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Muslim charity run

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Thomasina79 · 12/10/2025 08:10

Has banned women and girls over the age of 12 from participating. Thoughts?

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Apollo441 · 12/10/2025 19:17

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/10/2025 18:20

British Culture is secularism, it wasn't Christianity that led to the modern world, it was the values of the Enlightenment. British Culture is an ongoing project, it's been in a state of flux for 2000 plus years. Protecting our secular society is protecting British Culture, it was our culture that led to secularism. We don't have to give up any of the cultural imperative's that got us here today, we don't have to give up Christmas or Easter just because we are a secular country because they are part of the heritage that ended up helping to create the country we live in today. Secularism is not the enemy of faith, it is the only framework that protects diverse beliefs, but it will only work if all the people accept that the values of secularism take priority over values of any faith if they're incompatible with secularism. That's want we must insist on.

Modern British culture is secularism but the enlightenment did 100% come from Christianity whose philosophy enabled it. Eventually this led to secularism but don't let your hostility to Christianity blind you to the truth.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 12/10/2025 19:18

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 18:08

I would argue that secularism is the best framework but we also need to protect British culture because without it, we leave a vacuum which will naturally be filled by the biggest and most determined group - and in the cause of Middle Eastern culture, the culture goes hand in hand with the religion, so Islam is an inevitable consequence. You can’t fight against something if there is no alternative.

I agree with this and the other poster who said that secularism is the only framework that protects diversity of belief (maybe not the only one, but basically). But I'm not optimistic that secularism is 'muscular' enough to stand up to other ideologies of the kind that ultimately will destroy it.

Insanityisnotastrategy · 12/10/2025 19:19

Apollo441 · 12/10/2025 19:17

Modern British culture is secularism but the enlightenment did 100% come from Christianity whose philosophy enabled it. Eventually this led to secularism but don't let your hostility to Christianity blind you to the truth.

This too. It's a common blind spot (especially on here).

Londonmummy66 · 12/10/2025 19:20

Livelovebehappy · 12/10/2025 18:24

How can it even be ‘encouraging’ integration, when they are actually excluding women?!

You seem to have missed the point - the fun run we are alking about - Muslim Charity Run - that took place today IS excluding women. However, the group that was under discussion in the post you quoted is Muslim RUnners which DOES include women.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 19:22

Insanityisnotastrategy · 12/10/2025 19:18

I agree with this and the other poster who said that secularism is the only framework that protects diversity of belief (maybe not the only one, but basically). But I'm not optimistic that secularism is 'muscular' enough to stand up to other ideologies of the kind that ultimately will destroy it.

I agree which is why I said we need to reinvigorate British culture.

wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 19:23

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 19:15

Yeah I'm always sorry when I get caught.

And want to get out the situation.

Doesn't mean I'm sorry.

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 19:24

wishitwasntme123 · 12/10/2025 19:23

Yeah I'm always sorry when I get caught.

And want to get out the situation.

Doesn't mean I'm sorry.

According to journalist Stephen Pollard, that phrase wasn't even the worst part of what he said.

EasternStandard · 12/10/2025 19:24

Insanityisnotastrategy · 12/10/2025 19:18

I agree with this and the other poster who said that secularism is the only framework that protects diversity of belief (maybe not the only one, but basically). But I'm not optimistic that secularism is 'muscular' enough to stand up to other ideologies of the kind that ultimately will destroy it.

This is an interesting point and I’m inclined to agree.

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/10/2025 19:25

Apollo441 · 12/10/2025 19:17

Modern British culture is secularism but the enlightenment did 100% come from Christianity whose philosophy enabled it. Eventually this led to secularism but don't let your hostility to Christianity blind you to the truth.

What part of my post makes you think I'm hostile to Christianity?

downwiththatsortof · 12/10/2025 19:26

bunsnroses1 · 12/10/2025 10:00

Fucking hell, never have I seen such a desperate, sustained campaign of whataboutery and deflection. Well done @ThatSpryShaker

All of this!

@ThatSpryShaker go away with your absolute disgusting justifications and embarrassing excuses for straight up misogyny. Women like you are part of the problem - Aunt Lydia

ElmBeechOak · 12/10/2025 19:44

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 18:29

There really are decent Muslims out there trying to moderate the religion, at great personal expense. I wouldn’t ban Islam because scripturally it’s not too different from any other mainstream religion. But we absolutely must have firm limits on what we are willing to accept in the UK in terms of it being practiced.

I wouldn't ban Islam either, because I believe in freedom of religion. But it is scripturally different from at least one other mainstream religion. I can only speak for Christianity.

