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Muslim charity run

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Thomasina79 · 12/10/2025 08:10

Has banned women and girls over the age of 12 from participating. Thoughts?

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ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:18

Theeyeballsinthesky · 12/10/2025 09:12

Women know your place!!!

just to say you have absolutely no idea of the religion of any of the women posting on this board

It's pretty obvious by the responses.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 09:19

ForCraftyWriter · 12/10/2025 09:17

Yes in a women’s race. Men in a men’s race. Men and women in an open race or a race for families.
I don’t see why this is controversial, it’s surely exactly what we would be campaigning for over on the sex and gender boards.

I wonder which posters have another agenda here that’s got nothing to do with women’s rights?

I’m pleased to inform you that just like with trans ideology, smearing people as bigots will no longer work.

charliehungerford · 12/10/2025 09:19

ViaRia01 · 12/10/2025 08:18

It’s a men’s race. I don’t find that disgraceful.

is there some controversy or issue that I have missed?

It’s not a ‘men’s race’, I read that it was open for men, boys and girls under the age of 12. No females over 12 are permitted to join in.

ForCraftyWriter · 12/10/2025 09:19

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 09:19

I’m pleased to inform you that just like with trans ideology, smearing people as bigots will no longer work.

Well it will if it’s true.

JillyJoy · 12/10/2025 09:20

You find Muslim women competing a the Olympics. . . . . .

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 09:20

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:18

It's pretty obvious by the responses.

It really isn't.

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:21

MyAmpleSheep · 12/10/2025 09:13

Jewish courts have the same “powers” as any private arbitration organization, in that their decisions are enforceable in by UK courts in exactly the same situations, I.e. when both parties have agreed in advance to be bound by the decision. It’s all in the Arbitration Act 1996. There are many many organizations that use the same powers.

The idea of “closing” an organization that its community uses to decide if a chicken is kosher or not (something that is most unlikely to concern you yourself either way) seems either suspicious, or at least founded in a lack of understanding of what a Jewish court does.

The Beth Din decide a hell of a lot more than that. There has been an ongoing issue with Jewish women getting a divorce.

NotDavidTennant · 12/10/2025 09:21

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:11

You shoukd spend your energy addressing the issues that are in your home before you think about what might be happening elsewhere. Nice boys from good homes are raping their girlfriends because they dont understand consent. Male bosses are oppressing and sexually harassing their female employees and colleagues. These are issues from your community and haven't been solved. Focus on those. It will be better for everyone.

UK is our home.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 09:22

ForCraftyWriter · 12/10/2025 09:19

Well it will if it’s true.

No, it really won’t.

It won’t work any more.

Women’s rights and the investigation of concerning incidents now come first.

ErrolTheDragon · 12/10/2025 09:22

LizzieSiddal · 12/10/2025 09:11

Comparing this incident to what the Taliban do to women in Afghanistan is disgraceful.

Is it though?
It’s obviously nothing like the same degree - miniscule in comparison. But it is comparable in kind. Is there a difference in the underlying ‘reason’ for not allowing women to participate in something that girls and all males can?

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 09:22

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:11

You shoukd spend your energy addressing the issues that are in your home before you think about what might be happening elsewhere. Nice boys from good homes are raping their girlfriends because they dont understand consent. Male bosses are oppressing and sexually harassing their female employees and colleagues. These are issues from your community and haven't been solved. Focus on those. It will be better for everyone.

That's what feminists are fighting for. We know that it cuts across all communities.

Keepoffmyartichokes · 12/10/2025 09:23

Whilst I do agree this is very wrong I wonder if there was the same public outcry back when the Race for Life excluded men. It was only from 2019 when men were allowed to enter that race.

ForCraftyWriter · 12/10/2025 09:23

I can’t see any problem with a women’s charity race. Nor a men’s charity race. Nor a men’s or women’s competitive race. That it’s bundled in a “Muslim” wrapper makes no difference at all.

