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Muslim charity run

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Thomasina79 · 12/10/2025 08:10

Has banned women and girls over the age of 12 from participating. Thoughts?

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Another2Cats · 12/10/2025 12:03

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 08:54

I think you're just more sensitive to Islam. I remember some years ago hering that most of the forced marriage prevention charities deal with Hindus and Sikhs more than Muslims. Yet people rarely consider anyone but Muslims when it comes to so called honour based violence and forced marriage.

You're mistaken. According to the government Forced Marriage Unit, last year they dealt with 240 people (229 forced marriages and 11 FGM). The main countries involved were:

The ‘focus countries’ (other than the UK) with the highest number of cases in 2024 were:

  • Pakistan 107 cases (45%)
  • Bangladesh 30 cases (13%)
  • Afghanistan 16 cases (7%)
  • India 6 cases (3%)
  • Somalia 6 cases (3%)
  • Nigeria 5 cases (2%)
.

You'll notice from the above that Pakistan, Bangladesh and Afghanistan account for 65% (almost two thirds) of the cases.

Source:

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024

Forced Marriage Unit statistics 2024

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024

spannasaurus · 12/10/2025 12:05

To the posters who don't believe the race is discriminatory
if they had instead had a mens race and a separate under 12s children's race but no women's race would you consider that to be discrimination or not

Bumdrops · 12/10/2025 12:05

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 12:00

Omg your calling muslim women slaves.
How offensive and disgusting.
Moat of the muslim women I know would take big offense to this and have some really harsh words for you

I think the poster is not calling Muslim women slaves, but pointing out that the oppressed party cannot have a sufficient voice to overthrow the oppressor - and society has a responsibility to fight for equal rights across the board - no one should be excluded / discriminated against - that’s why we have protected characteristics

Another2Cats · 12/10/2025 12:05

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 08:57

Can you provide a source for that please? I’m strongly against religion affecting government policy or the law, and will object to any overlap, but the reason Islam is the focus at the moment is because it seems to be the predominant religious for trying to influence law, policy and freedom of speech.

Thankfully the poor man ‘convicted’ of burning a Koran was successful in his appeal this week, although the man who attacked him with a knife still didn’t get prison time.

She can't as she is simply wrong. Government figures show otherwise (see my post above)

Invinoveritaz · 12/10/2025 12:06

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 08:33

No i am not the organiser. I just don't think it is illegal or more noteworthy than what our British men are up to. If Muslim women are upset and require support to challenge this, then I am there with them. Doesn't seem like they mind unless you can point to Muslim women speaking about how problematic this is?

If not, I am sure they can join the thousands of organised running events we do have that welcome everyone.

If you read the DM article you will see that it is a Muslim woman who has been complaining and has flagged this up repeatedly.

HermioneWeasley · 12/10/2025 12:06

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 11:44

They can Co exist.
Muslim have their communities and rules you have yours. Their rules mostly affect their people not yours.
They are muslim. This is a muslim event.

Nope. In this country equality and freedom of speech are protected in law. Communities can’t have their own rules. If people want to live under sharia law and religious theocracies they have about 50 other countries to choose from.

inamarina · 12/10/2025 12:07

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 09:02

You know, I really hate that... "what about the Jews" it always happens and I wish it didn't.

I agree. There are four Million Muslims living in the UK, and bit more than quarter of a million Jews, not all of them orthodox either, yet you always get the „what about the orthodox Jews“ response.

Bumdrops · 12/10/2025 12:08

Another2Cats · 12/10/2025 12:03

You're mistaken. According to the government Forced Marriage Unit, last year they dealt with 240 people (229 forced marriages and 11 FGM). The main countries involved were:

The ‘focus countries’ (other than the UK) with the highest number of cases in 2024 were:

  • Pakistan 107 cases (45%)
  • Bangladesh 30 cases (13%)
  • Afghanistan 16 cases (7%)
  • India 6 cases (3%)
  • Somalia 6 cases (3%)
  • Nigeria 5 cases (2%)
.

You'll notice from the above that Pakistan, Bangladesh and Afghanistan account for 65% (almost two thirds) of the cases.

Source:

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024/forced-marriage-unit-statistics-2024

Indeed. @ThatSpryShaker evidenced that this view is based on her own London girls school - aka her own echo chamber

ERthree · 12/10/2025 12:08

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 10:37

I can't believe that a group of non-Muslim women want to crash a race of a demographic that notoriously have low participation in sport without the women of said group leading the efforts.

It isn't only about Muslim women participating in this sport, it is about the laws of this country being upheld by everyone no matter what their religion or beliefs.

