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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Glimmer: do you think this is acceptable?

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SpryReader · 13/10/2025 21:42

A 17 year old committed suicide and this is his response. Does this sit right with you?

Glimmer: do you think this is acceptable?
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LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 14/10/2025 07:43

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Translation:

'She's making points that make some in the the gender critical movement look like they give cover to extremist sociopaths so don't listen..'

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:13

SpryReader · 13/10/2025 22:27

If you think that is a reasonable way to paraphrase the article you might need help

This is the argument TRAs are using to get the use of puberty blockers and ‘gender affirming surgery’ accepted for your gender confused children. G is making the point that TRAs claim if the boy had been able to have surgery at a young age he wouldn’t have died.
He has used shock tactics and it has had the impact intended - to expose the horrific arguments being spouted for the use of PBs.

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:15

JeminaTheGiantBear · 14/10/2025 02:02

OP I really hope you will ask for this thread to be removed. This man’s behaviour - in the context - is vile & anything that might draw the attention of bereaved parents - already suffering terribly - to it is not desirable.

Should we deny the truth because it might upset people? Maybe the truth being exposed will make other people sit up and take notice, thus preventing other children from going down this path.

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:19

OnAShooglyPeg · 14/10/2025 07:41

Please cite your sources for the global medical experts, I'd be genuinely interested to read.

I'm not familiar with this case but an important point in a lot of these (and many more that don't reach this stage) is the online nature of the 'community', which is really more of an ever spiralling echo chamber.

The dangerous nature of these has been known about for years in eating disorder and self-harm communities. Someone may join because they are depressed, but over time, things start to escalate as you get roped into the groupthink and further away from proper medical support. Over time, and likely as a means of getting some attention, you get more sick, you collect more self-diagnosed illnesses, and you need to be worse than before. It's a social contagion and you can see it happening in real time. The trans communities are the same, it's an echo chamber of ever greater slights, with news stories twisted to suit an agenda, with more and more people piling on both the sense of injustice. So instead of proper support and treatment for their mental illness, they receive easy endorphins from random people online who have their own issues and/or agenda.

Before you continue to Google Search

https://www.google.com/search?q=World+Professional+Association+for+Transgender+Health+%28WPATH%29&oq=global+medical+experts+who+agree+with+gender+affirming+care&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUyBggAEEUYOTIHCAEQIRigATIHCAIQIRigATIHCAMQIRifBTIHCAQQIRifBTIHCAUQIRifBTIHCAYQIRifBTIHCAcQIRifBTIHCAgQIRifBTIHCAkQIRifBdIBCTI2MzQ3ajBqNKgCALACAA&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8&mstk=AUtExfAkv8vUB2jpEy_9HscNvGtu6T6nIiKJi-SYF34zko66eq4UHeDPQHqWx6X-k9GNrUvCmjNQvW6JXC5n1MEWNnf7hKwS7tkdXIgvI1YAGpVMffKhmtlJWPpWOSnKtPZ-nrGH0yoAmqzyKUdXeJHXSdg8gtkCIy-dR3x6ljA0hP-HpEE&csui=3&ved=2ahUKEwiTmIGMkqOQAxXQiK8BHWvPNOwQgK4QegQIAhAB

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:24

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 01:34

Has Glinner been roundly condemned or even just called out by the GC community for his dehumanisation & demonisation of trans people? No.

They are very ready willing & able to turn a blind eye. Effectively they are A OK with it all.

"if there's a Nazi at the table and 10 other people sitting there talking to him, you got a table with 11 Nazis."

-German saying.

Are you implying that someone who campaigns for the safeguarding of children with mental illnesses is somehow a Nazi???

LadyBracknellsHandbagg · 14/10/2025 08:31

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:11

Translation:

'She's making points that make some in the the gender critical movement look like they give cover to extremist sociopaths so don't listen..'

Edited
Sure Jan GIF

‘She’? Oh you’re back to pretending to be a woman again?

NotBadConsidering · 14/10/2025 08:38

“Trans Activists agree with me”

🤣🤣🤣

PollyNomial · 14/10/2025 08:38

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:13

This is the argument TRAs are using to get the use of puberty blockers and ‘gender affirming surgery’ accepted for your gender confused children. G is making the point that TRAs claim if the boy had been able to have surgery at a young age he wouldn’t have died.
He has used shock tactics and it has had the impact intended - to expose the horrific arguments being spouted for the use of PBs.

You express the point well.

GLs choice of words though are completely devoid of humanity and compassion for the family, which utterly repulses me and so I don't want to engage further with him and the "point" he failed to make.