User37482 · 12/10/2025 09:23

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:05

Thats the marriages that they know of and purposely hunt. Meanwhile they'd totally miss the Sikh girl who is in the same situation. This is part of the problem. Forced marriage is an issue in many communities. We only care about the Muslim ones.

Sikhs and Hindus 2nd gen onwards basically just marry people they have been dating. You may get some help with introductions but arranged marriages are not really a thing for those groups anymore. I literally don’t know anyone after my parents generation who has had an arranged marriage, actually some of my aunts are married to men they dated at uni.

I also don’t think such a large differential is due to just missing all the other girls. Thats a massive gap, 7% from India and 93% from muslim majority countries. I really don’t think there are loads of sikh girls being forced into marriage that just hasn’t been uncovered.

Obviously there should be zero and if someone tries to force a marriage then they should be denounced by the community and prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law as far as I’m concerned and I don’t give a fuck if they happen to be a member of my particular demographic, abuse is abuse, they aren’t absolved of responsibility and I don’t think they make me look bad, they make themselves look bad.

We should be rooting out discrimination against women wherever we find it, not turning a blind eye because of religion or colour. I want my DD to live in a country where she is seen as equal citizen first and has exactly the same rights and protections as a white woman. Anything less than that is not satisfactory. I will include muslim women in my feminism because they are women. Asking other women to ignore it because it’s uncomfortable is poor. It’s saying that as a country we will tolerate bad behaviour from a religious community as long as it is only targeted at the women within it.

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 09:24

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:21

The Beth Din decide a hell of a lot more than that. There has been an ongoing issue with Jewish women getting a divorce.

That doesn't make other wrongs right, does it?.
That sounds like a teenager being told off "but, but Alfie wasn't paying attention either!"

Shedmistress · 12/10/2025 09:24

They do this so that when someone does take them to court, their hope is an activist judge [or one who they can intimidate] will rule in their favour and then it sets a precedent. And then more and more groups start using it to discriminate against women and girls over 12 and before you know it, it is practically law.

This is how the GRA got designed in the first place, one person taking a case, setting a precedent and the government having to fudge things until it was practically law anyway lest you say one word against it and bang - arrests, threats, lose your jobs, lose your families and friends, lose your child.

It all looks like a simple 'fun run'. Until it isn't.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 09:24

ErrolTheDragon · 12/10/2025 09:22

Is it though?
It’s obviously nothing like the same degree - miniscule in comparison. But it is comparable in kind. Is there a difference in the underlying ‘reason’ for not allowing women to participate in something that girls and all males can?

Agree, the Taliban didn’t start guns blazing. This would’ve crept on women over some years.

Please read this

https://www.amnesty.org.uk/womens-rights-afghanistan-history

Women in Afghanistan: The Back Story

Highlighting the history of women's rights in Afghanistan, the impact of the Taliban's takeover in the country & what the current situation looks like, including links to our recent in-depth reports.

https://www.amnesty.org.uk/womens-rights-afghanistan-history

Fingeronthebutton · 12/10/2025 09:24

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 08:32

Good grief. So almost like 13 year olds would be visually distracting?

Rotherham, Rochdale, and many many other towns. Ring any bells?

AllPlayedOut · 12/10/2025 09:25

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:11

You shoukd spend your energy addressing the issues that are in your home before you think about what might be happening elsewhere. Nice boys from good homes are raping their girlfriends because they dont understand consent. Male bosses are oppressing and sexually harassing their female employees and colleagues. These are issues from your community and haven't been solved. Focus on those. It will be better for everyone.

Women are my bloody community! I am female. I am allowed to be concerned about the impact of sexism on me and on other women regardless of its source and regardless of the ethnicity and religion of the victims and perpetrators. Other men do it too is the worse argument possible. We’d get absolutely fuck all done if we took that tact with everything.

