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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

TRA Trolls - can we just say NO?

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BlueEyedBogWitch · 06/10/2025 08:24

A full thread of NO’s might be more powerful than trying to reason with someone who is not interested in reason.

Just one ‘NO’ each, until they get bored and go away. Every time.

After all, it sums up our arguments very succinctly.

OP posts:
FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 20:59

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:35

No. Because I don't think that's a reasonable characterisation of the position of people who recognise transness.

There are multiple contrasting belief systems around how trans people should be treated in society - those are properly described as belief systems.

Yes. One of them is a belief system that demands that trans people's gender identity - self knowldge that is undefinable, undetectable and unfalsifiable - be prioritised over the physical sex of their body when it comes to single sex language, rights, provisions and opportunities, while simultaneously requiring that trans people's beliefs about gender override everyone else's own self knowledge!! That one is a real doozy, right?

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:01

SionnachRuadh · 09/10/2025 20:47

EXCUSE ME, I've repeatedly asked you simple questions and just got deflections, dodging and cherrypicking of half sentences.

And now you have the gall, you have the ALMIGHTY CRUST, to accuse anyone else of taking YOU out of context? Of not parsing your pearls of wisdom with sufficient attention?

While you've been hogging this thread with your philosophical bloviations, while sneering at SA survivors whose experience is beneath you?

You're a bloke. Nothing will convince me otherwise.

Me neither. The shark is being jumped many times, but the one that did it for me was men have exactly the same issues as women, when women's biological functions fail because men don't have those biological functions.

AGP writ large

Tandora · 09/10/2025 21:01

eatfigs · 09/10/2025 20:56

If you like we can discuss on a future thread if this fills up too quickly, I feel it's been an interesting conversation even though we have talked past each other at times.

Let's do that. I've actually genuinely appreciated talking to you.

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:02

Tandora · 09/10/2025 20:52

Everyone has to manage to live together, everyone needs accessible services, the only way is for gender ideologists to tolerate that some of those services exist for those women and leave them alone. End of issue.

I mean.... the other side of that would be to say, that GC feminists are going to have to realise that they don't have the entitlement to throw trans people out of public facilities . End of issue.

😂

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:02

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:51

I've had the odd person occasionally deface questionnaires I've written - that's true. I've never been called transphobic by a trans person in real life or on reddit. It's true, however, that I don't tend to spend my time lecturing trans people on what it is to be trans. I mostly ask questions and listen.

I mostly ask questions and listen

Ah, a trans woman's perfect cis woman ❤

murasaki · 09/10/2025 21:03

I still can't get past the abhorrent behaviour toward posters such as Taztoy and Bombshelter, amongst others.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 09/10/2025 21:03

Tandora · 09/10/2025 21:01

Let's do that. I've actually genuinely appreciated talking to you.

Brilliant. I see that thread you proposed/threatened is forthcoming. Good news indeed.

NotAtMyAge · 09/10/2025 21:06

Tandora · 09/10/2025 19:40

😪

You sympathy is noted but unnecessary, Tandora. 😉I had never before had the good fortune to find an online space where such a number of fiercely intelligent, highly professionally-qualified and perceptive women choose to congregate and debate issues which really matter to me. No wonder I keep coming back.

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:08

As an aside, I'd like a little bit of sympathy for the fact that I'm just like an impotent man, because I can't get an erection

murasaki · 09/10/2025 21:09

FirstCuppa · 09/10/2025 20:54

They've come back like a perpetual verruca in this last week. Have they all come back from Turkey BPGOF ops or something? Why the sudden rush to MN to police us again - is this something the Green Party are now funding? Already pissed they took over the Lib Dems but now they're trying to tell us about fucking MAFS UK - for so small at % of the population they really are joy hoovers.

That was an interesting invasion. Having contributed nothing to the deep pool of analysis and humour that are the MAFS threads, they arrived like pondscum. Hopefully to be skimmed off soon.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:09

Tandora · 09/10/2025 18:58

But that's your construction of what people believe, it's not actually what people are saying at all.

When you say that a trans women's gender identity should give her access to resources that her body sex would not, that is exactly what you are saying.

When you say that a trans women's gender identity makes her a woman when her sex would not, that is exactly what you are saying.

When you tell women they should understand that a trans women is a woman like them when his sex means he is not, that is exactly what you are saying.

We can all see you are resorting to "No it's not that" again, but just own it Tandora. You've argued - well asserted anyway - passionately for all the above. Why so shy now?

bonfireoftheverities · 09/10/2025 21:11

NotAtMyAge · 09/10/2025 21:06

You sympathy is noted but unnecessary, Tandora. 😉I had never before had the good fortune to find an online space where such a number of fiercely intelligent, highly professionally-qualified and perceptive women choose to congregate and debate issues which really matter to me. No wonder I keep coming back.

...and part of what makes it great is not saying no (as per the thread title); drawing people like Tandora in to expose their incoherence.

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:12

bonfireoftheverities · 09/10/2025 21:11

...and part of what makes it great is not saying no (as per the thread title); drawing people like Tandora in to expose their incoherence.

Operation: let them speak.

Never fails

Alucard55 · 09/10/2025 21:12

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:02

I mostly ask questions and listen

Ah, a trans woman's perfect cis woman ❤

Well she definitely doesn't ANSWER any questions.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 09/10/2025 21:14

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:12

Operation: let them speak.

Never fails

I sometimes entertain that Tandora is actually the most GC person alive undercover, as her batshit crazy posts do all the heavy lifting for those against rabid trans ideology.

