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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

TRA Trolls - can we just say NO?

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BlueEyedBogWitch · 06/10/2025 08:24

A full thread of NO’s might be more powerful than trying to reason with someone who is not interested in reason.

Just one ‘NO’ each, until they get bored and go away. Every time.

After all, it sums up our arguments very succinctly.

OP posts:
Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:17

ArabellaSaurus · 08/10/2025 19:12

So women can in some instances have single sex spaces and thats cool?

Happy days!

I've always said I believe their are circumstances where it is proportionate to limit certain services by birth sex , in the same way we might have a service just for black women( or just for lesbians, etc.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:17

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:10

However there's nothing wrong with being transphobic, so it doesn't matter if it is or not.

thank you for your honesty.

Well until you can define what trans is, no one can be transphobic, so it’s a meaningless word. What is transphobia? Is it saying no to trans people? Is it women refusing to give up their sex based rights? Who knows. It has no meaning.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/10/2025 19:18

ArabellaSaurus · 08/10/2025 19:15

This post is mischaracterising people, assigning motives that are untrue, smearing, maligning, insulting, and making false accusations and assertions.

It’s also breathtaking DARVO. The pp has themselves had posts deleted multiple times for breaking talk guidelines, but there you go.

Helleofabore · 08/10/2025 19:18

Tandora · 08/10/2025 18:52

It's a logical fallacy because in order to answer it I would have to accept its inbuilt assumption that your position on trans issues (exclusion) is somehow justified by the "needs" of "women" and to preserve "single sex" spaces.
In other words this is taken as given and then my only choice is to answer whether I believe that to be transphobic or not.
Logical fallacy.

And yet, these are words, ‘anti-trans’ and ‘transphobic’, that you accuse others of being frequently. Yet you now declare that you answering a question about your use of these words is fallacious.

You could have said, not really, because… and explained in depth. But instead you chose to deflect in this way and then accuse me of controlling behaviour. Plus ca change.

And no Tandora, I have asked you questions for years, asked to see your evidence, because I have sought to understand your position. Your answers over the past week have not clarified your position. And you still constantly accuse others of being ‘anti-trans’ and ‘transphobic’.

ArabellaSaurus · 08/10/2025 19:18

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:17

I've always said I believe their are circumstances where it is proportionate to limit certain services by birth sex , in the same way we might have a service just for black women( or just for lesbians, etc.

Great. I had not ever heard that. So you're in line with the SSEs in the EA. Cool! Glad we've found some common ground.

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:20

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Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

You are right, it's completely pointless - there's absolutely nothing I could do or say that would make an iota of difference . It just concerns me that new people come in and become radicalised.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:20

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:17

I've always said I believe their are circumstances where it is proportionate to limit certain services by birth sex , in the same way we might have a service just for black women( or just for lesbians, etc.

Yes. It’s proportionate to allow women single sex spaces This means you understand transwomen are not women and don’t belong in them. So yay. We got there. All spaces labelled women only therefore exclude males as they are not women.

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:20

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:17

Well until you can define what trans is, no one can be transphobic, so it’s a meaningless word. What is transphobia? Is it saying no to trans people? Is it women refusing to give up their sex based rights? Who knows. It has no meaning.

It just means you disagree with any of the trans beliefs. Therefore it's not a problem to be transphobic.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:21

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:20

It just means you disagree with any of the trans beliefs. Therefore it's not a problem to be transphobic.

Exactly. Until someone can define trans, I refuse to be labelled transphobic as I can’t be afraid of something I can’t define.

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:22

Bombshelter · 08/10/2025 19:16

do you realise that many sportswomen postulate that that will mean that the great strides that have been made in recent years in equalising the prominence of women’s sport will be undone?

Well I disagree with them. As long as we have a simple division based on sex I believe women's sports will always continue to be seen as lesser / inferior to men's and women's athletic ability continue to be denigrated.

Bombshelter · 08/10/2025 19:23

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:17

I've always said I believe their are circumstances where it is proportionate to limit certain services by birth sex , in the same way we might have a service just for black women( or just for lesbians, etc.

And what are those circumstances ?

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:23

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:20

It just means you disagree with any of the trans beliefs. Therefore it's not a problem to be transphobic.

Thank you for your honesty.

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:25

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:21

Exactly. Until someone can define trans, I refuse to be labelled transphobic as I can’t be afraid of something I can’t define.

Same principle but opposite view, I'll gladly accept being called transphobic, as it means the person saying that has no further argument to make and has resorted to pointing out that I don't believe in their beliefs. Which is true.