Things the Muslim sources say about women that the Bible does not say

  1. Women are spiritually inferior and intellectually deficient.
    Sahih Muslim number 142, Sahih Al-Bukhari number 2658

  2. It is permissible to rape women you have captured in war.
    Qur’an Sura 23.1-6, 70.22-30

  3. Men can beat wives from whom they fear disobedience into submission. Qur’an Sura 4.34

  4. Men can marry girls under the age of puberty.

//It was narrated that Aisha said: 'The Prophet married me when I was six years old and consummated the marriage with me when I was nine years old.'//
We know from other sources that Aisha had not reached puberty at the time that Mohammed consummated the marriage. (Also that Aisha was his favourite wife.) Mohammed was 50 at the time of the marriage.
Sahih Muslim 3480 (also 3482)

Sura 33.21 says that Mohammed is the pattern of conduct for believers. Consequently child marriage is practised in some Islamic countries, such as Niger, South Sudan and Afghanistan.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/1226532/countries-with-the-highest-child-marriage-rate/

  1. A man can divorce a woman by saying 'I divorce you', but a woman has to have the consent of her husband, or else apply to a sharia court giving her reasons for wanting a divorce.
    https://www.roythorne.co.uk/site/blog/family-law-blog/an-overview-of-islamic-marriage-and-divorce

  2. Men can have sex with their female slaves.

"Prophet, We have made lawful to you the wives whom you have granted dowries and the slave girls whom God has given you as booty…"
Qur’an Sura 33.50

Mohammed had sex with a slave girl.
Kitab al-Tabaqat al-Kabir, page 151.

ETA:

Plus, as far as I know FGM is only practised in Muslim cultures.

I totally agree that we must have firm limits on what we are willing to accept in the UK in terms of how Islam is practised.

SouthernFashionista · 12/10/2025 19:48

JudgeJ · 12/10/2025 16:54

That would require the desire to integrate.

Well, there are Vegan Runners so 🤷🏿‍♀️

JudgeJ · 12/10/2025 19:53

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 12/10/2025 16:57

I grew up in Rotherham. It’s a bit of a hot button topic for me.
The problem is so insidious there, and so normalised, and so excused.
I went to school with girls who were abused by these men. I went to school with children who were products of their mum’s abuse in the 80’s. I went to school with children who were spirited away to Pakistan while we were 13 and came back “married”, waiting for their spouse to arrive after we left school. I grew up with children who were forced by their families to starve themselves of food and water in the hottest summer days to prove their dedication to their religion. I grew up with girls not allowed to go to college once we left school because they had been married off to cousins years before. I grew up with boys who were beaten at Mosque and winced in pain when they sat for our maths lessons.
I grew up with the constant feeling of guilt because I thought all these things were wrong but everything I was told was that it was all ok, it was their culture and it was racist to think otherwise.

A superb post! Anyone who's worked in public services over the last forty years, including the Police and Social Services, will tell the same, whatever was happening we were told not to do anything about it because it would upset the community. It's good that the authorities are waking up to the reality of life in these communities, it's a pity it's taken so long. It's hardly surprising that some evil men think they can do what they want because up until now, they can. Some elements of the police were shown last week to be racist, the same term can be applied to these men who think that abusing a girl because she's only white is acceptable.

inamarina · 12/10/2025 19:59

spannasaurus · 12/10/2025 14:11

If they don't want women and girls to be harassed then they should take action to remove men committing harassment not ban women and girls from taking part

Agree. Also, if it’s about protecting women from harassment, why can girls younger than 12 take part?

SundayAfternoonTea · 12/10/2025 20:00

@ElmBeechOak have you actually read the Bible?! Or gotten off Facebook and met some feminist Muslims?

But this thread isn't about Islam it's about a fun charity race that was held in a public park and excluded women...

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 12/10/2025 20:04

SouthernFashionista · 12/10/2025 19:48

Well, there are Vegan Runners so 🤷🏿‍♀️

Which I also find bizarre - and I’m vegan

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 12/10/2025 20:09

EasternStandard · 12/10/2025 19:24

This is an interesting point and I’m inclined to agree.

But secularism in Britain can never be devoid of Christianity Christianity runs throughout our history (well for the past 1500 plus year) language, laws, institutions, norms, art, architecture, rituals, power structures , towns and language, in short our culture. Any religion in conflict with Christianity therefore conflicts with these things.

