d not brought it in because I know how easily dismissed it is. I knew it gives judges lije this one the opportunity to undermine that shame we feel, to make us feel more shame, to dismiss and belittle how it feels.
we want privacy not just for yhose moments but because it is imbricated in who we are and how we feel about ourselves 24/7 — not just when menstruating.
when we anticipate we dont go out because even amongst other women it still fills us with shame but at least with other women we know they understand the shame — they will look away so as to preserve our dignity; they will pretend they haven’t seen us. That is so appreciated. It demonstrates an understanding that our dignity matters, it is being respected.
Men don’t know that language. They can’t know it.
it is outrageous to belittle the entirety of what is known to ‘toilet paper’ being available.
this is one stupid judge.