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 12:10

Screamingabdabz · 12/10/2025 10:52

What do ‘they’ see them as then? Why is it too dangerous and inflaming to the frothing uncontrolled passions of Muslim men to let them run in a charity race if they want to? Why do men get to make that decision for them?

Tbf muslims do have a big emphasis on gender segregation due to the possibility of attraction,temptation etc.
Better to be safe than sorry etc.
Same like that in the orthodox jewish community as well as it goes.
I wouldn't necessarily see that as them seeing 13 and over as "fair game" in fact I would say it s trying to prevent fair game.
There I said it as others are too scared to

inamarina · 12/10/2025 12:10

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:03

What if you found out that women were instrumental in deciding the entry criteria?

Why should some women get to decide for other women whether they can take part in a race?

spannasaurus · 12/10/2025 12:12

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 12:10

Tbf muslims do have a big emphasis on gender segregation due to the possibility of attraction,temptation etc.
Better to be safe than sorry etc.
Same like that in the orthodox jewish community as well as it goes.
I wouldn't necessarily see that as them seeing 13 and over as "fair game" in fact I would say it s trying to prevent fair game.
There I said it as others are too scared to

Are you saying that Muslim men can't be trusted to not sexually abuse girls unless they are segregated from them.

Another2Cats · 12/10/2025 12:12

ThatSpryShaker · 12/10/2025 09:03

What if you found out that women were instrumental in deciding the entry criteria?

What does that have to do with anything? It still doesn't make it lawful.

To take another example, what if you found that women were instrumental in deciding that trans-identifying men should become members of the WI?

Would that make any difference to it being lawful or not?

Tessisme · 12/10/2025 12:13

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 11:57

True but as someone else said this happens in grass roots football as well.
Sometimes kids will mix genders at a young age then at a certain age they won't

I imagine that has more to do with competition. This is a charity run. In football, there is bound to be a point where the sexes don’t mix anymore due to the physical advantage boys/men have over girls/women in terms of speed and strength. That’s why there are separate sports events for each sex. Again, this is a charity run. No competition. No need to be excluding anyone.

Toofficeornot · 12/10/2025 12:13

inamarina · 12/10/2025 12:10

Why should some women get to decide for other women whether they can take part in a race?

By your logic then trans people can take part in any gender race and in fact anyone can take part in any gender sports events they wish to. Mike Tyson can enter a womens boxing match.

Ansjovis · 12/10/2025 12:14

Hereforthecommentz · 12/10/2025 11:52

What a load of nonsense and whataboutism. I'm a runner, I've never been harrased, when you have earphones on and getting on with your run how can you be harassed. I find running brings the best out of everyone, most people say good morning when you run past them. My child 14 is a sprinter I think it's a real shame Muslim girls do not partake. They have to cover up, it doesn't bode well for running where you get very hot. I've not seen any Muslim girls at any of her running events. Her best friend is a Muslim and she feels uncomfortable going swimming with them in summer because she feels the odd one out as she has to wear a burkini and cover up and they all wear bikinis, the girls don't care but it's the point she feels different. All because they are made to feel shame about their bodies. It's not a nice culture for women.

"when you have earphones and getting on with your run how can you be harassed"

Err, pretty easily actually. Just because I didn't hear what the idiot said who wound down the window of his van, looked right at me and made an offensive gesture and facial expression, doesn't mean that his actions were neutral. I'm genuinely pleased for you if you've never been fearful as a result of male attention whilst running but please do not claim that this means it never happens.

When it comes to Muslim women and girls I am always pleased to see hijabis participating in my local parkrun, some of them taking part as a whole family. Wearing a hijab does not mean that a woman/girl is unable to run so it's pretty disappointing that there are places where exclusion is by design.

Bumdrops · 12/10/2025 12:15

spannasaurus · 12/10/2025 12:12

Are you saying that Muslim men can't be trusted to not sexually abuse girls unless they are segregated from them.

And if that is the suggestion, then what is the logic of girls / women being able to attend this event. Cheer on the males. But not run

so 12 and over females can’t run because they may have something jiggling ???

none of it makes any sense …. Other than control. Of girls / women for the benefit of males.

Bigpinksweater · 12/10/2025 12:16

Toofficeornot · 12/10/2025 12:13

By your logic then trans people can take part in any gender race and in fact anyone can take part in any gender sports events they wish to. Mike Tyson can enter a womens boxing match.

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What physical risk if there from men and women running together?

InsectsMatter · 12/10/2025 12:16

Why does Islam hate women so much?