EasternStandard · 12/10/2025 20:17

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 12/10/2025 20:09

But secularism in Britain can never be devoid of Christianity Christianity runs throughout our history (well for the past 1500 plus year) language, laws, institutions, norms, art, architecture, rituals, power structures , towns and language, in short our culture. Any religion in conflict with Christianity therefore conflicts with these things.

Good point too.

Allisnotlost1 · 12/10/2025 20:18

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/10/2025 16:57

It's depressing when people would like to join in with other groups but are actively prevented from doing so because it is frown on by the 'community' they belong to.

Where has that been described in the thread? My own experience is that some people are prevented by their family or community from engaging in certain activities, and I agree that is depressing. But the response of ‘that’s depressing’ was in relation to a post that described something quite different.

ElmBeechOak · 12/10/2025 20:18

SundayAfternoonTea · 12/10/2025 20:00

@ElmBeechOak have you actually read the Bible?! Or gotten off Facebook and met some feminist Muslims?

But this thread isn't about Islam it's about a fun charity race that was held in a public park and excluded women...

Yes, I have read it through several times. Where do you think it says any of those things?

Allisnotlost1 · 12/10/2025 20:21

Apollo441 · 12/10/2025 19:17

Modern British culture is secularism but the enlightenment did 100% come from Christianity whose philosophy enabled it. Eventually this led to secularism but don't let your hostility to Christianity blind you to the truth.

The Enlightenment was both a reaction to a response from Christianity. Why pretend that Christianity has not itself been a barrier to progress in many forms? Or been deeply harmful to women?

coxesorangepippin · 12/10/2025 20:22

I grew up with @Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim and agree with everything.

Your privileged childhood in Stow on the Wold just doesn't merit an opinion on the matter tbh

Allisnotlost1 · 12/10/2025 20:23

ElmBeechOak · 12/10/2025 19:44

I wouldn't ban Islam either, because I believe in freedom of religion. But it is scripturally different from at least one other mainstream religion. I can only speak for Christianity.

Things the Muslim sources say about women that the Bible does not say

  1. Women are spiritually inferior and intellectually deficient.
    Sahih Muslim number 142, Sahih Al-Bukhari number 2658

  2. It is permissible to rape women you have captured in war.
    Qur’an Sura 23.1-6, 70.22-30

  3. Men can beat wives from whom they fear disobedience into submission. Qur’an Sura 4.34

  4. Men can marry girls under the age of puberty.

//It was narrated that Aisha said: 'The Prophet married me when I was six years old and consummated the marriage with me when I was nine years old.'//
We know from other sources that Aisha had not reached puberty at the time that Mohammed consummated the marriage. (Also that Aisha was his favourite wife.) Mohammed was 50 at the time of the marriage.
Sahih Muslim 3480 (also 3482)

Sura 33.21 says that Mohammed is the pattern of conduct for believers. Consequently child marriage is practised in some Islamic countries, such as Niger, South Sudan and Afghanistan.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/1226532/countries-with-the-highest-child-marriage-rate/

  1. A man can divorce a woman by saying 'I divorce you', but a woman has to have the consent of her husband, or else apply to a sharia court giving her reasons for wanting a divorce.
    https://www.roythorne.co.uk/site/blog/family-law-blog/an-overview-of-islamic-marriage-and-divorce

  2. Men can have sex with their female slaves.

"Prophet, We have made lawful to you the wives whom you have granted dowries and the slave girls whom God has given you as booty…"
Qur’an Sura 33.50

Mohammed had sex with a slave girl.
Kitab al-Tabaqat al-Kabir, page 151.

ETA:

Plus, as far as I know FGM is only practised in Muslim cultures.

I totally agree that we must have firm limits on what we are willing to accept in the UK in terms of how Islam is practised.

Edited

Unfortunately there is no religion that will not brutalise women and girls.

https://www.forwarduk.org.uk./who-we-work-with/faith-community-leaders/fgm-and-religion/

FGM and Religion - FORWARD

FGM is found in communities practising a variety of different religions, including Christianity, Islam and Judaism (Jews). Although FGM is not required by any mainstream religion, sometimes people mistakenly believe that it is their religious duty. Som...

https://www.forwarduk.org.uk/who-we-work-with/faith-community-leaders/fgm-and-religion/

Ponderingwindow · 12/10/2025 20:25

they shouldn’t be able to get park permits for an event that excludes adult women from full participation.

The exception would be if they were honest and had an event for a specific affinity group and only that group, not the general public. so have a gathering of men aged 40-50 to discuss your feelings of being men aged 40-50 and go for a run together, sure. That is very different.

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