I speculate that this sort of post is why he doesn't get the endorsement he so desperately desires.

ChristmasSlacker · 14/10/2025 08:38

NotBadConsidering · 13/10/2025 22:28

Welcome To Mumsnet OP. If you’re going to post something goady for the first time, please get the names right and your comprehension accurate.

This. It’s clear he’s paraphrasing the Prick News article.

If you want to accuse anyone of being disgusting you should start with that shameful rag.

PrizedPickledPopcorn · 14/10/2025 08:50

The poor child died by suicide, and the general narrative asserts he should have had more aggressive gender affirming treatment.

That’s appalling and I had the same shocked response as Glinner to the various news reports I saw. Young gay lad gets no support for his mental health, just encouraged to mutilate his own body. When that doesn’t happen fast enough, that is what’s blamed. It’s scandalous.

RedToothBrush · 14/10/2025 08:54

As I said on a separate thread about this case what I find repellent is everyone who has used this case for their own agenda and hasn't reflected the Samaritans guidance on suicide.

Pink news fails this. So does Glinner. So do many posters on this thread.

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:57

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 03:33

And it’s a lie that medical treatment is one of those mitigating factors. Because otherwise there would have been an epidemic of “trans kids” taking their own lives before medicalisation took hold, especially seeing as “trans kids have always been here” but there wasn’t, was there.

Why people take their own lives isn't always clear particularly in times when it was socially unacceptable to admit the reason. If someone took their own life because they were gay in 1950 it might have been never known why. Transgenderism has only increased in social acceptability in recent years as has a more sophisticated approach to analysing suicidality.

"The reality is children who are gender distressed have other things driving their mental health distress that puts them at the same risk as their peers with mental health distress who are not gender distressed, like Michael Biggs found when he looked at the thousands presenting to the Tavistock over years."

As I said people who have multiple suicide risk factors makes them more susceptible to suicidality. So I agree trans people are more likely to have multiple factors that make them more vulnerable to suicide or suicide ideation. But in saying that any relief of pressure decreases the risk. While suicide numbers for trans people can be confounded by their numbers & mitigating factors most studies show that gender affirming care at the very least helps in that it prevents a deterioration in mental health which is usually expected without it. Whether a trans person 'passes' is integral in preventing discrimination/social unacceptability which again is a precursor to poor mental health & by extension vulnerability to suicide.

This is all to say the lack of access to gender affirming care is an indirect cause to suicidality.

"Why aren’t you glad that children and young people don’t take their own lives at the rate suggested?"

Are you even listening? The rate is irrelevant because it can be confounded IE we don't actually know. What we do know from suicidality in general is that the less risk factors which include social acceptability & good mental health prevent it so it stands to reason trans people are at an increased risk AND any treatment that can prevent risks increasing is helpful. That you can't accept self evident facts because it suits your narrative at the expense of suicidality of children is very telling.

Do you really think that removing the genitals of a young man will alleviate his mental health problems?

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:57

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:24

Are you implying that someone who campaigns for the safeguarding of children with mental illnesses is somehow a Nazi???

There's this thing called a 'motte & bailey'…..

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 09:00

Soontobe60 · 14/10/2025 08:57

Do you really think that removing the genitals of a young man will alleviate his mental health problems?

A 1% regret rate says it all….

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8099405/

Regret after Gender-affirmation Surgery: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis of Prevalence - PMC

Supplemental Digital Content is available in the text.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8099405/

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 14/10/2025 09:13

Vile.

weegielass · 14/10/2025 09:14

I don't think he's dismissing that someone lost a child, but rather pointing out the dangers of child mutilation - which this was - and the fact they were still male.

I don't agree with everything he says and writes though.

RedToothBrush · 14/10/2025 09:19

https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/media-guidelines/media-guidelines-reporting-suicide/

https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/media-guidelines/suicide-facts-journalists/

Suicide is complex and most of the time there isn’t one event or factor that leads someone to take their own life. It is usually a combination of lots of different factors interacting with each other to increase risk. A combination of individual, community, and societal factors contribute to the risk of suicide.

and

Only a third of people who die by suicide have been in contact with specialist mental health services in the year before their death.

Samaritans' media guidelines for reporting suicide

Our guidance offers practical advice and tips on how to safely cover the topic of suicide in the media. Download our media guidelines and read our best practice tips here.

https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/media-guidelines/media-guidelines-reporting-suicide/

It is AGAINST good practice reporting guidelines to report suicide in a way that might weaponise it, lead to others copycatting or otherwise encourage it.