DrBlackbird · 12/10/2025 12:17

ParmaVioletTea · 12/10/2025 11:36

I share your discomfort @DrBlackbird Added to which, I’m increasingly uncomfortable with the open anti-Semitism which goes alongside growing acceptance of Islamist ideas which oppress women.

And yet, Muslim women have as much right to dress as they please as I do. Who am I to say they’re wrong?

Except that they are ….

Countries need immigration. People need to have the opportunity that being able to immigrate brings. I am an immigrant myself from a country based on immigration. But it cannot be racist to acknowledge that immigrants bring cultural norms, practices and values with them when they move to a new country. Those norms serve some but not all.

Having always been a ‘leftie’ and adopting a live and let live perspective (granted having grown up in naice area) but I’m feeling a lot of cognitive dissonance now. Wishing to remain tolerant on the one hand, yet accepting that social ‘values’ - uncomfortable to me - can visibly change. Specifically, due to increases in immigrants from strict Islamic communities where women have to wear the Burqa and can only leave the house in the company of men.

I’m also very concerned about the rise in antisemitism, but it is those cultural or religious practices in relation to women that concern me the most. We would all agree that FGM is an abhorrent cultural practice. Maybe finding the exclusion of women and girls over 12 from a charity race problematic is not a factor of Islam per se but how the religion is yet one more mediating mechanism that oppresses women. Yet seemingly it’s hard to challenge because to do so results in either accusations of or feelings of racism.

It’s troubling.

freshpyjamas · 12/10/2025 12:17

Islam is an oppressor of women.

The sooner people wake up and recognise that out loud, the better.

Hadmysay · 12/10/2025 12:20

BundleBoogie · 12/10/2025 10:55

Many proponents of Islam do sr them as fair game though.

See mainly Pakistani Muslim men grooming and raping underage white girls in towns across the UK.

See also the recent reduction in age of consent to 9 in Iraq. Some proponents of Islam are going backwards.

Pakistanis aren't the only muslims in the uk.
I find it funny how first the grooming gangs were seen as asians,then pakistani now we see muslims as the face of grooming gangs due to media gb news,dailymail etc even though it was mainly one group.
Pakistanis.

KarminaBurana · 12/10/2025 12:20

inamarina · 12/10/2025 12:07

I agree. There are four Million Muslims living in the UK, and bit more than quarter of a million Jews, not all of them orthodox either, yet you always get the „what about the orthodox Jews“ response.

I find it concerning. I've lived in 3 North London boroughs and 2 very diverse northern cities. I have only come across a tiny number of Orthodox Jews. I don't think their practices impact on the wider population, although no doubt someone will find a story which contradicts that...🤔

BunfightBetty · 12/10/2025 12:22

Brainworm · 12/10/2025 10:17

@ProfoundlyPeculiarAndWeird, when you state ’I want to live in a society in which religious people with values different from mine can live in accordance with their beliefs, even if they are distasteful to me’, I presume you distinguish between what you find distasteful, and what is unlawful?

Where do you draw the line? I presume you aren’t in favour of those wanting to practice forced marriage or FGM being able to live their life in accordance with their religious beliefs. There are many who believe there are religious laws underpinning these practices and others who state this is not the case.

I think it is entirely legitimate for people to call out any religious group or cultural community who exclude or even discourage any vulnerable or oppressed group from participating in any activities known to improve quality of life. Failing to do so is regressive. I am amazed at how many people think it is progressive to accept oppressive behaviour from those classified as oppressed.

It is damaging and dangerous, and becoming more and more commonplace, to label those who are seeking a set of ‘human’ values and norms to be signed up to by all citizens of the UK, as bigots and far right. Many like me, will never be pushed right, let alone far right, but I am alienated by those on the left spouting oppressive views whilst believing they are progressive.

I do think it is unacceptable for any community or citizen in the UK to operate in a way that denies opportunities to females - or disabled people, or gay people etc. I think they should have freedom of thought, and freedom of expression, but not be able to act in ways that denies others equality of opportunity.

Absolutely.

zanahoria · 12/10/2025 12:22

Tessisme · 12/10/2025 12:13

I imagine that has more to do with competition. This is a charity run. In football, there is bound to be a point where the sexes don’t mix anymore due to the physical advantage boys/men have over girls/women in terms of speed and strength. That’s why there are separate sports events for each sex. Again, this is a charity run. No competition. No need to be excluding anyone.

and it is meant to be fun

Women can only join in the fun by cheering on

It is meant to be family event, woman are a part of families.

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