NotAtMyAge · 09/10/2025 21:14

Tandora · 09/10/2025 19:42

See maybe what saved me is I already knew a lot about trans people / being trans before that political argument / proposed policy reform and joining mumsnet.

I was a radical feminist too. If I had never studied this issue extensively in the real world, maybe the same would have happene.

Yet you still can't put into words exactly what it means to be trans in a way others who lack that experience can understand and analyse, nor do you appear to grasp why women might be so unhappy at the entry of trans-identifying men into our single-sex spaces, services and sports.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:18

Tandora · 09/10/2025 19:21

I have no doubt it felt that way if you were unable to follow the logic of the conversation.

Oh Tandora, we follow your thinking just fine.

We just think it's terribly terribly facile.

"How do you know you are a woman? Maybe it's not your body at all! Maybe it's really a special gland in your brain secreting the self knowledge of womanhod and some of the people you think are men actually have it too! Didchaevethinkof thatthen? Didcha? Bet you wish you were as openminded and visionary as me, you sad dull women worrying about toilets and childcare and anti-women politics and the injustice of marginalising women's voices"

You'll be asking us next if we've ever considered we might not all perceive colours the same way!

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:24

Tandora · 09/10/2025 19:15

you would probably hold the belief that this patient is a woman because of expressing a female gender identity, whereas I would view him as a man because he's of the male sex

See to me these are just words - and yes, I suppose to the extent that people are invested in these words then yes they are both belief systems.

I don't have a belief system around that.

To me what matters is describing what is actually true/ exists. - this is a person who has some observable male physical characteristics/ traits, but nonetheless recognises/ understands themself to be female.

Then there is the question of how we should treat that person. Should we treat them according to how they understand themselves? or according to the rules of social convention based on what we can observe about their physical traits?
Well that is a values based question - also informed by the perceived consequences of each course of action.

Then of course there is the question about how we understand this type of experience/ being - what causes it? When we think about that we realise that of course the human body is so much more than the things that we can observe. And then this is a longer conversation...

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Then there is the question of how we should treat that person. Should we treat them according to how they understand themselves? or according to the rules of social convention based on what we can observe about their physical traits?
Well that is a values based question - also informed by the perceived consequences of each course of action.

Consequences that, of course, impact more than just him.

Because if you accept that his expereince is just another way to be a woman, you unwrite the significance of the female body to the experiences and history and challenges of women, and instead group us artbitrarily with some men that we don't see any commonality with simply because he feels we do.

And if you accept he should be accomodated in women-only spaces, take women's opportunities, speak as a represententative of woman from his own male-embodied experience about what women need, you take these things away from women who may have their own needs and reasons that are embodied in their experiences as female.

But you don't care about that.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 09/10/2025 21:27

Tandora · 09/10/2025 19:33

Yes I do find it amusing when people express outrage at me being rude to a poster.
Yet, when I point out that my rudeness was only in response to hers, they declare that they "don't care!" if she was rude.

How would you prefer me to react to that to properly demonstrate that I am a good little woman with appropriate amounts of empathy for all you more important woman who have been through so much more than I could ever possible imagine (despite also being a woman).

Don'y worry, we see very clearly that you are very much a good little woman with appropriate amounts of empathy for all the important women (the male ones).

It's a shame you have none left over for the female ones, but we know where your priorities lie.

Plastictreees · 09/10/2025 21:27

murasaki · 09/10/2025 21:03

I still can't get past the abhorrent behaviour toward posters such as Taztoy and Bombshelter, amongst others.

Oh, get a grip. Take a look at your own abhorrent behaviour. No self awareness whatsoever.

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:28

Tandora · 09/10/2025 17:56

I'm very sorry that you went through this.

A transwoman would not have your experience. I have never had your experience. Many women never will have had this experience - for a wide range of reasons.

We all have our own experiences - some of them truly awful. There is no reason to dismiss transwomen because they don't share your experience.

Edited

Totally.

I hope you don't dismiss my nervousness about not going for a prostate exam. Many men don't go, and I'm not going either, I totally understand why they feel nervous about it and decline.

Please don't dismiss me just because my experience is not identical.

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:30

Yes I do find it amusing when people express outrage at me being rude to a poster

I bet

NotAtMyAge · 09/10/2025 21:34

Tandora · 09/10/2025 20:52

Everyone has to manage to live together, everyone needs accessible services, the only way is for gender ideologists to tolerate that some of those services exist for those women and leave them alone. End of issue.

I mean.... the other side of that would be to say, that GC feminists are going to have to realise that they don't have the entitlement to throw trans people out of public facilities . End of issue.

I mean.... the other side of that would be to say, that GC feminists are going to have to realise that they don't have the entitlement to throw trans people out of public facilities . End of issue.

We don't need to throw trans people out of public facilities, nor would we want to. The Supreme Court has confirmed that the law says that they can use public facilities just like everyone else - but those of their own biological sex, not the other, or failing that, gender-neutral ones.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 09/10/2025 21:34

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:28

Totally.

I hope you don't dismiss my nervousness about not going for a prostate exam. Many men don't go, and I'm not going either, I totally understand why they feel nervous about it and decline.

Please don't dismiss me just because my experience is not identical.

🤣

Datun · 09/10/2025 21:38

NotAtMyAge · 09/10/2025 21:34

I mean.... the other side of that would be to say, that GC feminists are going to have to realise that they don't have the entitlement to throw trans people out of public facilities . End of issue.

We don't need to throw trans people out of public facilities, nor would we want to. The Supreme Court has confirmed that the law says that they can use public facilities just like everyone else - but those of their own biological sex, not the other, or failing that, gender-neutral ones.

Sounds like Tandora isn't aware of the Supreme Court ruling.

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