These are the Samaritans key points in their Suicide Media Reporting Guidelines

10 things to remember when reporting suicide
1 Avoid reporting methods of suicide in articles, such as describing someone as having died by hanging, particularly in headlines.

2 Include references to suicide being preventable and signpost sources of support, such as Samaritans’ helpline. This can encourage people to seek help, which could save lives. When life is difficult, Samaritans are here – day
or night, 365 days a year. You can call them for free on 116 123, email them at [email protected], or visit www.samaritans.org to find your nearest branch.

3 Avoid dramatic headlines and strong terms such as ‘suicide epidemic’. Never suggest that someone died instantly or that their death was quick, easy, painless, inevitable or a solution to their problems. Steer clear of language that sensationalises or glorifies suicide.

4 Don’t refer to a specific site or location as popular or known for suicides, for example, ‘notorious site’ or ‘hot spot’ and refrain from providing information, such as the height of a bridge or cliff.

5 Avoid dramatic, emotive or sensational pictures or video footage. Excessive imagery can glamourise a death and lead vulnerable individuals to over-identify with the deceased.

6 Avoid excessive amounts of coverage and overly prominent placement of stories, such as a front page splash or making it a lead story, and do not link to previous stories about suicide.

7 Treat social media with particular caution and avoid mentioning or linking to comments, or websites/forums that promote or glamourise suicide. Similarly, it is safer not to open comments sections on suicide stories and careful consideration should be given around the appropriateness of promoting stories through push notifications.

8 Including content from suicide notes or similar messages left by a person who has died should be avoided. They can increase the likelihood of people identifying with the deceased. It may also romanticise a suicide or cause distress to the bereaved family and friends.

9 Speculation about the ‘trigger’ or cause of a suicide can oversimplify the issue and should be avoided. Suicide is extremely complex and most of the time there is no single event or factor that leads someone to take their own life.

10 Young people are more susceptible to suicide contagion. When covering the death of a young person, do not give undue prominence to the story or repeat the use of photographs, including galleries. Don’t use emotive, romanticised language or images – a sensitive, factual approach is much safer. Coverage that reflects the wider issues around suicide, including that it is preventable, can help reduce the risk of suicidal behaviour. Include clear and direct references to resources and support organisations

Pink News fails this. Glinner fails this. Lots of posters here are failing this.

Stop it. You are actively causing harm on this thread in your own right.

Samaritans' media guidelines for reporting suicide

Our guidance offers practical advice and tips on how to safely cover the topic of suicide in the media. Download our media guidelines and read our best practice tips here.

https://www.samaritans.org/about-samaritans/media-guidelines/media-guidelines-reporting-suicide/

RedToothBrush · 14/10/2025 09:26

JeminaTheGiantBear · 14/10/2025 02:02

OP I really hope you will ask for this thread to be removed. This man’s behaviour - in the context - is vile & anything that might draw the attention of bereaved parents - already suffering terribly - to it is not desirable.

I've just gone on a reporting spree on this thread for poster that fall foul of Samaritans guidance.

It's not ok.

NextRinny · 14/10/2025 09:28

The acceptable version of the tweet:

The death of a child is being exploited to compel parents into accepting that extreme experimental surgery is acceptable on children.

Anything said crudely is always crass hence we have the words "decorum" and "grace". So yes the tweet is crass.

What is unacceptable though is the OP stance that this child's death can be exploited to enhance the cause of "no debate".

Instructions · 14/10/2025 09:42

No, I don't think this is ok

It's somewhat understandable in the context but that doesn't make it ok, it's not appropriate language here

LizzieSiddal · 14/10/2025 09:44

JellySaurus · 13/10/2025 22:06

Prick News are implying that the boy would not have committed suicide had the NHS been in more of a hurry to emasculate him.

Glinner is right to point that out. You may not like the language or the style he has chosen to use. You don’t have to. But sometimes the truth is harsh, no matter how you state it.

This! Glinner is telling the truth about what Prick News are implying. Thank god for Glinner I say.

Abhannmor · 14/10/2025 10:02

Ludicrous from Pink News. Very poor taste from Graham Linehan. The kind of stuff Stewart Lee or Frankie Boyle do. Best left unsaid.

ArabellaSaurus · 14/10/2025 10:33

Howseitgoin · 14/10/2025 08:19

WPATH's 'Standards of Care' version 8 includes a whole chapter on 'Eunuch' as a gender identity. This includes links to the Eunuch Archive, which contains extensive CSA literature. When it came to light that NHS Scotland had a copy of the WPATH SoC v8 on their website, it necessitated them reporting themselves to Police Scotland, as they'd hosted CSA literature on their own website. Links to news stories are freely available.