Also as someone who worked for a decade in a part of my city with a large Muslim population the sexism displayed by Muslim men in the local area was a genuine problem for me. I was harassed just about every day, sometimes more than once a day by men, often coming in or out of the mosque, because I dared to go out to get my lunch. I could honestly count on both hands, probably on one actually how often I saw Muslim women out of the house there in that decade so apparently I was fair game because I was out alone. I also found myself with a stalker.

And yes I’ve been harassed by White men too but nothing on the scale that I experienced while there.(Pollokshields if anyone wants to know) (No idea what it’s like now to be fair as I’ll never return.

I’d like to see an end to all harassment and sexism but it’s going to be rather difficult to address any of it if we aren’t allowed to even mention it if it’s coming from Muslim men, TRAs or whatever other favoured group the Left have chosen as their best friends that week.

Naunet · 12/10/2025 09:25

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 08:50

Well maybe they are ok with it. Why would you protest if they agree with having it in place? Are you going to make them run?

Because other women are allowed to be offended and object to this group breaking the law. Why did you think only Muslim women get a say on sex discrimination and misogyny?

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 09:25

User37482 · 12/10/2025 09:23

Sikhs and Hindus 2nd gen onwards basically just marry people they have been dating. You may get some help with introductions but arranged marriages are not really a thing for those groups anymore. I literally don’t know anyone after my parents generation who has had an arranged marriage, actually some of my aunts are married to men they dated at uni.

I also don’t think such a large differential is due to just missing all the other girls. Thats a massive gap, 7% from India and 93% from muslim majority countries. I really don’t think there are loads of sikh girls being forced into marriage that just hasn’t been uncovered.

Obviously there should be zero and if someone tries to force a marriage then they should be denounced by the community and prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law as far as I’m concerned and I don’t give a fuck if they happen to be a member of my particular demographic, abuse is abuse, they aren’t absolved of responsibility and I don’t think they make me look bad, they make themselves look bad.

We should be rooting out discrimination against women wherever we find it, not turning a blind eye because of religion or colour. I want my DD to live in a country where she is seen as equal citizen first and has exactly the same rights and protections as a white woman. Anything less than that is not satisfactory. I will include muslim women in my feminism because they are women. Asking other women to ignore it because it’s uncomfortable is poor. It’s saying that as a country we will tolerate bad behaviour from a religious community as long as it is only targeted at the women within it.

Good points, thank you. That's what I want for my daughter - that she has the same rights as white women.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 09:26

Fingeronthebutton · 12/10/2025 09:24

Rotherham, Rochdale, and many many other towns. Ring any bells?

Well, yes.

EdithStourton · 12/10/2025 09:26

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 12/10/2025 08:46

Hmm, maybe, but when I lived in Leicester the harassment I used to get from certain groups of British Asian men while running was far more intense than what I get from Daily Mail types now I live in a less diverse rural area. It’s not only white DM types that are responsible for making jogging unpleasant.

This was exactly my DD's experience.

She feels safer running through the countryside than she did running in an urban area in the Midlands.

nutmeg7 · 12/10/2025 09:26

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:05

Thats the marriages that they know of and purposely hunt. Meanwhile they'd totally miss the Sikh girl who is in the same situation. This is part of the problem. Forced marriage is an issue in many communities. We only care about the Muslim ones.

We DO NOT only care about the Muslim ones. That is 100% your own projection.

Forced marriage due to ANY backwards looking religious framework is abhorrent.

You have no evidence to suggest why Muslim (Pakistani) forced marriages are so disproportionately likely to be recorded in the official research and report while all the others are more likely to remain unseen.

This thread started because of a Muslim fun run that excludes women and girls over 12. The reaction would be the same if the Sikhs, Hindus, Jews or the Church of England set up a fun run where women are no allowed to compete.

Westfacing · 12/10/2025 09:27

From the blurb:

At the heart of the event is our flagship 5K charity run, bringing together people of all ages and backgrounds to raise funds for great causes.

A clever use of words here, which probably keeps them on the right side of the law, as the purpose is to raise funds, so everyone is welcome.

... people of all ages... it says, but it's not all ages for the main event of the day the 5K run, is it?

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