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:25

Bombshelter · 08/10/2025 19:23

And what are those circumstances ?

Could be a range of things - Specialist rape crisis support potentially. Particular mental or physical health services.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:25

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:22

Well I disagree with them. As long as we have a simple division based on sex I believe women's sports will always continue to be seen as lesser / inferior to men's and women's athletic ability continue to be denigrated.

So how are we doing the divisions if not by sex? Gender? But then what about non binary people? Where do they go? Won’t this mean trans identified females will have no hope of ever winning competitions?

nah, sex is the fairest way. Sorted

ArabellaSaurus · 08/10/2025 19:25

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:20

Yes. It’s proportionate to allow women single sex spaces This means you understand transwomen are not women and don’t belong in them. So yay. We got there. All spaces labelled women only therefore exclude males as they are not women.

I'm very heartened to find single sex spaces are supported by so many. After all that Sturm and Drang, I think the Supreme Court judgement is settling in.

It's very straightforward common sense, after all.

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:26

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:21

Exactly. Until someone can define trans, I refuse to be labelled transphobic as I can’t be afraid of something I can’t define.

Right. In your world nothing is transphobic.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:27

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:25

Could be a range of things - Specialist rape crisis support potentially. Particular mental or physical health services.

nah,any space deemed for women only must therefore exclude males as a male is not a woman. A woman is an adult human female. Not someone male who “believes” they’re female.

murasaki · 08/10/2025 19:27

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:22

Well I disagree with them. As long as we have a simple division based on sex I believe women's sports will always continue to be seen as lesser / inferior to men's and women's athletic ability continue to be denigrated.

Well that's ridiculous. No women would be picked for a men's cricket team they can't hit the ball as far or bowl as fast due to biology. So it wouldn't be a mixed team. As it is they can play an entertaining skilful game of cricket.

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:28

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:23

Thank you for your honesty.

Ok. Hopefully the conversation can move on now from what is and isn't transphobic, and back onto things that matter.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/10/2025 19:28

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:26

Right. In your world nothing is transphobic.

There are things that you could categorise as “transphobia” but I think it’s mostly based on homophobia. It doesn’t include saying no when people say men should be classed as women.

Helleofabore · 08/10/2025 19:29

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:06

So for sports I think it would be much better for everyone , especially women, if we developed a broader range of more nuanced categories .

Also, I think the trans issue is a complete irrelevance/ distraction regarding sports.
competitions already have rules re hormone treatments etc, and there are exceptionally few trans women participating in women's sports in general, especially at a professional level

Edited

We have already had threads about your unrealistic theories on how to recategorise sports. It has also been pointed out to you that the sports experts have also had these discussions in depth over the years and one by one the sporting federations have come to the conclusions that there is no ‘better’ categorisation needed in the female sports category than we have already.

And it is a falsity to declare that ‘it is only a few’ so not relevant. It only takes 2 or 3 male people to displace 2000 or more female athletes along the way just for national level competition in some countries. It is not ‘irrelevant’ at all.

By all means, happy to keep discussing, however all you ever did was come up with statements like ‘there must be a better way’ while refusing to accept that for competitive sports there is no ‘more nuanced’ categories needed for female sports.

Mixed sex sports, fine. Specific categories for specific ‘nuanced’ needs, sure. Restructuring the Female Sports categories to allow male people to participate in those categories. No, I don’t agree and I don’t believe the sporting federations agree with you either.

Namelessnelly · 08/10/2025 19:29

Tandora · 08/10/2025 19:26

Right. In your world nothing is transphobic.

Well how can it be? If you can’t define trans, how can anything be transphobic? Abd what even is transphobia? I mean, if it’s saying no to males wanting to access female spaces, then surely the males are misogynistic by saying no to women who want single sex spaces. So therefore all trans identified males , and those campaigning to allow them to access female spaces are misogynistic.

murasaki · 08/10/2025 19:29

And the England women's rugby team is currently considerably better and more entertaining than the mens. None of them would get picked in a male team, and it's a bloody good thing too. Ellie Kildunne spent 12 days out on the concussion step in the world cup. Now if a man had tackled her it could have been so much worse.

eatfigs · 08/10/2025 19:29

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/10/2025 19:28

There are things that you could categorise as “transphobia” but I think it’s mostly based on homophobia. It doesn’t include saying no when people say men should be classed as women.

Sorry but, in practice, yes it does. Almost always, this is how the term is being applied.

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